Newbie...Introducing Myself

Hello Everyone....

I am SSSSOOOO happy to have found this group!  I'm having the hardest time getting back on track and could really use some support from people who understand. 

I had RNY surgery March 2007 and to date have lost 107 lbs down from 262.  My all time low to date was 150 which I maintained approximately 2 days!  Yes you heard me right.  I seem to now fluctuate between 154 and 156.  I am 5'3" and my personal goal is 140 even though my doctors goal for me was 130.  Unfortunately, I have never even reached my personal goal and gain 4 to 6 lbs from my all time low.

I was moving right along doing everything "by the book" so to speak after surgery.  However, I've since met and married my soul mate who has no weight problem.  As with what usually happens when you're happy and in love you're always out and about enjoying life and eating etc.  I have allowed things back into my diet that I was not eating or drinking.  Sugar, alcohol, simple carbs and at times soda as well as eating late at night.  I am totally out of control!!!!  I know the right things to do but I need some help BIG TIME!  My DH doesn't understand even though I've tried to explain it to him to the best of my ability.  He feels that I should just live my life eating and drinking like a normal person.  It's like I wanna live like a normal person but inside I know that I can't.  So I know that it is up to me to take the bull by the horns and kick myself and get my rear in gear and do what I know is best for me.  Easier said than done though.

I could really use everyone's help and support right now.  Thanks so much!

Marie

Welcome Marie,

First, thank you for requesting me as a friend. Second, I can relate to "I have allowed things back into my diet that I was not eating or drinking."

You have found a great group of people who are on the same journey you are. We have all either made it to or close to goal and regained some, or are still working towards attaining our goal for the first time.

I am glad you have decided to grab the bull by the horns and join us here on the BOTT board. Anything I can do to help you on your journey please let me know.


P.S. looked at your pics and you are a great looking women. Be proud of what you have accomplished so far. 

I agree and look we had the same surgeon! Whoot Whoot!! Go Dr. Eagon! lol

I agree, LOVE Dr. Eagon. Totally HATE the hospital and the CRAPPY care they gave. And may I say you look amazing. Read your blog and am praying that the wedding dress fiasco works out.

You and me both... I ordered a 10 though and the seamstress said its HUGE on the belly and still small on the chest so I just paid 300 more to get it "adjusted".
I had great care but it was at BJC West.

First of all, welcome, you've found a great bunch of people who are very supportive and accepting. Secondly, congratulations on meeting yoru soul mate and the happiness you have found - that is a precious thing.

For me, prep wls I had in my mind that once I had the surgery I would be 'normal' (whatever that is!!).  But have quickly realised that I will never be normal - I will always have to be careful what I eat / activities I do, etc or the weight will come back on quicker than I can blink.  Scary stuff for me to realise that.  I am an addict of food and I am lazy, so I need to be vigilant 100% of the time.  Trouble is that I'm not which is why I've gained a bit and never reached my goal.

It does help me when I think about being an addict.  If you were an alcoholic Im sure your partner would help you and understand more about not being around alcohol.  For me it's the same being around food I know is a trigger, or not good for me, like desserts, etc.  Maybe if you try to find a way to explain that they can relate to, thjey will find it easier to understand?

My husband has been with me all through this journey for years pre wls and he still doesnt' really get it and how I am related to food so it's not an easy answer.

Anyway, i've rambled on long enough - one thing is that since I joined this group I have found it so much easier to keep getting back on track arter the many times I've fallen off!!!!

Welcome Marie, I hope all works well for you, congrats on the soulmate DH. 
We all have the same issues here, food.  We all need and give support.
Take care,

Z

Hi Marie,

Welcome to BOTT!  We have a very special group here with amazing members.  You are in the right place.  We've all been there and doing it together.  Being on track is an ongoing process with speed bumps and detours along the way. 

Stay involved and post whatever is going on with you - successes, challenges, anything goes.  Unlike many of the boards, we shoot straight in what we post with each other BUT in a caring, respectful way.  We don't sugar-coat things but do it in a caring way.  I can't explain it because it is such a unique, special group.

One of the things that helps me to stay on track is posting in the daily Check in, Cafe & Cardio thread.  For me, I post about what is going on with me and my life, my activity and food.  It helps!!

Again, welcome to BOTT!!

Cathy

Hi All!

I am also new to this group and any type of a board such as this in general. I also had my surgery in March 2007. My heavy weight was 368, I was 320 on surgery date and went down to 176, close to my goal weight. I am 5 foot 8.5 inches. I had re-started smoking after surgery but quit FOR GOOD last October and had a tummy tuck in December. The timming was not good because when I quit smoking my metabolism slowed and then I couldn't exercise for a couple of months after the tummy tuck.

To make a long story short - I am about 196 now and so WORRIED that I will continue to gain!

The first two years were great, easy and now I find myself hungry a lot again. I did join a gym in August and go faithfully but I have actually gained a pound since joining...

I will try to figure out how to naviate these posts and this website and know I need to break down and start journaling again. Hopefully, by typing out this post, I am confirming to be back on track with you all.

Cheri

Journaling is useful. I use to use www.fitday.com and now I use www.realizemysuccess.com its awesome. I hope this helps.

Lesley