Who are you telling about the surgery?

 Good idea Lenita J.  I've also been wondering the same thing, who to tell about the surgery and who not  to...?

At this stage I'm only telling family, my boyfriend, and I've told one friend who also struggles with her weight and we have spoken many hours about health and weight loss.

I was thipnking the same thing about work... People will be very suss, you go away for 2 weeks, come back and you're eating differently and are dropping weight. 

Mmmm, a tough one...

 So far I have told my family and a few close friends. One of my friends had the lap band and one had gastric bypass. I just told my kids about a week ago. They are excited for the things I will be able to do with them.

How old are your kids? I can't really tell how my kids feel about it yet. My youngest is only 7 so she is mostly curious. My older two are 16 (daughter) and 19 (son) which are harder ages to read. I think my older daughter is one that will believe it when she sees it since she has watched me fail on so many diets. My son is kind of wrapped up in college and keeps forgetting about my surgery....oh yeah that's right LOL

 My kids are 16,15 11 and 8. I told my 2 oldest a while ago. I was having lots of appts and they were curious. They were hard to read at first but they are getting used to the idea. My 11 year old was super excited from the beginning. But my 8 year old is the most sensitive and I was worried about telling her. I just talked to her about all the good things that will come from it and not to focus on the bad things that could happen. She is doing much better and I feel better about telling her this early. I just don't want them telling anyone til after surgey. We live in a very small town and everyone knows everything. 

I haven't really worried about my kids telling other people. I did tell my older daughter to maybe wait and not say anything to certain people right now. I don't know if she really gets why but she is respectful and has told a couple of her friends in confidence. I'm ok with that since I know it is helpful for them to talk with peers about it. I don't even think my youngest (7) even understand what I am doing exactly. She gets I'm having a surgery and will be gone a night or two in the hospital. I have told her I will be eating a lot different and it will help me lose weight so i can be healthier and have more energy to do things. She sees that I am tired a lot so she likes that idea. I'm to the point now that I don't care who ends up finding out. I'm not going to be offering it up to anyone else, but if they hear through the grape vine I won't be denying anything. I do have 2 long time great friends that live across the country that I can't decide if I should tell them now or surprise them later. They won't see me again until I have likely lost a bunch of weight. I'm sitting on the fence with that one still.

I have told my family (husband, kids, sister, parents, MIL) and coworkers since I blocked off the whole month of August just about a couple of weeks ago. I have told my 2 best friends whom I don't really get to see often but we are in contact a lot.

I have only told 2 other people in the gymnastics world (my 2 daughters LIVE this sport) ... their head coach and a mom of one of the other girls on the high school team. Their coach is more than a coach. My older daughter has been with her for 8 years now and my youngest (only 7 yrs old)  for 3 years. I do alot for their coach for graphics in the gym and a program and I am VP of the high school gymnastics team booster club. Oh and I groom her dogs too LOL wear many hats!

I think I will be more open after surgery...what's done is done at that point...they can like it or not since at that point it won't matter so much. Like you said people will notice the weight loss and get curious pretty quick after the surgery. I figure I will decide how detailed to get about it depending who the person is. I'm a pretty open person. I will probably tell the wrong person too much at some point. So far the worst I've gotten is curiousity and surprise, but all have been supportive.

 Yea pretty much the same for me My family and a couple close friends.

 At first I was just going to tell a small handful of friends and family, on a need to know basis.

For work, I was just going to tell my supervisor the thing about "I'm having surgery for health reasons, and I'll need to be out  X weeks."

But then I thought about my friends at work who DO know, and how awkward it would be if other people start asking them questions. So I ended up saying to the whole group the "for health reasons" thing, but that I didn't want to bore everyone with old lady health discussions. :-) Then I said if anyone wants to know more info, please come and see me, and I'll be happy to share whatever you want to know at any time. 

Ha! no takers yet, but I bet post-op weight loss will get conversations started! 

-cat

I have told my friends and family, I think my children are a little too young to understand but they know mommy has a bad hip and a bad back and she goes to a lot of doctors to get healthy. If they start to ask questions about my weight I will continue to tell them that mommy is getting healthy and encourage them to eat well with me. Shouldn't be a problem since they already do. Funny how I make sure my family eats healthy but never took care of myself. Needless to say, hopefully this will be a positie experience for all of us.

When they get older and can understand I will gladly tell them. As for acqaintences and coworkers I will share if they ask. I am a teacher so I will not be back at wor****il September but I have nothing to be ashamed of. I think I would feel worse if I lied to them, or hid the fact that I did not do this on my own.

 Well, I pretty much shouted it from a mountain top, especially at work.  Will I live to regret it?  Probably, but c'est la vie.  As far as work, I told my director and my direct report managers and staff which is about 10 in 5 different cities.  So I'm pretty sure there are least five cities in the US aware of my journey....most were curious and wanted to ask questions.  Some said, "Oh, I've been thinking about looking into that...you go first."  
My kids know (they are 23 and 25) and a few close friends outside of work.  I'm probably better friends with my work co-horts than some of my "friends" outside of work.  So far, very positive, supportive comments.  For anyone else, let them jugde me if they will, but I am the winner in the end.

Happy weekend to everyone.....