Becks Diet Solution
Grrrrrrrr
When I look at the weight chart I have on here, I want to give up…. I can gain weight so fast. I really don’t understand my body, my metabolisim.
I am so frustrated that I think what the h*** I’m 53 yrs old and I don’t need to impress anyone, I’m happily married and have a wonderful family. Right now I am healthier than I have been in a long time. Why do I put myself though this BS every day.?
After a few minutes of this pity party I remind myself I want to do this for me and me alone I want to look good for me…I want to be healthy for me. I guess this book is just digging up some dirt and I just want to leave it under the carpet where it belongs, I don‘t want to deal with it. 
If I want to reach my goal I need to rip up that carpet and do some deep cleaning. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!
Okay party is over …I hope.
2nd time started 03/23/2010 -
Heres what I will do daily to succeed:
Read Advantage Lists 2 xs a day or more if needed
Sit Down, Slow Down, Enjoy Each Bite
Credit myself
Be accountable here daily
Exercise is not an option
Be aware of cravings and desires
Plan meals today for tomorrow
You will reach your goal because you want to we are there to support you. This group is fantastic and quick response from any of us.
Good job you hung in there and for now your party is over
Melva
Since you are happily married, talk to your husband about this process. Let him know that he can help you face your eating demons. Don't try to foist the burden onto him. Just let him know that you trust him and may need his help from time to time. Your behavior whether or not you follow a diet does affect the other people in your home. In time, you will feel better and they will feel better if you are able to follow the lifetime diet as well as you can. Once you no longer are concerned with problem foods, you will enjoy a sense of freedom. You can use that mental energy on other things as well as allowing yourself to relax.
Bob I hope I didn’t scare you off. I really want to know how I can get my hubby involved…especially for a mans point of view
2nd time started 03/23/2010 -
Heres what I will do daily to succeed:
Read Advantage Lists 2 xs a day or more if needed
Sit Down, Slow Down, Enjoy Each Bite
Credit myself
Be accountable here daily
Exercise is not an option
Be aware of cravings and desires
Plan meals today for tomorrow
Bob, I’m not sure what you mean by my husband can help me face my food demons. Please go it to more detail.
Melva, I wish I could recognise those sabotaging thoughts and discard them as easily as I do with my pity parties. Practice makes perfect I guess LOL
2nd time started 03/23/2010 -
Heres what I will do daily to succeed:
Read Advantage Lists 2 xs a day or more if needed
Sit Down, Slow Down, Enjoy Each Bite
Credit myself
Be accountable here daily
Exercise is not an option
Be aware of cravings and desires
Plan meals today for tomorrow
What I mean about having your husband help you with your food demons is that he can allow your family to have some of your trigger foods nearby as long as they are not available to you. For example, he can hide them in a toolbox or workbench. When my wife hides food and I really want it, I'll go in the opposite end of the house and have her bring me a small sample. That way I can have a small bowl of chips without eating the whole family sized bag.
I guess you can ask your husband to try to eat his favorite foods that may turn you on when he's out with friends or if he takes any kids out without you. Until you can tolerate having addicting food near you without eating it, that may be the safer route. I personally don't have to cook for nor treat a family, so I can't help as far as those problems go.
My wife can gently remind me that I am currently trying to stay away from addicting foods. However, I almost drive her nuts as I waiver with my intent. Remember that I am manic-depressive. It's not an excuse for my eating, but she's somewhat used to my behavior. She knows that I can become agitated if I get frustrated. I've started having micro fits of anger where I'm yelling for a couple minutes or banging on walls or appliances. For both of our sanity it may mean that I should not be too strict on my eating restricions. Again, we've been married for 35 years and know our behaviors fairly well. Just let me say that despite my agitation, I have NEVER hit my wife. God, I can't even imagine doing something like that. And, If I do have a flare-up, I try to make up with her before we go to bed that night.
Yesterday I had a fluid day to get rid of the 3.5 pounds I gained in three days…weekends do this to me.
I did have a little bit of food, my daughter and I were out shopping yesterday we were going from 10:00 till 4:30 in that time along with my water and tea I had. 1 coffee w 2 cream, one of the stores had plain popcorn I had about 1 ½ cups (boring w out butter) then at supper I had 2 slices of ham, 1 cup jello and 1 tbls of flax seeds.
I have been under a lot of stress this last free day and I have been eating some things I should not have, I have heard that stress can mess with your weight. know if you are a stress eater it will play havoc with the pounds… and I am a stress eater. I have to learn how to not feed my stress.
Anyways the combination of walking and fluids has done its job so I am happy.
2nd time started 03/23/2010 -
Heres what I will do daily to succeed:
Read Advantage Lists 2 xs a day or more if needed
Sit Down, Slow Down, Enjoy Each Bite
Credit myself
Be accountable here daily
Exercise is not an option
Be aware of cravings and desires
Plan meals today for tomorrow
The problem with pity parties is, we want to serve refreshments when we have one.
Think on this, you can breathe, you can walk, you are happily married, you are alive, you can think well (or at least normally LOL), you can see, you aren't in a wheel chair. Lots of reasons to NOT have a pity party.
Glad yours is over.
Happy, thank you for your wisdom, all these thing I know are true. Some times its good to just get it out . "A dirty little secret is not a dirty little secret if it's out in the open".
Your so right about the refreshments LOL lately I have been entertaining having a couple glasses of wine but have resisted because of the extra calories, and the cheese and crackers that would have to be brought out to go with it. The wine remains untouched!
I am going to make a Lets Not Have A Pity Party Card.
2nd time started 03/23/2010 -
Heres what I will do daily to succeed:
Read Advantage Lists 2 xs a day or more if needed
Sit Down, Slow Down, Enjoy Each Bite
Credit myself
Be accountable here daily
Exercise is not an option
Be aware of cravings and desires
Plan meals today for tomorrow
