New and Need to Regain Control

I just joined this group and am looking forward to the discussions.  I had my RNY in August of 2009 and exceeded my weight loss goal within a year.  I gradually gained back about 20 lbs., which my medical team put me where I needed to be.  I did a great job of maintaining my weight for the next 4 years, but last fall started falling into old habits and gaining again. I am now 40 lbs. over where I need to be.  I can see what I have been doing to cause this, but it feels impossible some days to do what I need.  I am not sure what triggered it, but I know I have got to get back on track as soon as possible. Time to regain control!

Hugs. It is tough to be good ALL the time.  My aim is for 90-10. - but the 10 - are still good choices - but maybe a little bit more than my pitiful 1100 cal a day.   I like more fat tyhasn carbs in my diet andf it is hard to keep the calories low. 

Welcome to our group.......we CAN do this together .....for me, posting daily helps me be more accountable.

Some days I actually eat what I say I am going to eat......some days I don't do as well as I should.  I have gained 30 lbs since my lowest weight.  I never did reach my goal.  I am still wanting to get there!!   I need to knuckle down and exercise more.  Post often, it helps me !!

Just wanted to say that I never reached my goal either.  Most days I eat whatever I want and it's not good things.  I go anywhere from 206 to 214.  My lowest weight was 198 and my highest was 219.  I started out at 289 so I feel like I failed at this whole thing.  I had my surgery in 2012 and had to have emergency surgury the next year for an ulcer.  Trying so hard to win this battle.  I will start again, I will give me some ME time and start again.  I love my family and am always trying to make sure everyone else is ok and have what they need.  I'm slowly beginning to realize that I won't be around when they need me if I do not eat right.  Most days I just can't drink water!! I have not had soda for 4 years so I think I do something right there but the carbs and sweets are a booger to beat.  Sorry just seen this and wanted to vent and have someone to talk to.  I wish they would have had a support group where I lived but I never could locate one.  I felt like I had so much encouragment with my medical team when I was going to all my appointments and such but since I had surgery and going to the DR every three months it was like there was no one there for you.  I blame myself for not reaching out for the help.  But tomorrow is a new day and I will begin again. 

Thank you for the kind welcome!  So far, I am doing better with what I put in my mouth. 

I have the same issues. I lost all my weight in the first 1.5 year after my RNY (Aug 2004). I maintained my weight but kept smoking. When I HAD to stop smoking-I have gained 60 lbs. back. I know why but it is so hard to stop the cycle. I feel just like I felt before I had surgery. I hope this can help keep me on track and doing the right things. I do not want to get back where I was before surgery. I lost a total of 133 lbs so I am headed toward half of it gained back if I don't quit now! I am doing better and seem to have hit a plateau for gain but I know how the plateaus go, too!

While I don't smoke, you are definitely in a similar boat to me.  I remember the bariatric nurse coordinator who worked with me would repeatedly say that obesity was a lifelong struggle.  You can get thin, but you still have the disease of obesity in terms of addiction and such.  I don't know if it helps, but I am far less concerned about hitting plateaus than I used to be.  As long as I am not gaining, I am halfway there. Anyway, I hope you hang in and keep up the fight. 

Thanks,

Melora