Why would he wait until I'm down 4 sizes to do this to me.  I found out he cheated on me and I haven't left him YET because I don't know what I really want to do. 

So I know this is not weight related, but hey, we also post about our lives,right? If you want to help us out, it would be great.

My son has entered a contest at a local radio station here in Arkansas. The child with the most votes at the end of the contest wins a trip for his family to Disney World. I didn't expect this to turn out to be a popularity contest, but it has. Voting ends September 26th. You can only vote once per IP address and we only have one PC and few friends and family members. Everyone here at Obesity Help has been great in helping us out, and in one day, he has taken the lead. Please help us hold on to this lead. We still have several days before voting ends.

Anyways, if you want to help us out, please go to www.kssn.com and click on Kiddieokee. Then click on the 2-4 age group. My son is  #2 on the list, he is wearing a white t-shirt and he sings "Folsom Prison Blues". His name is Wyatt. Wyatt really wants to go see Mickey Mouse and with your help, he can! Thanks everyone and please pass the word along to your friends and family members also!

Your post brought me to tears.  It is as if I were writing this myself.  I am only 2 months out but I feel like my whole world is changing.  My body is already changing.  I was a big girl when I met my husband and I tolerated a lot of mistreatment from him then.  Only because I guess I thought it was the best I could do.  Then after a couple of years together things between us got sooooo much better.  Now, it is like we are this perfect couple with this underlying abusiveness just waiting to come out.  i haven't seen this other side in quite sometime.  But, all of a sudden he starts telling me how different I already look and only 30lbs down,  then here it comes.  I don't know me anymore or him.  I feel like alice falling into wonderland.

I really feel sorry for you. My wife was very nervous about what would happen in our relationship after WLS because she had heard of so my situations like this. I'm no professional but I think if possible you should look into staying with family for a while and getting your husband some counseling. I hope everything works out for the better.

Trying to make this short would be impossible so I just won't go into all the details, but I've lost 150 lbs and my husband can't handle it. We are falling apart, he is losing his mind, going insane trying to figure out if I'm cheating on him going through all my stuff my cell my puter ect. he's always been insecure and jealous but its like a switch flipped when I got to a certian point at my WL he's losing it. He's even threatend to kill me in front of my kids if I cheat. That was for doing my nails and trying to look good. The doctors that we have been seeing think he's bipolar and the weight loss may have triggered a manic phase or phases that got bad and stayed that way with the WLS. We've been together 17yrs with 4 kids and I just can't handle the acusations and the being locked away from the world like he trys to keep me. I can't come and go without keeping a constant contact with him and he has to know what I'm doing when I'm doing it. Hes even gone so far just yesterday he thought my 10 yr old was covering for me for whatever, we were home! I trimed my bikini line for a pool party that was for my daughters softball team and didn't want to look bad ya know, and he accused me of cheating. Then when I told him I did it the other day for the party and it wasn't recent like he thought he said I did it for someone at the party!!! I have no carrer not education no way out, hes keep me down from what I'm learning emotionaly like hes abusive and doesn't want me to go to school or work ect and I've been here for 16 yrs at home with the kids now I don't have chance of getting a job due to lack of experience. Anyone else with spouse issues??? Marti