Holy Cow I think my surgeon actually gave me a DS !!!

What I'm actually DOING is fixing up a waterfront outbuilding on the property that my husband and i jointly co-own for me to live in unmolested by his " princess ".  ( the 450 lb 6'6" son *****cently put me in the hospital with contusions and a head injury because he threw me off my bed  violently to the floor slamming me head into the bedstand on the way down )

There is a temporary stay-away order for him in place but my husband has lost his 38 foot boat wasting LITERALLY  $50,000 in lawyer's fees to get the LAST stay away order  dismissed lol..Obviously my husband  feels he can't live without the constant company of the vodka -swilling "princess" ( codependence ! enabling !! )

Never mind that he is ruining any prospect  of independence or a CAREER  for his son.. who I ( not my husband ) got INSURANCE FOR < ARRANGED A GASTRIC BYPASS FOR ( to give him a LIFE ) , encouraged  to STUDY , WORK .. finally make a LIFE other than controlling the remote living on the couch and ******g and puking in his bed after swilling multiple bottles of vodka due to frustration of not having any career or education at 30 years OLD ...In truth , only I have shown him the unselfish love I believe his mother would have had she not been killed off herself by these mens' unbridled selfishness and lack of caring in her early forties ...  I , unlike his grandfather and father actually think of his future .. and how he's settling for crumbs in the PRESENT rather  than pursuing the pride and self-fulfillment of true independence and financial stability .His father ( *****cieved a distal RNY himself 11 plus years ago putting his diabetes  and arthritis into remission  ) actually talked him OUT  of getting bariatric surgery with scare -stories !!! 

At this point I probably really shouldn't CARE  but it wounds me so much that they're trying to divvy up everything I worked so hard to achieve over these last few years rather than letting it mature and really accrue value and reap  FOREVER profits ... why was I dumb enuf to get involved with addicted , financial FOOLS ?!!

TtHE FUNNY THING IS MY stepson is almost MY age .. and every court thinks HES my husband till I set them right . 

REALLY - I've worked long enough and set aside enough  at almost his age  to RETIRE ... and i put MYSELF through y.ears of graduate school , paying tuition , apartment and property taxes ...  

If what you are showing him is unselfish love I would hate to see what it would be like if you hated someone.

I have been through divorce and it does consume you and make you crazy, even in the best of cir****tances and this certainly isn't one of those.  Please seek out some real life help and support.  I think when total strangers on the internet can see how unstable you are then it is time to address it.

I don't think cosigning a youngish man's violence , alcoholism and shiftlessness are doing him or anyone around him any favors so yes , I do believe taking steps to prevent the continuance of these habits is kind and caring . Its also kind and caring to MYSELF to use  the courts for protection and ensure as far as possible that  I am not in physical danger  .This is only common sense , no ?

I know its only the internet .. but I do resent baseless accusations  of instability particularly from other women

.  We live in  a sexist world where its all TOO easy to have any accusation of mental issues believed particularly when its  regarding the behavior of a middle aged woman ... simply because MOST people in our society can't understand ever LIVING as a middle aged or " unattractive  "  woman .. and so think that she must be so ANGRY or just made so crazy because now that she realizes she is economically disadvantaged and likely to stay that way forever ... and ( God forbid ! ) is no longer desired  by most men , so  can't delude herself that she will achieve her ambitions through marriage ...she must have become  NUTS lol  .

In reality I think women are a lot stronger than society gives us credit for - but we particularly should be careful about bandying about these words and perpetuating these cruel stereotypes towards other women we disagree with . ((()))

((()).)ty The barn-raising was very successful and now i"m waiting to hear from an "retired  Italian guy " who will I hope help me with the most skill requiring  jobs ( framing out a temporary support for a masonry 1930"s building main supporting wall and cutting and replacing the rotten sill and beam underneath. 

I'm ordering the windows and crossing my fingers for a reasonable  quote on the giant job of the plumbing ( tying into a cesspool, digging up and replacing water pipes 54 " underground ) . 

I really DO enjoy doing an excellent job with these significant challenges ... and I'll be very happy to see this beautiful home functioning  with the updated energy effficient modern systems it deserves  .