Do You Give "Advise"?

I never give 'advise' about dieting to friends and family. On this site I do/will to the best I am able, but outside of here NO! For starters, I'm by no means an expert. Also I feel everyone is different. Even on here there are so many different eating plans that each type of surgery and Dr. ask of their clients. No one has ever gotten up set with me for not 'sharing tricks' as most of them call it. Don't I wish I had tricks!! But what does upset me is that OFTEN some will make comments such as, "you're so lucky you never have to struggle or worry about weight like everyone else does!"  Nothing could be further from the truth and it maddens me to hear this! These so called "friends" are so mistaken!! Yes I had surgery, but it makes me so mad that I get ZERO credit for the work I have done!! The surgery does not make me not want to eat chips and brownies and it does not make me love salads and it does not make me want to go to the gym instead of going home and sitting in front of the tv and eating ice cream! I do the work!!! I never talk about my surgery to anyone off this site besides my husband. Never! It saddens me sometimes because it is such an important part of my life. Even with my very best friends, I don't talk about it and even sadder to me is they NEVER ask 

I hear you.... 

I get sick or in pain often when I eat the wrong for me things. I can get sick - be in pain even when I eat theoretically "right things".  I also have food allergies - intolerance...

But they does not mean I don't want that foods, or that it is easy to say "no, thank you " she. Someone offers those things.  My BF-SO  knows and understands that. All of that. He have seen me crying when in pain, unable to take a breath. Or crying and getting mad in frustration when I really want something and I can't - should not have it.  He is my rock and best supporter.  He have seen in in severe pain even when I follow what I am supposed to do. 

But the rest think it is easy. I often hear "O ...You are lucky...You can't have that because it would make you sick....I wish I had reaction like that"... 

At one time...I had enough..And I got mean... One person *****ally "pissed me off " while eating donuts...She was going on and on and on... Eventually I told her..."you complain about being heavy and your knees and hips hurting, don't you know when you eat things like that - this is what really hurting you?  Sweets and dessert hurt you long term...You just chose to ignore that. I don't... I hate being sick or in pain." 

She stopped telling me how "lucky" I was ....Now she tells people I am mean...

I've heard someone "close" to me had said, "I could do it too if I 'cheated' like she did! I have to do it the hard way and work for it". Needless to say, we are no longer "close". Thank goodness for our BF-SO/husbands!! I am thankful for his support and understanding daily