Trying to regain ME and LOSE my regained WEIGHT!!!

Hi everyone, I'm posting in here because I'm wanting to lose the 60 pound regain that I've put on over the last 3.5 years.  Within this time period I have also been diagnosed with some medical issues and put on 16 different medications and there are several times in a month that I am bed ridden, I also have vision issues, balance issues(constantly dizzy)..just after my medical issues started I got married and my husband was very understanding and so were his kids(he had 3 that lived him permamently but now there are 2 ages 9, 17 with a baby, and now his 24 year old son has moved back home and gets his daughter every other weekend) it's funny because I'm supposed to limit my stress because of my medical issues but there is no way possible but anyway when I tell my husband that I want to start getting back on losing my weight he laughs and tells me whatever good luck and so there I go back into my depression again and so here I amagain wanting to do it again and I told him that I am going to do it and I will not buy junk and he told me that it isn't fair to the kids to do that they don't need it either

Welcome Back!  I'm struggling with reaching my goal.  I've lost 149 pounds, and have about 60 more to lose.  Have been struggling since January/February.

I'm sorry your husband is not supportive of your efforts.  I have a somewhat similar situation.  My SO "says" he supports me, but in fact, he doesn't.  Although he tells me to do whatever I need to do, he's always, always trying to get me to eat off program.  I don't mind what he eats -- he can have all the pizza, ice cream, etc. he wants -- but he's always pushing the food at me.  We have many  a "word" or two about it.  I keep saying when I say No - please respect that and don't ask again.  It takes three "Nos" before he gets huffy and stops.  But - in the meantime, there are times when I take the food at the "second offering" - sometimes just to stop the food pushing, other times because I just give in.  I get so angry at myself.  So basically now I told him he can fix his own food and I'll eat later, when he goes down the hall.  I tried cooking for both of use, and he always ate what I fixed in the beginning, but now it's "I don't feel like that" or "I feel like pizza".  Very frustrating.  I'll ask him in the morning "Do you want chicken tonight" and it's "I don't know" -- In the past I've not asked him, just made the chicken, and then he wouldn't eat it.

Men are babies!!    So now I make sure I have what I need -- it's gotten to the point we can't go shopping together.  He'll get a bag of "Bertolli Chicken Marsala" -- I told him he can buy it, but to plan on having two meals of it himself because I can't eat it.  "Huff and Puff".   What's crazy is he has serious health problems and should basically be eating the same way I am -- says he's concerned about his health -- but doesn't act like it.  

  What can we do?  We've got to take care of ourselves, and let the grown men take care of themselves.  Why should they be number one?  

Stay Strong!!  Take care of yourself, and let the grown men take care of themselves.  They managed before you arrived, so they can manage now!

Mary

You really nailed it - "We've got to take care of ourselves, and let the grown men take care of themselves."  When it comes to shopping or cooking, you do what is right for you and he can do the same for himself.  

My younger son used to be super picky.  Cooking for the family became a big dramatic issue because he didn't like it, wouldn't eat it, etc. I quit bothering cooking for awhile because it was a hassle.  We decided to make whatever for dinner and if he didn't want to eat it, then he waited until breakfast to eat.  

Now, that was a child but it worked.  You know what you want to buy and eat, let him do the same.  Let him take the responsibility for managing himself and see how that works for him LOL.  

Here's an article on Food Pushers that might have some suggestions that might be helpful.  

I know my husband and kids do not have weight issues, so food is always a battle.

I try to keep things around from them that doesn't bother me. Like ice cream makes me dump something awful. Doritos or potato chips don't bother me, but keep me away from pretzels and graham crackers. Those are no longer welcomed in this house.

Don't let his hurtful words take away your power. Both of you ladies sound like very strong women, so fight for your health. My biggest fear really is that my type 2 diabetes will return. So I am trying to focus on that, but some days are rougher than others.

Keep posting and reaching out. We are here for each other and as Mary Gee stated, We can do this!

It doesn't sound like you are having a very stress free life right now. That's a lot of kids in the house!

My suggestion is putting yourself first. Decide what you want to eat and make it. If the others don't want that they can cook their own meals. My son loves Oreos. He may have them at his grandmother's house that he goes to every Friday. 

I wish your husband was more supportive and loving. You deserve that.

Deb T.

thanks ladies for the replies...my problem with food is that i can eat just about anything anymore and not dump and that includes ice cream....but when i have to be in bed for several days  my basic diet consists of water and crackers and i hate it but my nausea is so terrible..i dont want to start over using protein shakes just the thought of it makes me nauseauos

With your medical issues, medications and major stress, just one of those would be tough to deal with and you have all three, plus your husband and the kids.  That is a lot!!

Not to have your husband's support about getting back on track is difficult but it just means that you have to build your own support system. Do you have other family members, friends or co-workers that you could turn to?  You definitely have us here on BOTT.  Post to us here just like you did with this post.  

A suggestion on the junk stuff in your house.  If you are the one that does the grocery shopping, buy things you don't like.  That's what I do and it helps.  

Maybe think about not telling your husband when you're starting to get back on track and when you are.  Tell us, tell your selected support people.  Have support people that believe in you and your goal to be on track and lose your regain.  

Keep telling yourself that "I can do this" or some other phrase that helps you.  YOU CAN DO THIS!!  

Cathy, just the thought of starting over back on shakes is ugh!! do you or actually anyone else have any ideas on foods or somewhere to start?

I know it is hard and I for one do not like protein shakes.  I've tried these pancakes for breakfast and I can handle them.

1 cup lowfat cottage cheese

4 eggs I use 1 whole egg and 3 egg whites

1/2 cup canola oil

1/2 cup whole wheat flour

1 tablespoon baking powder

1 tablespoon vanilla--------------Mix  Great protein.             Viva