" you don't need weight loss surgery"

sheriberi29
on 4/29/16 7:07 am - Cleveland, TN

so I just spent an extra 20 minutes at the hospital while doing my pre testing .... Listening to everyone I come in contact with that I dont need weight loss surgery . The registrar actually told me " you don't need to do this because I weigh 30 lbs more than you " ... Ummm ok .

thanks for letting me just voice my frustration 

Banded 6/9/09 HW 242 LW 142 Revision 198 m 1 loss 16 lbs 182. M 2 loss 4 lbs 178. M3 loss 6 lbs 174.m4 loss 4 lbs 168. M5 gain 2 lbs 170. M6 loss 7 lbs 163 M7 loss 5 lbs 159 M8 loss 1 lb 158 M9 loss 0 M10 155 loss 3 M11 154 loss 1 M12 loss 2 152 M13 loss 3 149 M16, 17 0 loss M 18 loss 4 lbs 145 (18 months 53 lbs)

lykapal
on 4/29/16 9:27 am
RNY on 05/16/16

OMG, I swear if one more person tells me that I'm not really fat, because they are X# of pounds heavier than me, I might have to throat punch them. Seriously, you're half a foot (or more) taller than me and weight 100# more than me, but that doesn't change the fact that I am morbidly obese!! ARGG!!!

Yep, I know how you feel. 

49/F 4' 11" Highest Wt. 183.8--Surgery Wt. 173.0--Current Wt. 115.2--Goal Wt. 115.0

L. 68
on 5/2/16 9:20 pm, edited 5/2/16 2:20 pm
On April 29, 2016 at 4:27 PM Pacific Time, lykapal wrote:

OMG, I swear if one more person tells me that I'm not really fat, because they are X# of pounds heavier than me, I might have to throat punch them. Seriously, you're half a foot (or more) taller than me and weight 100# more than me, but that doesn't change the fact that I am morbidly obese!! ARGG!!!

Yep, I know how you feel. 

THROAT PUNCH THEM???!!!!  LOLOL  I love it..

"Your not a failure if you fall your a failure if you fall and don't get up"

" Beauty is Pain"

goldlove1
on 5/5/16 11:14 am

Or the lovely..."don't you lose another pound" comment....I actually had someone tell I looked ill.

Ok, thanks didn't need or want your input.

 

 

Goldlove RNY 8/18/15 5'3 HW:245 SW:235 CW: 175 GW:140

Tarraeh46
on 5/16/16 11:09 am

Hi, 

we have similar stats and I've heard the same comments from family and "friends". Please people if you don't know my struggle keep your comments to your self. I'm pre op

4'9" HW196  BMI 40.6 CW284.6 GW120

MajorMom
on 4/29/16 4:45 pm - VA

Yep. Yep.  Lightweights been there. We get it!

 

5'1" -- HW 195/SW 187/GW 115 July 08/CW 121 Dec 2012
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Starting BMI between 35 and 40ish? 
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Jody ***
on 4/30/16 3:21 am - Brighton, MI
RNY on 10/21/08 with

The Registrar was out of line and should never have said that to you.  

I do believe we've all heard that.  This is a very hard time to be hearing it because of all the changes you will be going through and the uncertainty of it all.  After my first few negative episodes I didn't tell anyone else.  Just my husband and I didn't even tell my Mom until the night before.  

Next time someone says it say "My Doctor and I have agreed this is the best solution for me to regain my health and keep it".  or if you want to be snarky (which I can be) say "well obviously the Doctor thinks I need this or he wouldn't be doing the surgery"... 

Good luck!

HW-218/SW-208/CW-126/ Lowest Weight-121/Goal-125 - hit 8/23/09/Height-5'3"

Regain 30 lbs from 2012 to 2016 - got back on track and lost it.  Took 8 months. 
90+/- pounds lost      
BMI - 24 or so
Starting BMI between 35 and 40ish? 
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Liz WantsHealthForAll
on 5/1/16 5:07 am - Cape Cod, MA
VSG on 03/28/16

I had the same experience.  So annoying!  They don't know what our struggles have been, and maybe they are jealous because they haven't taken charge yet!  I do have to admit that sometimes I feel a little odd at the surgeons office when I'm in groups with people who have so much more to lose.  If they ask why I did the surgery (some do even there), I just tell them it was for health reasons.

Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish

DanaDenise
on 5/1/16 2:25 pm

As I was being wheeled in for surgery, the anesthesiologist told me I didn't look like I need the surgery.  REALLY?  That was a fine time to tell me! In a follow up appointment at the surgeon's office, one of the nurse's assistants was getting my info, and made some comment about herself that she hasn't had surgery because she hasn't given up yet.  So, I've been there.  Frankly, there are very few people I did tell.  I think some figured it out, but I don't talk about it.  I know at work people were ready to send meals when I toll a leave of absence for surgery!  LOL!  I had told a few of my colleagues who told them that I wouldn't want that!  I didn't look at the light weight forum before and during my weight loss.  I wish I had...I think it would have been helpful!

sheriberi29
on 5/1/16 2:39 pm - Cleveland, TN

Ugh was the nurse implying that we've given up for taking control of our weight ... 

Darn people can really say stupid things. I'm glad I found this board a few months ago as everyone was in my ear saying how silly it was to go to surgical measures when I just needed to get some self control. 

Banded 6/9/09 HW 242 LW 142 Revision 198 m 1 loss 16 lbs 182. M 2 loss 4 lbs 178. M3 loss 6 lbs 174.m4 loss 4 lbs 168. M5 gain 2 lbs 170. M6 loss 7 lbs 163 M7 loss 5 lbs 159 M8 loss 1 lb 158 M9 loss 0 M10 155 loss 3 M11 154 loss 1 M12 loss 2 152 M13 loss 3 149 M16, 17 0 loss M 18 loss 4 lbs 145 (18 months 53 lbs)

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