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Melva,
Since I have been away for a few days, i haven't really read all of the posts.   I agree so much with you that there are so many reasons to live for.  I was close to 300 pounds when I started my journey, but health was declining very quickly.    Right before my husband deployed in 2008, my daddy committed suicide.   Between September 2008 to January 2009, I gained 40 pounds due to stress.   My new doctor told me that I had to find a better way to cope or I would eat myself to an early grave.    I didn't even realize I was eating so much at the time.    I tried for a while to get it off.   I decided on surgery and TriCare (my insurance) had my approval in no time.    I had a whirlwind journey to surgery, and thought I had full support of my husband.   I had mentioned many times to my mom that I wanted surgery and she was always opposed, until this time.   I asked her what changed, she said my reasons were for the right ones this time, and now she felt I was making the decision based on research and health, not vanity.  She became my biggest supporter.   

He was gone when I had the surgery, and offered to wait until he was back, but financially, it was better if i had while he was gone.   My husband gave me his two thumbs up and was behind, UNTIL my surgery got scheduled.   Then I became selfish and inconsiderate of the rest of the family.  

My kids were against the surgery, but they were scared.  Momma was going to have surgery, and they had been through so many deaths the year before, it made sense that they were scared.    Once they realized that I was going to live, and how much better life was going to be, they moved over to my supporter list.  I have three kids ages 11, 6, and 4.     They helped my mom take care of me post opt.   They know what I can and cannot eat.   If I fall off track, they gently try to keep me on track.    They remind me all the time how much weight I am losing and how proud they are.   if I dump which has only been twice, they try to take care of me.    Now that they have seen a dumping episode (both were accidents), they understand when I say no.   Before they accepted my answer, but didn't get it.  Now they get it.    

My husband on the other hand refused to acknowledge my surgery.     He doesn't do anything to sabatoge it, nor does he try to get me to eat things I can't.    However, he does refuse to be a supporter.   After losing 60 pounds, he had the nerve to tell my surgeon at a Christmas party that I can't tell I lost any weight.  My surgeon put him in his place very quickly.    Two weeks ago, was the first time that he admitted he can tell I lost weight.   He says he told me I look good, but he did not.    We saw my aunt last weekend, and she was going on and on about how great I looked and sat there mad and wouldn't even talk to her about it.   I love my husband, and he has many issues that need to be addressed, but I decided I can't validate myself based on what he says.  

I know and you know, we did not take the easy way out, and our husbands would know if they paid any attention to how hard we are having to work at it.     This is the long way to say I understand what you are going through with your husband and his lack of support.   If you need talk about it, I am here.

Feb 8   2010 - 271.5
Feb 9   2010 - 266
Feb 10  2010 - 263.5
Feb 11  2010 - 262.5
Feb 12  2010 - 262 1st weigh in day
Feb 13  2010 - 262
Feb 14  2010 - 262
Feb 15  2010 - 263  
Feb 16  2010 - 263
Feb 17  2010 - 262
Feb 18  2010 - 261.5
Feb 19  2010 - 262.5  weigh & Graph day
Feb 20  2010 - 263.5
Feb 21  2010 - 264
Feb 22  2010 - 265 
Feb 23  2010 - 261.5   
Feb 24  2010 - 261  
Feb 25  2010 - 261.5
Feb 26  2010 - 261  W & G day, down1.5 lbs
Feb 27  2010 - 259.5 
Feb 28  2010 - 261
Mar  01 2010 - 261.5

I think 5 pounds a month seems very realistic and attainable.  You are working Beck's very hard and may surprise yourself and lose more than that a month. 

I am back, and feeling better.    I moved on to Day 25 today.    I am ready to push forward.    I didn't lose any weight this week, but I am not that disappointed.  Since surgery, mother nature has decided to show her presence more often than I like.    I know it is a good thing, but it is still not consistent, so it happens every 2-4 weeks, this time it has only been 3 weeks.  

Now that everyone is over the stomach bug, the family is feeling better.   The other issues are calming down as well.   I have been doing a Bible study at a new church on the Love Dare..   I didn't think my husband was really reacting to it, but I was talking to the pastor and he said the things seems like it may be reaching him.   I had not looked at the way he did, but was glad to hear his prospective.   I do know my husband has calmed down some, probably the first time since he got back.  I am going to keep working on myself and hope it rubs off on him.

I went to a WLS support this weekend.    They gave a tip on breakfast.    She said to get the Kroger Carbmaster yogurt, Vanilla or Strawberry and mix a half-scoop of protein powder in it and it is great breakfast.   I have chocolate protein powder and that is what I have been mixing the past two days.  Once in the strawberry and the other in vanilla, oh my, it was so good.   I dont even like yogurt but this is something I can do almost every day.  

Beverley - That "thing" between our ears needs to be lined up a lot   It's what made us fat and it is the secret to making us thin

WE CAN DO THIS TOGETHER - YES WE CAN