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I recommend Dr. Esquerra at Mexicali Bariatric Center. Many OHers have had surgery there and are very happy with the experience and healthy.
Have you considered RNY? Gastric bypass is a great procedure for lightweights. If you've ever had reflux than it is a better procedure than VSG. You don't want to have to revise from VSG to RNY if you develop GERD or it worsens post-sleeve gastrectomy. Cut once, not twice.
So I'm looking at gastric sleeve and my weight is around 255-260 and my height is 6 ft 1/2 inch and i'm 50yo. Over the last 15 years my weight has been as high as 300lbs, and then as low as 240 (only after doing atkins stringently for 6 months). I work as a nurse so I wear scrubs which disguise my big belly which is where I carry most of my weight. People tell me that m y weight is fine, but i'm unhappy with the fact that I always seem to regain weight, and I'm scared of ending up like both of my parents---morbidly obese, diabetic, and crippling back pain. I'm fairly active with work and enjoy going to the gym and bicycling, but I can't get my weight below its current plateau for any length of time. I have no comorbidities---i'm not diabetic, no sleep apnea, etc, so this would be out of pocket. I am looking for folks who may have had this surgery with a BMI like mine, especially interested in those who might have gone to mexico.
Hello there,
I agree to a point with others that it is your life, and your health. However, if you spend a lot of time with family, the sister-in-laws included, they will need to be supportive in your endeavors to get to a comfortable, healthy goal weight. When they make the statement to just accept yourself you can easily respond you have, and per that fact, you understand that part of acceptance is coming to the realization of what is and is not healthy for you. You have accepted that there is an issue and are brave and tenacious enough to solve it your way with the support of family.
Thank them for giving you their support in the beginning by doing this you are setting your expectations to them that they will be supportive of your decision. You could make mention that their statement in the past to accept yourself helped you realize, that even they saw a need for a change, and that in a way helped you come to your current conclusion of what will work best for you.
If you do this in a loving way and they are not supportive they will not be no matter when you tell them.
Just my little food for thought.
Well good luck to you! Won't be long before you're on the loser's bench and feeling better!!
Over 100 lbs lost! and 13 lbs below goal weight!
Congratulations on your weight loss!
Thanks for the advice. I don't know that I'm not ever going to tell the SILs, because I have already told some other people in the family. I am not embarrassed about it or anything; I like being active, and I am doing this to preserve my current and future mobility so that I can remain active. I'm 56 and feel like it's now or never. I certainly am not going to tell them before the surgery, though. I don't want naysayers this close to the procedure.
I don't think a lot of people understand that even if you're tall and big-boned and can carry more weight than someone who is petite, your feet and knees only know what the number on the scale is 
I am not as tall as you at 5'6", but have had stress fractures and an ACL repair. My lower body is begging me to take a load off!
Age 56. HW: 233 SW: 214 VSG 9/20/18, Hosp. of the Univ. of Pennsylvania, Dr. Noel Williams
I disagree that you have to tell them eventually. It's your health and quite frankly nobody else's business, other than your husband's of course. But even at that the decision is ultimately yours. My husband is the only one who knows that I had surgery. I'm not sure those people in my circle would even be aware of WLS - or maybe they are and suspect it, but its not a conversation we have.
I've lost 110 lbs, and people are like wow, I didn't think you were that big....well I'm also 5'11 so I carried it well, but if ya get out the pictures, yeah, I was that big!!
Tell them only if and when you are ready. Good luck!
Over 100 lbs lost! and 13 lbs below goal weight!
Thanks for the advice. I am happy there is a place where I can talk about these things with people that have been there!
Thankfully I haven't received negative responses. I did get comments from people who said I didn't look big enough for surgery. I just responds thanks but the scale and my doctors disagree.
I would just respond that it's a decision you made for yourself and you want to give yourself the best life possible, whi*****ludes being a healthy weight.
Don't be afraid to stop the conversation if they keep stating their opinion and thoughts. While the have a right to their opinion, you have the right not to listen.
Best of luck
