THERE'S NO CRYING IN BASEBALL!! Wise words about WLS!

  THERE'S NO CRYING IN BASEBALL!!! (repost)

 By:  Leilani - (Leilani's words will live on forever)

That's the sentiment (scenario) that comes to mind sometimes when I hear some of the comments from people who've already had the surgery.   In case you haven't made the connection, that's a line Tom Hanks made famous in the movie "A League Of Their Own."  Resorting to tears or just giving up every time the going gets tough.  Or your sick of taking vitamins, getting in protein is hard, water doesn't taste good, etc.  That kinda' thinking is NOT going to make you successful or keep you healthy.  ENOUGH already!  It's time to LOVE yourself enough to get "TOUGH" wtih your aftercare.  Your longterm health is worth it!!

Success comes with a backbone, NOT a wishbone!

First and foremost, you have to keep it POSITIVE.  As with everything in life, if you think you can't - you WON'T!  Simple enough?

I have to wonder when "we" (as adults) finally take ownershipfor our actions, our life and our health?  We have been given a gift, a second chance to actually LIVE life again instead of merely existing on the sidelines.   It's up to each of us to do that as healthy and productively as possible.

 

We're ALL statistics waiting to happen and the insurance companies are chomping at the bit.  The bean counters are eager to drop Weight Loss Surgery ("WLS") from the policies; some already have.  Don't you know that any negative feedback thrown into the mix only strengthens their cause?  I may not be able to control every thing that happens to my body after WLS, but most things I can.  I CHOOSE to take control and I will be a positive statistic when the numbers get counted.  

We live in a spoiled society, expecting everything in life to come with a buncha really cool choices.  Well, guess what?  When it comes to your health, you're not always going to get a choice.  You either DO IT and stay healthy, or you DON'T and your body pays the price.

The way I saw it, I had a 90 day healing and adjusting period after surgery.  My 'super morbidly obese' body had more than enough stores to survive the learning curve.  In turn, it gave me plenty of time to heal, adjust and learn.  For those of you OVER 90 days Post-Op, the probation period is over - its time to get serious and LIVE what you've learned.  

*  You say you can't get in enough liquids throughout the day, don't like the taste of water, or just keep forgetting? -- TOUGH!  It's not an option anymore.   Find a way to do it, get suggestions and tips from others in support groups, message boards, etc.  Read, learn and JUST DO IT!!  Why do you think there is a choice here?

*  You say you don't like the big horse pill type vitamins, or the tart chalky chewables? ... it's just too many to bother with?  Or maybe you just can't remember to take them? --  TOUGH!  You gave up the option NOT to take vitamins when you agreed to have your insides rerouted.  FIND a way to get them in; crushed, minced, chopped, liquified, in a shake, etc.  No exceptions, your health depends on it.

*  Protein is a must.  So you can't get it all in via foods and you don't like the way the shakes taste?   -- TOUGH!  Either get it through your meals (and there are a gazillion food choices out there) or supplement it with protein shakes and bars.

Trust me, I don't drink my protein shake every morning because I think it tastes like a chocolate blizzard from Dairy Queen.  I've tried many varieties over the last 2 years.  I'd even venture to say 25 of the top sellers/flavors have crossed my lips.  For the record?  I've yet to find one that is as 'delicious' as boasted by the distributor.  So what.  I still drink one every morning.  My HEALTH dictates that I need "X" grams of protein per day.  If I'm not getting enough from my meals then I supplement a shake.  'Nuff said.

This surgery is a gift, I owe it to me and everyone else fighting the approval process, to do it right!  I will continue to choke down my vitamins, my water and my protein every single day, for the REST OF MY LIFE.  Some days will be easier than others, regardless, no days will be missed.

It's all about discipline.  Create a routine, set a timer, develop a pattern, tie a string around your finger, glue a note on your forehead, whatever it takes.

You're an adult - take responsibility!  If this surgery doesn't slap a back bone into you, not much will.

 

LOVE THIS!!!

Trust me I'm no girl scout, I've re-gained 35 lbs (yikes!), that's why I'm here :).   But it's this kind of whining that has chased me away from OH.  I don't blame anyone or anything for my re-gain but me and my issues that I'm still trying to change.  Maintaining is harder than the loosing was, but I'm putting in the work at the gym, courting everything that goes in my mouth, taking my vit's...... that and only that is what is going to get me back down to where I want to be!  NO excuses!

Thanks for the 'cheerleader' posts, I really appreciate seeing them in my e-mail.  Keep up the good work Kathy!

Edie

Great post!

 WORD!!  Im gonna copy this and stick it to my forehead lmao! 

Thanks.I copied that and posted some times ago in my blog. That way I can get such an easy access to it and read it when I start feeling sorry for myself, or start making excuses why I am not doing what I know I should be.  And I do forward that to some that find so many excuses not to take care of themselves.

Fantastic post.... I'm 8 years out of RNY.... . about where I need to be  as far as weight, but i've used ALL the excuses you listed and then some...My current favorite is the qty  of vitamins- I have them drafted out of my bank account  , and they sit in my drawer at work....
When I pile them up on my desk, people comment on me being a drug addict, or the healthiest person alive...My latest bloodwork ( 2 weeks ago) with about a 50% compliance to vitamin intake in the past year, showed low Vit d-3, and low iron, and hipylori was positive (I have no issues ever of stomach issues/digestion issues)....Dr. increased Vit d3 to 8000 a day and iron i'm taking 180 mg chewables a day, and we will discuss hyplori at next visit....question  is......
Vitamins are not FDA approved or regulated- dosing is a guess...., we only absorb 50% of them, reports say that 50% of some are fillers, and i wasn't taking them good for the previous year...!..... Do I still take the list that I made up on Excell that looks like a  flow chart cause you cant take x with y, and x needs to be taken with z, and x and z need to be 2 hrs. apart , and you can only absorb 500 mg of z, and i'm RNY so double all of it, and sub ling works best..., gels and time realease don't work with rny, dry is better? (they GNC guy didn't know what dry was, and wasn't sure about the max. absorb of calcium?  I thought that was 500 per dose...., and it just keeps going....
I guess it's all one BIG excuse  , and I bought $50 worth of pill holders to put a weeks supply in at at time, and still be able to grab a few dosages and run out the door with....I took inventory of my stored pills, threw out OUD ones, donated lower strengths to friends, made a apt with my origional surgeon ( 8 week out) to have my list looked at....although I don't think their office has an dietician/nutritionist like they used to... (8 years has seen alot of change in the office, and I don't feel the love anymore...all new staff etc...) (they set me up for a followup, i'm not sure I'm going to get the vitmin feed back I"m looking for...we'll see), I put my vits on a app on my phone and will try to get on a routine....bottom line...I'ts WORK....you forget easilly, you fall back into old habits, ....I'ts WORK... 

oh, and I forgot to add.....when I made my list, loaded my app, bought my pill holders, made my flow chart, did research, made apt. for followup, took bloodwork,......etc....I TOOK ALMOST ALL OF MY VITS THE FIRST DAY......and when I looked back at my meals....I had 3 fiber bars through out the day...mostly for breakfast and break, and a bagel for lunch...and that was it....by 6 oclock, I HADN'T ATE!...WHAT IS WITH THE ALL OR NOTHING MENTALITY WITH MY  WEIGHT LOSS TRIP?....SOME THINGS NEVER CHANGE..... 

Couldn't have said it better myself!

Thanks Kathy S.!!!!

 

Thanks for posting this Kathy! How very true.