does anyone else feel this way?

I am currently working with a surgeon for a second chance (bypass) . I had VBG (the orginal banding) back in 1999. I was successful until about 2 years ago and I have put back on all but 40 pounds of my original 120 loss.

Here is my problem -  I do not want to tell my family and co-workers, only my husband knows that I am doing this. Since I was not succesfull in keeping the weight off by using the "tools" that I was given the first time, I am afraid that they will not be supportive of a second time around.

Hey Lori! 

I know exactly how you fee.  My family was so proud of me because I lost a lot of weight in the beginning after my lap band.  This time around, I have only spoken to my roommate about this because she understands my struggle.  She also had the lapband and it was unsuccessful for her.  I will not speak to my family about it because they will jsut try to talk me out of ot, or tell me I dont need it.  I have prayed about that situation and decided I would do what I want to do and whats best for me.  As long as one person knows and can make decisions should something happen to you - GO FOR IT!!  This is your story - your life!  Tell them after you come from recovery!  GOOD LUCK! Best wishes!

Hello Ladies,

I had RnY Bybass in April of 2003....I lost about 100lbs never went under 204.....I am currently weighing 240.   I went a couple weeks ago to discuss my options and on Wednesday had an endospcopy.....I am embarressed that I did not ever get under 200.  My husband is very supportive of the  revision....I meet tommorrow to discuss the endoscopy and to discuss my options....Although I do not have any problems with my health....I have been diagnosed with OA of the knees at 33.  I have not discussed my plans with anyone in my family other than my husband.   

Hi there.  I had RNY in 2003...beginning weight was 297....got down to 185 (on my wedding day) and I think that was the only day I was 185!   I'm now 225.  I've had 2 back surgeries (due to car accidents) and a baby in the last 3 years.  I'm miserable and have recently been put on high blood pressure medicine at 32! :(  I'm mortified by what I let happen.  I'm planning on researching my options for a revision...however, like you, I do not plan to tell anyone other than my husband.  I feel strongly that there are issues with my stoma as I still dump frequently.  Hoping that insurance will cover a revision or else I don't think it will financially be possible.  Best of luck to you and know that you're not alone!

Dana

From one Lori to another I know just what  you mean . I had Lapband  then had it removed after it slipped. I had RNY 2/2009 and never got to my goal weight of 175. I plan to have BAND over BYPASS . My family and friends see i have lost weight but now like all the other people who had RNY!I hope to have this procedure as an outpatient and have as good  friend take me. I will say I had hernia repair.

So how are you doing I am in the same boat

 

thank you for the words of encouragement. My husband told his mom, she was not so supportive a few months ago (just a general worry wart, but nothing negative). She is going to come next week while I am in the hospital to help my husband with the getting the kids to school, and she will come and visit me during the day (my husband just had his revision surgery last month so he is ot of sick time).

good luck to you and your roomie!!