Is it normal to second guess surgery

Hi guys . I'm new to sight. Posted about not having support... A few days ago ..you were all so kind and loving and reached out to me .

I am really second guessing surgery..I was so looking forward to it . The negativity is just to much. I think I'm going to finish the nutrition classes and my phycoligist appointment . Then I should have all my requirements in to have surgery approved.

I think I'm going to try on my own AGAIN..I have lost and gained so many times.i just have to figure out why I keep regaining. I'm just so confused....please say a prayer for me that god shows me what to do.  

I have a lot more to my story .why this weight loss is so important to me . But I don't want to announce it to everyone...just keep me and my beautiful daughter in your prayers and that god gives me strength to lose weight with or without surgery. Because it isn't just my life it's my daughters life also...thank you.

so confused,,,

Prayers going up for you. 

i guess we hit a point where you just know you can't do it on your own any more. When that time hits, you know that you know that you know, and it becomes a determination thing. Good luck!

--gina

I'll pray for peace and clarity for you. I def worried and second guessed myself and found comfort in this, psalm 139:16

All the days ordained for me

were written in your book

before one of them came to be. 

If it's my time it doesn't matter if I'm on an or table or a bus! 

Good luck with whatever you decide!

I'm sorry you are so confused.  I'm guessing you don't have a good support team at home. I have definitely sent up a Prayers for you and your DD.  ! If you want to private message me I'm available.

My family was terrified something was going to happen to me so I told them ALL that this was my decision and they couldn't change my mind.  I didn't want them feeling any quilt if something did happen. I tried WW on and off for over 30 years and except for the first time I never kept my weight off more than a few months. How old are you?  The older you get the harder it is to keep it off. It's not healthy to keep gaining and losing. I feel there is less chance of me dying from natural causes because I am so much healthier and happier.  

I'm very fortunate because surgery doesn't scare me.  I have a lot of trust in the Drs. I choose but more importantly I trust God to take care of me and if HE choices for me to have complications then it is in His plan.  On the other hand if anyone in my family goes through surgery I am a nervous wreck because I selfishly don't want to lose them or want them to endure pain.

I can honestly tell you that my husband, daughters, and grandchildren's  lives have benefited many times over because I had surgery and I have lost all of this weight. The only regret I have is not doing it when I was younger.  Before WLS I didn't even realize how much of life I was missing out on.  It amazes me every day how much I have changed inside and out.

(((HUGS)))

It can be a very emotional and confusing time prior to surgery. I had negative comments made and vowed NOT to tell anyone about it.  I told my Mom the day before and she was 'against' it.  I told her I was doing this for ME, not her. 

I hope you can get the clarity you need to make the right decision for YOU!

Prayers for you.

it is Normal for  some people to be nervous and second guessing. Not for me, I couldn't wait to get on the or table and get going. I was scared to death. Something was going to stop me from getting the surgery.

my thought about doing. It " on my own" is this: if I couldn't it  "on my own" and maintain the weight. Loss, wouldn't I have already done it? Well, of course I would. The fact is ,as you said yourself,you almost get there then fall off. 

Just to clarify,when one has weightloss surgery,they are still doing it" on their own". All the WLS are just tools,you have to use. The tool and do the work. The tool makes the job easier and possible to continue with the success of your journey.

GL

I've had a lot of doubt and second guessing in my life but one thing I knew and know without question is that there would be no way to maintain a normal weight for me without surgery.  No doubt.  Maybe it's because I was 45 when I had my first surgery and had such a history of losing and regaining that it was dizzying.  Losing weight I had down.  I did it millions of times but keeping it off was beyond my abilities without additional help and for me that help came in the form of WLS.  If I had even the tiniest hope of being able to maintain a normal weight by myself I would never have subjected myself to surgery.  Go with your heart and your gut and shut out other people's voices and opinions.  This is your life and you know what you are capable of doing.

I second guessed for the better part of a year....and even almost walked away on my surgery day...but I'm now one year post op and when I look back I realize this was the best thing I've ever done for myself and my family! All of the benefits outweighed the what ifs for me....saying a prayer for you that you'll find what works for you.