Pre op help I'm nervous

This is my second time going through the process this time I have gone a lot further and I'm so close to my actual surgery date I have so many people telling me not to do it because of the risk but my biggest thing is the risk of me being the way that I am it's just is greater can you guys please please please give me some words of encouragement I just want my life back

The only opinions that really matter are yours and your surgeons. Unless those people are medical professionals who know your medical history and are truly, genuinely concerned for your well-being, let it roll right off your back. Seriously, don't listen to them. Just nod and smile and say "thank you for your concern, but I know what I need and I trust my surgeon". Please, whatever you do, don't let other peoples irrational fears dissuade you. You've made this decision and you know deep down it will save your life. You are doing this for you, not them.

Welcome, and best of luck on your surgery!

Great advice so far.  I had exactly the same reason - I wanted my life back.  And I got it.  I am 67, off all meds, healthier than so many my age.  My last stress test I performed like a healthy 40 yr old according to the technician. 

Are there risk? Absolutely, but what are the risk with staying where you are?  And what are the chances of losing and keeping it off otherwise.  If you look at national averages, you don't have a very good chance of doing it by yourself.

It is hard?  Absolutely, you will have regrets, you will feel like you were run over by a truck but you will get better and healthier.  Can you regain?  Absolutely, it will never be easy, or for most of us it isn't.  But at least you will have a tool and a fighting chance.  And stick around here and you will have a support system.

My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.  I love my RNY.

I'm 59 and had my surgery in August of last year.  From the start of my WL journey, in February of last year, I've lost 92 pounds and have gotten a better life than I ever had.  I'm off all meds for blood pressure, cholesterol and irritable bowel. I'm no longer pre-diabetic and I am feeling fantastic.  

My husband and I walk or hike at least 3 miles a day, so I'm no longer sitting on the sidelines watching, instead of participating.  For the first time since I was 22, I am happy to wear a bathing suit in front of people, instead of just my husband.  Clothes shopping is fun, instead of being a chore.  I really can't tell you enough about how wonderful I feel and look compared to just one year ago.  

This is the best thing I have ever done for myself, besides getting married and having children.  As so many people on OH say, my only regret is that I didn't do this sooner.

I'm 8 weeks out from the RNY.  I feel Great and have lost 40 pounds so Far.  I had the Best Surgeon, He never talked about RISK'S, he was so confident, I asked him some questions and he said I'd have no problems and he was right, ..  for the life of me I really don't know what the quote risks are??,  they do so many of these surgeries now, ..... my small scars are already almost invisible.  I've been through major major surgeries in my life I never second-guessed this surgery I was finally going to do something for me I have no regrets I know two people that have done the surgery and they would tell me just get it done don't question it and it's the best thing they ever did for themselves.  But this has to be your decision best of luck to you.