You concern is so interesting.  I had WLS 9 months ago and I've lost 110.  My husband and I have been married 12 years and I was always overweight.  He has always told me I'm beautiful and that he likes bigger women, so I was worried about losing weight and that he wouldn't find me attractive any more.  He, I now know, was worried as I was losing weight that I wouldn't be attracted to him since he is still a *****ubby.  It was so funny because we both had the same but opposite fears.  We talked about it and everything is fine now, but it was certainly stressful.  Even today I was complaining about my gross extra skin and he said he liked it. :)  He is very sweet.  Hopefully you and your husband can just be very open about your concerns and talk about more as they come up.  Good luck!

My husband of 25.5 years is very seriously considering WLS & I am having a lot of mixed emotions. I'm on one hand excited about the future & his health improvements and on the other hand I'm terrified that he will go hog-wild nuts when he realizes how awesome he already is & leave me just when things are getting good!  

Once before, my hubby lost a lot of weight and it put a strain on our marriage. When he regained it all plus more he seemed to think I was happy, and really, I had just been overwhelmed with the changes we were going through at the time. I can say that when I have lost weight, it never made me want to leave him. I'm currently in a medical research study involving a rigorous exercise program, and hoping it will help me lose the 70 lbs I'd like to lose.

I witnessed the demise of my parents' AND a set of grandparents' marriages. My father was 29 when his parents split up & I was 24 when mine did. Needless to say I do not want our grown kids to go through that.

I'm just glad to know that there are others who have had these issues and survived. 

Hope everything works out ok for your wife with her bloodwork. Will be thinking of you on 4/7/15 that's getting close. Soon you will be on the losers bench with us. Just remember that first week is a little pain for a couple days and I just wanted to sleep most of that week away. The second week things really start looking up. In the end we will find it is all worth it. Probably best that you and your wife are spaced out at least a couple weeks apart for this reason.

Keep me informed of how things are going for the both of you also!!

Lora

Hi Steve, Just saw your post. The day you posted this is the day I had my surgery. I take it your wife had her surgery yesterday. I'm sure she is sore and sleepy still today. It does get better. About that first week I wanted to sleep a lot had very little energy. My advise is to just encourage sip sip sip. I can say today 9 days out from surgery I am feeling much better. Still sore but not to bad, getting around very well. Drove myself to my follow up appointment that is an hour away without issue and stopped on way home and done some shopping for things I can now have on my puree diet. It gets better each and everyday!

Best wishes to you and your wife!!