Newbie to this board

and need my butt kicked.  Lucy M. told me this is the place to be.  Little bit about me.  My mom died 2-16-09 after taking care of her for 10 years, and I was completely devastated. 

I know she would want me to get back on track though cause she was one of my biggest supporters.

Dee

Dee,

Sorry about your loss. Welcome to this team, we are here for you...Melva

Good morning Dee. I am so happy to see you here on BOTT.

As I told you, I have a lot to lose again but I know that I will do it once and for all and then learn how to maintain. That is one thing I didn't learn as I was losing after the RNY. My problem is that I grazed too much and then the old habits came back. You would have thought that after being banded over the RNY, I would have learned my  lesson. Heck no! I've had a lot of emotional issues to deal with, and I used my old comfort mechanism, food to push down my pain. I realized in the past week that I need help, so I am going to a clinical psychologist who specializes in food addiction. I have my first appointment next Tuesday. I have to deal with my issues, get them out in the open and find a constructive mechanism to deal with my stress, etc.

I am sorry for the loss of your Mom. I can relate as I lost both my father and stepfather - stepdad this past July. I still have my Mom, but she has been a major stressor in my life. Don't get me wrong, I love my Mom but she has been judgemental and critical of me my entire life. It seems that I can never satisfy her or acceptable unless I am thin.

Please come here, share with us and read the posts. We are in this together. There is no shame here, just support. It took a lot of effort for me to come here and share my regain.

Know that I love you Dee and will keep you in my prayers.

Hugs,
Lucy

Lucy and others who would like to connect to a wonderful eating coach, her name is Kristi, read her blog, I connect with her so much and it is a different approach to eating.

http://kristi-eatingcoach.blogspot.com

 I also have gotten Krist to agree to talk at our Bariatric Reunion coming up. I use her hunger scale.

OK---Here goes!  Another Illinois member needing to get BOT.

I have been lurking here for quite some time.  I guess it is time to show myself.

 

I have gained 10 lbs, but never lost down to my goal weight, which bothers me immensely.

 

Lately, I have been having the “stinkin’ thinkin’ that I can eat most anything, just less.  I still avoid white foods, but find myself grazing.  Add in a bit of alcohol and the lbs. started creeping up.

 

My problem, and it has ALWAYS been my problem (even before surgery) is that I can’t seem to STOP eating once I start.  I was starved at times as a child and I know that this is a left over from that time.  My BRAIN knows that this is unhealthy, but I still have trouble stopping.  Another bite here, a few more bites there (wouldn’t want to waste anything, don’t you know……)..........……..it all adds up.

 

I need to get back to basics and clean eating.  I am going slowly by eliminating one thing per week.  This week, it is alcohol.  I am making better choices and trying to STOP when I should.

 

I will be asking the boys to bring the bike back up from the basement where it was stored after my last surgery.  I should be healed by now, so it is time to begin again.

 

Please HELP!!!!!

Hi Dee 

Here you go....



Now that is over take a moment to look at our docs here and print out the check list on getting back to the basics.  Then make a list of the ones you need to get back into your life.  Add one at a time and don't try and do too many at a time 

Now here is the hard one, you need to talk to someone about the great loss in your life.  Go to a grief support group meeting at your church or talk to someone one on one.  Nothing else is going to fall into place for you in your life until you work through this awful pain...

We are here for you all the way 

Take care,
Kathy