Just Can't Seem to Get Back on Track!!

I'm a cry baby.   I'm now officially emotionally back to where I was before the surgery.  I'm beginning to bust out of my clothes and am so upset with myself!  I get derailed so easily! 

Sorry to complain (I hate it) but what am I going to do?????  How am I going to fight this emotional woman that wants to eat everything all the time? 

Three years out and I could lose a good 20 +lbs.  Seems every day I creep higher and higher on the scales

Thanks for letting me emotionally binge.  Seems to be my normal mode lately...I do realize that I can do this.  Just have to shake myself up more and get on with it! 

I'm an adult...right?

Rather than blurt out the usual advice, let's try this....what do you think you are doing incorrectly? Is it snacks? Sweets? Is there one thing we could help you focus on to get back on track? If you could have success with one thing maybe you'd feel better about yourself, and more confident to take on your emotional self!  I complain too, all the time!! But I waste a lot of time on it, time I could better spend on planning meals, etc.  sometimes I just want to scream because nothing in this journey has been easy.  NOTHING ! But I persevere and so can you. So..let us know,

I'm going through the same thing. I don't know how to get back on track. I was hoping joining this group would help.

I find getting the emotional strength to do what I know I need to do, very hard.  It was easy before, now after a gain, it is unbelievably hard.  Do you think it is because we don't want to diet anymore and have given up?

Uh Oh...I'm having a moment of clarity:

I really think the self loathing goes into overdrive when we "mess up."  It can destroy our confidence and "on the path to destruction we go."  I think it actually gives us permission to indulge.

I like the reply about focusing on what puts us on the path.  I know sugar and bread type foods send me off the deep end.  Right after surgery I couldn't eat either.  I have to get back to the mental attitude that I can't eat those things and be healthy.

 

We definitely don't want to diet anymore!  The surgery took care of that for awhile.  Now we're back to the "diet" thing.  Yes, we could be rebelling.  BUT we can't give up.  We're not "give ruppers" or we would not have had the procedures or be on this board.  I have a saying to get me through.  It's pasted on my computer:

 

"I have hope and I believe and I'm never going to quit."  That is from my soul.  It is my mantra.

I know exactly how you feel...this woman inside me that wants to eat, I thought she was gone but she has slowly pushed her way in controll again. I wnat her gone!

 

The only way I can get this weight off is to stay completely away from all carbs.  Carbs make me crave things and they're the first thing I turn to when I'm sad, mad, lonely, etc.  I have lost some weight that I had regained so I am encouraged by that.  The only thing that I tried that worked was to go right back to the very basics.  Protein, water, protein, exercise, protein....get the picture?  I have been on a downward spiral for the past year and a half and I had gained back like 70 lbs.  I'm down 21 and trying to just arrange my brain to think differently.  Coming to this group is helpful to hear others' idea's and things they've tried. 

If I know nothing else, I know that eating carbs awakens the "Carb Monster".  Carbs are NOT my friend.  They make me sluggish and lazy.  I feel bloated and tired.  You would think they would make me want them less but that is not the case - I crave them.  The only way I've found around it is to eliminate them - keep them to a minimum.

I hope I don't sound "preachy" as that is truly not my intention.  I hear the frustration and fear in your email and I completely understand it first hand.  DO NOT GIVE UP. 

No kidding!!!  I really feel carbs are the culprit also!!!  You are not at all sounding preachy.  Yes, the fear is totally there.  No more sugar and no more breads as of Monday.  (No, not a last meal(s) weekend.  Just have to get through a few things.  :-))

Kudos on losing 21 lbs!!!!  I'm so happy for you!!!  We can do this.  I know we can.   You know, due to health problems I have never exercised!!  Can you imagine losing 214 lbs and never exercising?  I'm totally stupid. 

  I'm having knee replacement surgery In January so I have to get started.  I'm actually looking forward to having an exercise regime. 

Low carb - really low carb - not only helps to keep on track - but also offers more emotional stabilty.

That and good blood work results. When some of my numbers a re low (like iron, B12, Vit d, proteins) not only I get depressed - but the depression make me crave more carbs and sugar and that causes weight gain and more depression.

Make sure that your blood work is optimum- - normal may not be enough (i.e. I need my ferritin higher than 50, Vit B12 - > 800 and so on.