Negativity - Can you change it?

This is a little off-topic, but I think could be relative as we make changes to ourselves.

I have been on a path to change myself from the inside out, and outside in.   For a long time, I never liked who I was and decided I was gonig to start liking me for me.    Growing up, I was always a negative person and carried over to my adulthood.   When I got married, I never looked at my husband as a negative person.   Of the two of us, he was always the more positive pleasant person.    However,  I have been working on me, and focusing on the positive.   I still deal with the negatives if it is necessary, but I don't dwell on them.    We were discussing an issue about our son last night, one that I didn't think required arguing or negativity, and I realized just how negative he was.    Is it possible that he was always negative and I never noticed until I changed?   I know a negative person can bring you down, but can a positive person bring you up?   I guess what I am saying is,  Can my postive changes eventually wear off on him or will his negativity ultimately win at pulling me back down?   

--April

April,

I believe you are doing the right thing, work on your negative behaviors in a positive way, when your family See's the positive attitude it will make them respond more positively. Speaking of our children, have you noticed they act as we do, if you are negative they are negative, if you are positive they are too, they mimic what they see. The important thing is your positivity will ultimately wear off on him.

Here is something I have done before, I went on a fast for 1 month. a fast is not doing or eating something, for a period of time. I am not talking about food  I am talking about fasting from any negative behavior or thoughts. After 1 month you should  notice a difference for the better  which is positivity.

You can do it, we will be here to support you...

Melva

April, I completely agree with Melva. You might even want to make some Positive Response cards, once that relate to both your and his negative talk. The fasting is a great idea, even if you just do it for a weekend.

Thanks Melva and Bev....I like the idea of response cards for this.    I think I could use them in almost every aspect that I am trying to change.   

I am leaving in the morning to go out of town for a couple of days for training with the FRG (Family Readiness Group for the National Guard).    I will be taking my laptop, but not sure how much time I will have to spend on it.    Hopefully, I can check in.  If not, I will be back on Monday.

I am winding down my last few days on Beck, and I am actually excited to start it over.   I think the second time will really make it sink in. 

Have a great weekend

--April

Have a great weekend April see you when you get back.

Have a safe trip I am also leaving on Sunday I will be gone for 1 week I will be resting so I will be on BDS

Melva

Melva Have a very relaxing and safe hoilday!