Opinion pls

i have booked surgery for the end of April. I am getting flack from some professsional coworkers about my Bmi

i have tried many weight plans, exercise but my weight stays at the 180 which is affecting my back and knees in addition to flailing up my asthma. 

Has as anyone else had surgery with a similar bmi and if so please tell me good and bad experiences. 

Thanks

yvette

I don't know a single LW who hasn't gotten the "you don't need surgery" comments.  You have to do what's best for you and I promise you that when you get down to a normal BMI you with get the "you look GREAT Comments......!!!!

Best decision I've EVER done for myself!!!

Thank you I needed to hear that.

I've gotten the same comments. My BMI was around 37. People kept saying 'just stop eating' or 'just go on a diet'. Sure, why not do it...again and again and again and .... see where I'm going? I'm almost there and I've been on the pre-op shakes for about 9 days. I've lost another 12 lbs in the last 6 weeks so my bmi is now just under 35. You have to do what's right for you. This is your body, your life. 

My BMI pre-surgery was 36.2. I'm not quite 6 weeks post op and I'm at a 30.9 BMI. No regrets. NONE. I knew that doing it at a 36 BMI meant I wasn't going to do it at a 46 BMI in 5-10 years. I got a lot of comments about how I "wasn't that big" or "I think you see yourself bigger than you are". But, I ignored them and I feel great! 

I know that I could get to a number close to where you're starting  if I tried. My body seems to have a set point around 195, and I can drop to the upper 180s with a serious effort. My issue is that each time I get into the 180s, it's harder and takes significantly more time, less calories, more exercise. AND it creeeps back. I am done with the roller coaster. This past summer when I found myself back over 200lbs for the first time since 2010, I decided I would leverage that regain to qualify for WLS. I didn't gain it with that in mind, it slipped on all on it's own, but by god I'm done with this yoyo. DONE.

My family is disgusted with my choice, my friends are just confused, except my BFF who ha**** a metabolic shift that has put a tummy on her for the first time in her life. She's an exercise physiologist, she lifts weights and runs and knows everything you can know about fitness and suddenly she's like "OMG, what IS THIS EVIL POWER!!!" so she truly understands that I'm fighting a losing battle trying to keep on doing it the traditional way. 

I started at a BMI around 39, but was under 35 at the time of surgery, so I got the "you can do it without surgery" comments.  Yes, I was good at losing weight and had been at or near goal many times in my life. But I always started back up immediately after the diet and ended up higher than I started. Hence ending up at 219 with BP which couldn't be brought low enough and pre-diabetes. I am at a lower weight now than EVER in my adult life and have stayed in this vicinity longer than ever before. I have also changed what I eat and when I eat completely, but wouldn't have been satisfied with the portions pre-WLS.

So looking at your profile page, you hav a BMI of 32.8. I'd guess that puts you around 5'2". To get to a BMI of 25, you need to lose 45 pounds. 

Personally, I would not have weight loss surgery if I were 45 pounds overweight, but we all get to make our own decisions for ourselves. If you found a surgeon to do it and you want to have it done, then do it. 

This is why so many people do not tell others they are having weight loss surgery. 

I've been able to lose weight in the past, but it always comes back and I end up heavier than when I started. Making it even worse, it takes years before I make my next successsful attempt to lose weight. (BMI=37)

My husband thinks I should just eat less. It reminds me of people who told me to just drink less (I've been sober 10+ years now - best decision I ever made). I can't just eat less and stick with it long-term.

Like you, I started getting physical problems because of my weight. I can no longer do exercises I enjoy so my weight is climbing even faster. First it was joints, then blood pressure, then heart attack.

Life after surgery won't be perfect (taking vitamins, small meals, doctor visits, etc. for life), but at least I'll have an active life outside my house.

It would be easier if family/friends agreed with me, but past experience reminds me that I'm responsible for my health (not friends) and I'm the one that lives with the consequences of my decisions.

Looking forward to seeing more answers from people that had the surgery years ago.