Coping

Has anyone had the issue of  wanting to eat just because?

I Been doing fine on meals, planning, and all of the other coping techniques we have been taught in the BDS. For some reason I keep wanting to eat off my plan taste as I am cooking and getting mad when I talk myself out of sabatoging myself.

What do you all do, does anyone have these issues and if so what do you do about it. cold water does work  but I would like some other ways to cope, I don't want to get tired of only doing the water.

On a good note I have lost  10#'s since strting the prep I have not been on the scale for last 2 days I do not wanna see the weight fluctuations and become discouraged. Overall I have been doing well, if I must pat myself on the back..LOL

Melva
 

Oh yah, eat just because I can, eat just because I want it, eat just because I forgot and just because I don't need an excuse LOL. But we are working on changing that right!

Have you tried chewing gum, using your Advantage list or Response Cards.

Melva, don't be too hard on yourself it takes time to break habits we have done for years, the good thing here is you are recognising that you are doing it. When you recognise it then you can eventually make the change 100%. " You can fix it if you don't acknowledge its broke".

10 pounds is awesome, don’t let that scale scare you its just a number, it's a

Tomorrow is my weekly weigh in and graph day.

tool that provides data you can use to guide your eating.

                                       We Can Do It !!!!!   

Some days are easy and some are hard and tha will always be the case.  Some days I have to repeat to myself over and over and over again - Hunger DOES NOT = emergency.

Now none of us would admit to ourselves or others that we believe we will die if we do not eat when we are craving (and they are cravings - few of us know anything about real "tummy hunger" but we sure know a whole lot about head hunger - our problem is about .01% physical and 99.99% mental/emoional)  We would probably even deny that we believe we will die.  Bu****ch us - what we do speaks so loud we can't hear what we say.  We sure ACT like it would be fatal for us if we didn't give into that craving.  I've never known anyone to fall over dead because they did not give in to a craving - but lots and lots of people give in to their cravings, become morbidly obese, and fall over dead from complications.

Take it 5 minutes at a time - we can do almost anything for 5 minutes, even resist giving in to a craving.  At the end of each 5 minutes give yourself a non-food reward (like a great big old pat on the back) and start the next 5 minutes.  Brag to someone who understands - there are several groups that would understand - this one, Back On Track Together are two examples.

Understand that we always will have to do somethings we don't WANT to do.  That's life.  If you have children, you don't give them a "vote" on whether or not the WANT to do something that is life threatening.  You expect/demand that they will mind you.  We need to knock off with the double standard.  We need to expect/demand that we do what we need to do to stay alive and  healthy.  We need to quit "voting" on whether or not we WANT to do it.

It's all between our ears - how we think is how we eat.  If we want to eat healthy we have to think healthy.  There's no mystical magic way to always WANT to stay compliant.  Anyone who thinks weight loss surgery is the easy way out just is living in a fantasy world.  It is a tool, but it's up to use our tool. 

Go back and review the basics - start there.  Then make a list of all the reasons you wanted the surgery in the first place.  Make a list of the good things that have happened since the surgery. 

YOU CAN SUCCED IF YOU CHOSE TO give the time, effort, and attention you need to stay compliant - it's always a choice. 

Thank You, that was absolutely beautiful  and straight to the point. You are right 5 minutes at a time and a nice pat on the back along with my groups here I am currently in 4 they are all helpful very supportive. I tell you If I were to do it all again I would not miss a group on line or around here when we have local events.

My Choice is to succeed I will do this... You just made my day

Melva

Me;va - thanks so much for your kind words.  I could never make it without this group.  I haven't a doubt in thed world that you will succeed - in fact, you are succeeding this very minute

Happy, thank you very much for sharing your thoughts with us. I agree hole heatedly ,now if I just get that thing between my ears to line up. Thanks for your support!!

Beverley - That "thing" between our ears needs to be lined up a lot   It's what made us fat and it is the secret to making us thin

WE CAN DO THIS TOGETHER - YES WE CAN