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Topic: 4 Year old behavior problems!!!
I'm boiling right now. I feel like I'm at my wits end with my 4 year old son lately. He's talking back, not listening, repeating what we say, making rasberry sounds or going "bla bla" when we talk to him. When we spank him, he goes right back to doing it after a little while. We even tried a reward program instead of punishment and that worked for about 2 weeks then fizzled out. He hates timeout, he crys his eyes out when we put him in his room for timeout, so we figure this is a better punishment. BUT he trashes his room. He dumped all his toys and books out of the shelves and toybox and colored on the walls with crayons. When he trashed his room, I made him stay in there until it was all cleaned up. So now he doesn't trash his room, but he pounds on the door (which we lock from the outside for timeout). Or if we're in the truck, he kicks the seat in front of him or the door beside him(right where the speaker is). I'm so tired of him destroying my things. Tuesday night we went to Chuckee Cheese, so hubby and I could sit and talk while Jamie ran around. All went well while we were there but when we left he started acting like a little monster, talking back. While hubby ran into Staples, we sat in the car. Jamie out of no-where, took his shoe off and threw it and hit me in the back of the head with it. Of course I spanked him for that one!!! I've told his teacher that I want to know if he's doing these things at school too. She's sent home a note twice in the last week saying he was in timeout for not listening/following instructions. TODAY, she called to tell me that he intentionally hit another child in the head with a block. OH MY GOD!!!! What do I do??????? It's like he's been spoiled being the only child, now that we have a puppy and a baby on the way, he is starved for attention and seems to be doing everything to get it. He pitches a fit whenever he doesn't get what he wants: toy, candy, McDonalds, whatever. We don't give in... no means no. But I feel like a total failure. Help? Advise? Nothing seems to work for more than a minute. Should I call Super Nanny????
Tracie
Topic: First time in this forum, glad I found it!
Hi folks, I just this morning found this forum after posting in the post-op pregnancy one and thinking to myself there out to be a forum for post-op parenting since so many of our food issues are going to carry over to our kids and spouses.
Here's a little background. I just turned 40 in May. I had my open RNY in may 2003, lost over a hundred lbs (130 I think? maybe a tiny bit more) but plateaued for 3 months, and decided at 1 yr out to get pregnant with doc's okay. WE;;, in may 2004 we conceived right away and Tripp was born in jan 2004. he's my angel and a total cutie... I still had and have some weight to lose to get to goal, I'd like to get to 180 or even 200, and then have plastics and workout to get rid of last 20 or so of skin. (skin is already a big issue, I am only 5'1" went from BMI of 68.5 to 43.2 currently.
(anything under 211 lbs for me is JUST obese no more super or morbid 
132 to 158 lbs is overweight and anything under 132 is normal for me.. sigh!)
Still e had years of miscarriages and infertility treatment and I knew about the hyperfertility that comes after WLS so we decided to amke a baby then have me finish my weight loss. That is still the plan after 1 more kid, yeah we got a little greedy hahah! Anyway I just knew how important it was to myself and my hubby to have a child even if it meant I'd never get to goal weight. Just seeing Tripp's smile told me I'd made the right choice.
He is now almost 21 months and I've just really started having to deal with tough thoughts regarding his eating habits. I feed him healthy nutritious stuff, but last 3 months he won't eat any meats, just fruits, and hubby gives himthings like dried pineapple, dates, pretzels and some junk food. he doesn't get junk more than once a week or so, fast food maybe once too if we are out and do not have a better choice.
Most of the time he out eats me and I just know as he gets older it is going to be difficult to explain why mommy eats such a different way than he does. or why his friends get candy and soda and we never have it in the house.
anyway , we are possibly pregnant again right now (have been trying and I got a faint line on the home test middle of the night monday, did blood test with doc and should find out today). So I want to start understanding for myself how to lay a good groundwork for my children and not be too rigid to the point they are abnormal or can never eat out or go to a friend's house without me freaking out about the garbage they might eat.
In my mind, what I owe my children in this world is love, a home, clothes, food, good values, and I owe him a better nutritional outlook than the one hubby and I had that helped us both become morbidly obese so young. Knowing my children will have 2 diabetic parents who have the obesity gene, I must be ever more determined to help them grow up healthy.
Anyway, that is where I am coming from
other silly data on me, irish and polish, married 15+ years to hubby, live in NW suburbs of chicago, stay at home mom for now, have a background in art, insurance, computers, child care, medical technology, and legal research. (can you tell I don't settle down easily in a career? haha!)
Anyway, so that's who I am and where I am coming from. hope to be here often.
Ciao!
Colleen
132 to 158 lbs is overweight and anything under 132 is normal for me.. sigh!)
Still e had years of miscarriages and infertility treatment and I knew about the hyperfertility that comes after WLS so we decided to amke a baby then have me finish my weight loss. That is still the plan after 1 more kid, yeah we got a little greedy hahah! Anyway I just knew how important it was to myself and my hubby to have a child even if it meant I'd never get to goal weight. Just seeing Tripp's smile told me I'd made the right choice.
He is now almost 21 months and I've just really started having to deal with tough thoughts regarding his eating habits. I feed him healthy nutritious stuff, but last 3 months he won't eat any meats, just fruits, and hubby gives himthings like dried pineapple, dates, pretzels and some junk food. he doesn't get junk more than once a week or so, fast food maybe once too if we are out and do not have a better choice.
Most of the time he out eats me and I just know as he gets older it is going to be difficult to explain why mommy eats such a different way than he does. or why his friends get candy and soda and we never have it in the house.
anyway , we are possibly pregnant again right now (have been trying and I got a faint line on the home test middle of the night monday, did blood test with doc and should find out today). So I want to start understanding for myself how to lay a good groundwork for my children and not be too rigid to the point they are abnormal or can never eat out or go to a friend's house without me freaking out about the garbage they might eat.
In my mind, what I owe my children in this world is love, a home, clothes, food, good values, and I owe him a better nutritional outlook than the one hubby and I had that helped us both become morbidly obese so young. Knowing my children will have 2 diabetic parents who have the obesity gene, I must be ever more determined to help them grow up healthy.
Anyway, that is where I am coming from
other silly data on me, irish and polish, married 15+ years to hubby, live in NW suburbs of chicago, stay at home mom for now, have a background in art, insurance, computers, child care, medical technology, and legal research. (can you tell I don't settle down easily in a career? haha!)
Anyway, so that's who I am and where I am coming from. hope to be here often.
Ciao!
Colleen 
Topic: RE: Single Mom of preschooler needs to talk to other single Moms please.
Hi Natalie : )
Well I am a single mom of a 19 mnth old, 4 yr old and 7 yr old. I just got the approval on Sept. 28th and my surgery is Oct. 11th.
I am sorta flip floppy on emotions right now. I will be driving myself the night before to Ocala where it is at then to the hospital the next day for surgery and my sister will come pick me up when I am released. I live about 1 1/2 hrs away.
YES I am scared a little bit- but you know deep in my heart I KNOW this is right for me.
If I do not do it I am surely going to only pick up more weight and have less things I can physically do with my kids as the years go on.
I feel in my heart I have a greater risk of dying later due to something obesity related than I do from my procedure and recovery from it.
I am trying no to read to much about people that had challenging experiences or I will get to much anxiety.
I keep telling myself that "yanno all my friends said child birth was the worst pain ever" yet I have 3 and lived to tell the tale : )
My son was 10lb 6oz- natural and through it all was so worth it.
: )
I will update my profile once I have my surgery but feel free to email me as well if you want : )
And to all the single parents out there KUDOS to you : )
Topic: RE: Any parents out there?
Hi, if she is at legal age I would support her in what ever she does. I am 32 and just had RNY. although I would do it over and over again, I would not recommend it to anyone in my family because I know the Risk involved. Although if someone decided to have it on there own, I would 1000% support them. I guess the reason for this is If something happened I would blame myself. I have spoke to people who it did not work out for. I really think it has to be there choice. Now if I had a minor child under 18 that wanted it and needed my approval. I would absolutely say no, wait till your 18 and do it on your own with my support. I have a 17 month old child. I just Hope she got her mothers Metabolism and not mine.
Topic: RE: Anyone have surgery with an infant in the home?
I know this is really late. When I had my WLS my son was 9 months old and I couldn't pick him up for a month it was hard but I still cuddled with him in the chair and bed. My husbands couisn came and stayed with us to help for the month that I couldn't lift him. He was such a BIG help!! I did pick him up I was feeling so much better I did ok carry him but then I bent down to get something out of the dishwasher and I had the worst pain that was the last time I picked him up till my doc gave me the OK. Just be careful and listen to your body my body told me that I wasn't ready to be lifting and he was less then 20 pounds at the time. Good Luck!!!
Sarah
264/175/150ish
Topic: RE: Anyone have surgery with an infant in the home?
My boys were 3 & 8 months at the time of my surgery. I didn't have any restrictions as to picking them up - though I did try and limit picking up my older son.
My surgery was done laproscopically. I think that makes a big difference!
My husband was home for a week - that was all the at home support I got (I'm a stay-at-home mom).
Good luck to you!
Nicole
-195lbs! 
Nicole
-195lbs! Topic: RE: Anyone have surgery with an infant in the home?
HI there...What type of surgery are u having. I had lap band aug 24 2005. I know its different with the others but with mine it was not to bad. My son was 3 then now he is 4. I know he is older than yours but if your son can get on your lap by his self that helps. It can be hard at times but if u are having lap band its not long before u can pick him up. I had help from my parents after my surgery..I donno what I would have done. So make sure someone will be with u to help out. Godd luck girl I am sure u will be fine.
Marla
Topic: Anyone have surgery with an infant in the home?
I am just wondering, about anyone that has had the surgery and had an infant in the house how did they do it?
Was it hard not being able to pick up your child?
Did you have a lot of support in your home?
Where you worried if you were to pick up your child that you would get a hernia or open something after surgery?
I do not have a date yet, I don't have my consultation until May and most likely not have my surgery until the end of the year. By that time my son will be 4 months away from turning 2.
Thank you for all our help in advance!
Topic: RE: Anyone ever have Iritis?
This is what WebMD had to say about it. It sounds like recurring episodes are common. Hopefully the eye doc will figure it out, but I doubt it has anything to do with your RNY.
"Iritis is an inflammation of the colored part of the eye (iris) that can cause redness, pain, light sensitivity, and in some cases, differing pupil sizes. Left untreated, severe iritis can permanently affect vision.
Uveitis and iridocyclitis are other terms used to refer to inflammation of this part of the eye.
Most people who develop iritis have recurring episodes. Although iritis often occurs for unknown reasons, it can be linked to certain long-term (chronic) diseases that cause inflammation, such as rheumatoid arthritis, inflammatory bowel disease, or other disorders. It may also occur as a result of infection, such as a herpes infection.
Iritis is diagnosed with a complete eye exam. Treatment includes medications given as eye drops or by injection next to the eye. "
Topic: Support for SOMEONE NEW!!!
Good Morning All,
Well I am sure you have all met Craig M. He introduced himself last week. Well anyway he had surgery a couple of months ago and has gone through a very rough time. He is new to this site and has only 1 comment on his support page.
So what do you say all?? Go in and show your support.
I had the pleasure of talking to him and he is a great person inside and out!! So take the time to check out his profile and show your support!!!
Here is the link:
http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/members/status.php?N=M1135867631
Thank you all once again!!
Erin
292/229/130
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