Why do I feel so helpless??

Hi.  I'm almost 3 years post op, have had a 30 pound regain and for some reason feel helpless to fix it.  Perhaps it's the after the holiday blues, but I feel like I'm soooooooo tired of thinking about losing weight, planning what food to buy and what to fix, etc.  Somedays I feel like just giving up, eating what I want, the heck with the surgery, etc.  I know I have the tool, I know what I have to do, but the motivation is just not there.

I have a sign in my office at work:  Thou shalt not whine - and listen to me.  One big baby today.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Cindy

OK. LETS GET MOVING! You can do this, Back to basics! add more cardio. 

I know how you feel. I'm just past 2 years out and have gained 20 pounds from my lowest weight. Very disappointed in myself. 

So one day, I just decided to go cold turkey....detoxed off carbs and caffeine. (3 days of hell)  It's been back to basics, very low carb, 800 calories, 80+g of protein.  You know the drill.

But the hardest part is just getting started.  Good luck to you.. You can do this!!

PS: Whining is ok sometimes :)

Jocelyn, I need you!!  How do you  get 80+g of protein when only eating 800 calories?  My dietician has told me I have to eat 800-1000 for a couple of weeks and she will monitor my progress to help me lose my 30lbs gained.  Please please share your food plan/types of foods with us, this would be great.

many thanks

Well, I had my surgery 12 and a half years ago, July 2000 and my doctors told me than I will drop to 150 pounds and regain to my ideal weight of 188 pounds it was year two that I actually began to regain to 178 pounds and stayed there for 10 years and over the past 3 years I been gaining and losing, gaining and losing and its all been stress related with losing my job, job hunting, lack of working out and drinking water. 

So, at any point did your doctor explain that you will drop to an all time low and regain to where your body is comfortable?  I am not sure how things are now but when I had my surgery in Boston at Beth Isreal I had to sign a contract where for 3 years I met with my doctors during the first year it was every month after the first 4 which was weekly and I had to attend weekly group meeting for support and the second year it was every 2 months and year three it was every 3 months for blood work etc.  My team of doctors were; the nurse, the doctor of the nutritional med group, the nutritionalist, my primary doctor, the psychologist, and the surgeon. 

In some ways I wish I was back in Boston just so I could take in a meeting and get control of these 40 pounds I need to take off.  But I do know I've gotten lazy because I am working on my Master as well as working full time.  But it will all come together I was able to drop 30 pounds last year will following Tess, but once I got sick in late July and started having problems with my left knee I regain the 30 pounds... 

So, we just have to get pushing it will come off again and I have to become recommittee to keeping it off which means working out every other day and leave the Jelly Beans and Cup Cokes alone!

Oh, prior to surgery I was 324 pounds, the day of surgery I was 309.5 pounds!

Good Morning:

I agree with all the other posters.  You can do this and getting started is the hardest.  Think of something that you have coming up that you want to be in the best shape that you can be in.  Detox you body off sugar and white products, up your protein and lower your carbs and drink lots of fluids.  Come here daily and blog your thoughts or just see what is on others peoples mind.  The hardest is just taking that first step.  You can do it and we will be here to cheer you on.

I had surgery March16 2010 and went from a weight of 350 to surgery weight of 311 to 185 lbs at a height of 5'8". Currently my weight is 210..but I been as high as 227 recently.  I regained 42 lbs and lost 17 lbs since Jan 2 . A big part of the problem is I am a food addict a compulsive eater and my environment was NOT a fail safe environment ! I realize that I have to be the one accountable...but when you are living with a husband who brings home crap food and wants to eat out it hasn't been easy.  I had resentment towards my husband since I never got down to the weight I thought I could..165 lbs. However, I realized I had to let that go as it doesn't help. My husband is now going through the surgery process as well and now 'he gets it". So...I will be supporting him through this. AND...he will most likely do very well.

So..saying that...I'm back to the gym...eating high protein and low carb..maxing my calories at 1000 and my protein is around 70-80 g.

It's definitely harder now but very doable. I really need to work on forgiving myself for no using my honeymoon period more effectively...cause it ain't coming back..lol

We all have the capacity to do this...REALLY !!!

We each have the 'thing' that motivates us..we just need to go deep and uncover it.

A quote that has been very instrumental in my life when things become too big for me is "You must do the thing you think you can not".....Eleanor Roosevelt

im right there with you..im 3 years out and have gained 30 pounds and am having a heck of a time of getting off carbs and sugars...im  not just not real sure how to detox off of them

My surgeon had suggested South Beach and Atkins as ways to do this. There is a ton of stuff on both on line.

Good Luck.