Friends????

Sorry, this is a long one and I just need to talk.....I have heard many people who have had WLS and lost a bunch of weight say that some of the people that they thought were their friends have turned their backs on them.  Well, recently I have had that happen to me.  I thought that these women were my good friends, people I could talk to and do things with and it isn't like they were "fat".  Well, I lost a bunch of weight and am now down to a size 6/8, up until I got below a size 10/12, which is the size that they are, they seemed to be fine, but then I kept losing and getting smaller.  Not long ago we were invited to a BBQ with some of these friends and when I would walk near them they would all stop talking, we all know what that means, I was the subject.  Not that I care, if they want to talk let them, but we live in a small town and when they talk it gets around.  I was invited 2 weeks ago to a thirty one party at another friends and she actually pulled me aside to tell me that these other women were there and had been talking about me before I arrived.  So, during the course of this party they were trying to pretend that nothing had changed, that they hadn't been ignoring my phone calls or texts, and me, not being one to ever know enough not to speak my mind basically told them that I don't need friends like them anymore, that I am still exactly the same as I was before surgery, just smaller and that I was sorry if that made them uncomfortable but it was just the way it is for me now.  Well, wouldn't you know, the very next weekend I got invited to go shopping with these "friends" and I had to say no because I don't need part time friends.  I know one of the things that they say is that I had it easy...they all go to weigh****chers and they think I could have done that too....and I did try it, over and over again and never had very good results.  They don't understand how you have to change your entire mindset if you are going to be really successful with WLS.  They think that I have it easy....I wish.

I'm sorry you had that experience. Because it's easier to have major surgery and at least for me I'm working out up to 2 hours per day (but have only lost 10 pounds in the last 3 months) and feeling yucky if you eat too much or don't chew enough or eat the wrong thing that was fine to eat last week, etc. Those who haven't lived it, don't know. I know that there is no way I would have been able to lose 110 pounds without the surgery. It's one tool in the toolbox and I am working on losing my last 48 pounds still.

I am glad to hear that you have one person who let you know what is up. Stick with people like that! You are right about not needing part time friends who let jealousy overrule their hearts.

Great job on the weight loss!!  Big pat on the back for sticking up for youself too!