Single Mom of preschooler needs to talk to other single Moms please.

I'm a single Mom contemplating the laparoscopic gastric bypass surgery, but I'm very scared. Would like someone to talk to please.

I feel you I have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter, and I've been thinking about having the surgery, but I don't have support from family. I'm in perfect health except that I'm fat. Don't think negative thoughts, and negative things wouldn't happen. If you've done your research, and have a excellent doc, just prayer on it. I'm a strong believer of mind over matter. Good Luck Donna

I too am in great health, except I am fat. I would give almost anything but my daughter and my health to be thin, or at least less fat, but I worry that I am tempting the fates. I am confident in my surgeon, but he has warned of the risks. In the end I feel that I will live longer and be a better mother having WLS.

Natalie, Although I am not a single mom, my son was only 4 yrs old when I had my surgery. I was absolutely terrified that I would die, leaving him without his mother. But I felt that, in order to be part of his life, I needed to have this surgery. I was probably going to die early either way - on the table, or from my co-morbities. I was going to go out fighting! Since my surgery, I am so much more a part of my son's life. I am able to do more things with him. My husband and I have a better relationship, which in turn makes us have a better relationship with our son. I am not nearly as ashamed for him to be seen with me, therefore we go more places. I know it's scary, but so worth it in the end! You will be able to enjoy your life with your child. Good luck to you! Jennifer

I am a single mom of a 7 year old I was depressed and scared but surgery turned out to be the best thing that I could have done. I am happy my energy is increasing by the week and I am looking forward to next summer.

Thank you so much for all of your encouraging words. I am more and more confident that I am making the right decision.

Hi, I'm also a single mom of a great 2 year old boy. I know how it feels to be scared cause I'm going through the same feelings. I'm currently getting my lab test done and I'm also exited about this cause I know that when I go through with the surgery I'm gonna have more energy and I won't be inside all the time I'll be able to go with my son to the park, run and play ball with him. we just have to be strong... so If you ever need anybody to talk to let me know I guess were on the same boat. good luck

Hey girl....I'm a single mother of a 3 year old son.....His name is Samuel tyler and he is my life....I no what your going through....I have Cigna insurance and if ur familiar with them u no what i'v been through....I have been turned down 2 times for lap band.....The first time i was denied because the surgery was still under investigation....this time I did everything they wonted and they still denied me....but i'm still hangin in their. My dr is appealing my chase now am im trying not 2 get my hopes up but its hard I really won't this....Mainly because i wanna be around for my son. I wanna beable 2 do things with him. Right now he is young but I no it will be so hard on him having an over weight mother in school and everything. I went through being teased in school and I would rather not go through it again this time it would be hurting my son...So ne ways I'm here if u need 2 chat..Just e-mail me n e time. I hope everything works out. Keep God first and anything can happen. MARLA

HEY ,IM CHRISTAL ,IM NOT SINGLE BUT I AM MOTHER OF KARISTEN 6 AND MACAILYN 4 ,AND I HAVE SEVERAL PROBLEMS BECAUSE OF MY WEIGHT (AND SOME NOT) BUT THEY CAUSE ME TO BE HIGH RISK FOR THE SURGERY AND I AHVE NO SUPPORT FROM MY FAMILY.I AM VERY SCARED TO .I DONT KNOW IF I SHOULD OR NOT EITHER.I REALLY WANT IT ,BUT I ALSO WANT TO BE HERE TO SEE THEN GROW UP ,AND MY FAMILY ASKS WHY WOULD U TAKE THE CHANCE OF LEAVING UR GIRLS MOTHERLESS TO BE SKINNY?IM NOT DOING IT TO BE SKINNY BUIT NO ONE UNDERSTANDS THEY SAY WHY DONT U JUST TRY HARDER U CAN DO IT URSELF IF U TRY!!!SO I KNOW HOW U FEEL ,IM NOT REALLY SCARED OPF AFTER SURGERY JUST OF TH ESURGERY PART AND THE COMPLICATIONS,AND I HAVE THAT LITTLE VOICE SAYING WHAT IF U ...I DONT KNOW IF U SHOULD, BUT I REALLY WANT TO GO INTO THIS 100%SURE ITS WHAT I WANT BUT I DONT KNOW IF I CAN, BUT I THINK IT IS BEST FOR ME ,BUT JUST THE THOUGHT OF NEVER SEEING THEN AGAINS NEARLY KILLS ME ,SO I AM GOING THROUGH TH ESAME FEELNGS AS U ,IF U WANNA TALK!!!!!

Hi Natalie : ) Well I am a single mom of a 19 mnth old, 4 yr old and 7 yr old. I just got the approval on Sept. 28th and my surgery is Oct. 11th. I am sorta flip floppy on emotions right now. I will be driving myself the night before to Ocala where it is at then to the hospital the next day for surgery and my sister will come pick me up when I am released. I live about 1 1/2 hrs away. YES I am scared a little bit- but you know deep in my heart I KNOW this is right for me. If I do not do it I am surely going to only pick up more weight and have less things I can physically do with my kids as the years go on. I feel in my heart I have a greater risk of dying later due to something obesity related than I do from my procedure and recovery from it. I am trying no to read to much about people that had challenging experiences or I will get to much anxiety. I keep telling myself that "yanno all my friends said child birth was the worst pain ever" yet I have 3 and lived to tell the tale : ) My son was 10lb 6oz- natural and through it all was so worth it. : ) I will update my profile once I have my surgery but feel free to email me as well if you want : ) And to all the single parents out there KUDOS to you : )