An update since I haven't posted in a while

Hi fellow BOTTers.  I was AWOL for a while...  Work has been very stressful on top of a stressful home life (kids - friend issues, homework and discipline!). 

I have been doing some self analysis, and I've found that I like to eat when I am angry... not so much when I'm sad.  Unfortunately for me, I tend to get mad at nights and end up eating bad carbs.  I seriously need to get all of them out of the house!  On the flip side, I have been doing better with filling the house with lots of fresh fruits and veggies and encouraging all in my family to eat them. 

For exercise, I've been Wii-ing it up over the last 8 days.  I feel good about getting in the exercise - especially the strength training!  On days when I don't get to use the Wii, I've been pushing myself to go faster and longer on the treadmill.

I am feeling better mentally, and my dress pants seem to be getting loose  ...still waiting for that darn scale to move! 

Kris

Isn't it great we get to wear smaller pants and don't have to wear The Unmovable Scale LOL

Good for you for the healthy changes you're making - and your family benifits too - can't beat two for the price of one! 

We need change now more than ever.  This morning my 9yo was crying because "she's fat".  It breaks my heart to hear that coming from her (even if she is overweight).  I need to get my husband on board with making changes - since he does the shopping, cooking and packing of lunches.  I know he wants to help, but he just can't get it right.

Thanks for you encouragement,
Kris

You may have to start giving him a grocery list when he goes shopping   It's hard for someone who doesn't have our problem to understand - but you can bet they have a "growing edge" too and their's may not be a problem for us.  It's so easy when one doesn't have a problem dealing with something to think no one else should have a problem dealing with it either.  I think that's called being a human being (:o)

Glad you're back  WE CAN DO THIS TOGETHER, YES WE CAN!!!!!

IMHO it's empowering to discover your triggers cause in the words of Dr. Phil, "you can't fix what you don't acknowledge."  Besides trying to not get angry, look at why you are getting angry.  Do you need your family to help out more around the house?  Do you just reflect on a stressful day?  Did someone cut you off on the road home?  How about then reaching for those better foods that you are filling the house with.  Or buying the boxing game for the wii fit so you can "hit" something!!

Continued success Kris.

Ms Shell

Thank you for your reply.  I'm learning to let things go, but I can only go a step at a time.  I've really learned to not get freaked out about the messy/dirty house.  My anger generally revolves around the kids and husband.  My oldest seems to ALWAYS need my help with homework, which means I work all day and do homework all evening.  My youngest debates EVERYTHING.  And my husband, he just doesn't know what to do when it comes to discipline, which makes for a lot of stressful, chaotic situations!  I've signed the kids up for professional guidance in dealing with the anxiety, etc.  Now, if I could just get my husband on the right track... Hey, wait a minute, who says it's my responsibility??? 

I do have the Wii (sports and fit).  I'm very slowly learning to tell the family that I need my workout time, and they will just have to fend for themselves during that time.  It's not going to change overnight, but they will eventually understand I need my time... it's best for all of us. 

Good for you!  I wish you much continued success!!  It's a journey and we are always on it...

Remember this truth - No one can make anyone else think, do or feel anything - we can only invite and it's up to the other person whether or not they accept.  If you could make everyone feel good you would - but you can't   So, if you can't make them feel good it holds true you can't make them feel bad.  The same is true in reverse - they can't make you feel either if you don't accept their ivitation.  You're right on when you acknowledge it isn't your responibility to get your husband on track - it would sure be nice if you could get him on track, the zinger is, it just isn't possible.

Also, to get your needs met first is the least SELFISH thing you can do.  Think about it this way - you can't pour out of an empty pitcher.  If you aren't getting your needs met, you have so much less to give others.

Be kind, gentle and loving with yourself and have a fine BOTT day