Friday Reflections! One Brick at a Time!!

Hello BOTTs,

Well another week has come and gone...It has been 3 weeks since I committed to Getting Back On Track with the food, exercise, vitamins and mental health.  3 weeks, yep should be on my way....  But I am not feeling in control and to me, being in control defines success and failure.   
 
I had all my food planned, vitamins and back to boxing and the gym.  First week, I was right on....second week had some emotional challenges and faltered a bit.  This week I was right back to where I started from with food. 

Why is it when life gets tough and or throws us a curve we turn to old habits  .  Kathy, you have got to get this right and then I had a light bulb moment as Oprah would say.     Well, it's to be expected.  Yes, you heard me, it should be expected and we should not be surprised when it happens.  

By now if you are still reading you are thinking she has had a glass or two of wine.    No, but think about it my BOTT friends.  Our love affair with food has been for our entire lives.  We had a year or 18 months of eating a new way and staying on track with our new tool.  So let's do the math...when life starts to beat us down and we get off track for what ever reason, we are going to turn to what is familiar, comfortable and what we have done our entire lives. 

That being said, then we should expect a bounce back, we should expect "some" weight gain.  So the plan of attack for me is to keep moving my pile of bricks from the side of a life time of eating to the side of a new life time of winning..  I will keep doing this brick by bric****il my house of happiness is built.... 

But my BOTT friends, one brick at a time 

Take care,
Kathy

Kathy, I agree w/ you 100%, especially about how we shouldn't be surprised that we lapse back into old habits.  In fact, I'm continually amazed at the number of grads who managed to not relapse big-time!!  While I was losing--and then for about a year afterwards--I was "right on" and thought I had really learned how to handle everything, but . . . I gradually let my old ways creep back in . . . a little bit . . . then more . . . then a lot. 

Even after a period of time of maintaining & thinking I was finally OK (i.e., "normal"), a part of me wasn't surprised at all that I found myself in trouble.  Keep in mind that I am 58 yrs. old, so I have decades of poor choices/bad habits to overcome!  Unhealthy food had been my constant companion--always there through good, bad & everything in between--and it found its way back into my life!  Nope, didn't surprise me!

I have been very disappointed in myself over the past 2 years as I have gradually re-gained an unacceptable amount of weight.  However, I absolutely will not give up.  I may start & fail over and over, but I will continue . . . one brick at a time.

Thank you for the great post!!

Hi Jo,

I think if we take away the negative feelings this give us and just accept it and proceed with our game plan we will be successful.

You are a very special persona and you deserve this

Take care,
Kathy

Hi Kathy:  This post was exactly what I needed today!! One brick at a time is what it takes and I can't move years of bad habits in one day...but I can one brick at a time!! Thanks

Hi Stephanie,

You will not meet anyone that had it "together" more than I.  I ate clean everyday, workout like a mad lady and loved it

My husband became more and more disabled and I had to stay at home and do everything, job, house, and taking care of him full time.  Somewhere alone the way I lost my self and my direction.

He is doing great now and it's like, ok what the hell happen    I have made progress but I guess I am sooooo wanting to get back to where I was before all this happen.  Where I am going wrong is expecting it to be overnight.  So, I "KNOW" we will get there if we do it brick by brick  

Have a great weekend

Take care,
Kathy

Kathy, thanks for sharing this! You are such an inspiration to me and you always give the best advice!!!!

Hi Tracy,

Back at you  my friend    We will do this, come summer we are going to be posting swim suit pictures girl friend  

Take care,
Kathy

I think most of us were raised by "food pushers"  I know I was. 

One time when I was on the Weigh****chers program and very concientious about following the food plan, our family went to my parents for supper.  When I wasn't gobbling down everything my mother had prepared, she actually said "Sue, how are you going to know I love you if I can't feed you"  Any wonder I grew up believing food = love?

So, for me, I need a refresher course from time to time that if I need extra love, that is OK, just need to look to people (like BOTTers) instead of food. 

Thank you one and all for being there for me.  WE CAN DO THIS TOGETHER, YES WE CAN

Great observation!  We are from the south and all our meals were buscuits, gravy and fried foods.  And if you didn't eat tons your family thought you were sick....

Life time of living to change...

And the great thing is  we ARE making these changes TOGETHER!  YEAH for BOTTers!!!!