So very unhappy today.

I just have to get this off my chest.

My surgeon is very pleased with my progress so far, why can’t I be happy with it?  I still see the fat woman in the mirror even though I’ve lost a lot of weight.  My blood pressure is fantastic, my labs are great, I’m off most of the meds that I was on for the Fibromyalgia, I’m active and I physically feel better than I have in years.  So why am I so discontent? I see these women in the Capital and they are thin and beautiful and look so happy.  I KNOW only I can make myself happy.  I’m working with a therapist who has had wls too and she’s been great.

Things have been stressful at work, DH is in transition to becoming DW and although I knew this going into the marriage, it is making things stressful at work for me.  My family and even though we have a no tolerance policy for harassment at work, my coworkers are far from supportive and have somewhat ostracized me.  Her family and coworkers (we work at the same state agency, different departments) are rallying around her.  Makes wanting to eat especially bad carbs all the more tempting for me.  She has been my biggest fan and supporter in my weight loss journey and I’m her biggest fan and supporter in her journey. 

Until my DW came out at work, my coworkers were very supportive of my weight loss journey even though some of them have had the surgery and failed (eating crap at every turn) and now they are telling me I’m too thin (currently 174 pounds with a goal of 145) and I need to eat the bagels, cookies, donuts, potato chips, candy and other stuff they bring in every single day. 

Thank you for listening, I just had to vent today.

Susan

Woah - that sounds like a lot to deal with.  My diet is less than perfect at present - I'm still hoping they'll develop some sort of brain surgery to help us, he he!! ;-)

I'm sending you a great big HUG and some warm positive vibes.  There are some smart cookies and I'm sure they'll be along with great advice shortly. :-)

although we sometimes act and think like it, the world really doesn't revolve around how big or little we are.  big or small, we still have good days and bad days, stress and happiness and everything in between.  some of us have dealt with all the ups and downs with food.  now we have to learn other ways.  It is hard.  When the weight is dropping off, everyone is on our side and the world is spinning in our direction.  It doesn't last and reality sets in.  You are right, only you can make yourself happy.  We have to find different ways of dealing with our stress, frustration and pain. 

For me, exercise and the ponies keep me sane.  My stress level has been skyrocketing lately with all the state changes in my program, new staff and clients and RAIN. 

Hope you can find some ways to help with your stress.  Meanwhile,   hugs and support from me and all of us.

Whats a DW ?

May I suggest a nice hot healing BATH   ? followed by a rejuvenating SNOOZE    (((()))))

Hi there,

DW is a Dear Wife.  My husband is transitioning to become female.

Ahh !!  ty for explaining .  Wow U  ARE an amazingly supportive and loving accepting human being !    

Isn't love wonderful in ALL its forms ?  

That's a ton to take on.  Take it slowly, cut yourself some slack, and congratulate yourself on how much you have accomplished.  Can you have a 1/2 a glass of wine with that bath?  Okay for me it's good, for others a bad suggestion.  Keep on toward your weight goal.  You will get there.  I am 5 foot 8 inches and at 131 I still see fat because I still have fat.  It's okay.  Avoid listening to others opinions about your weight.  Your opinion is what matters most.  

That is a lot of stress! Oh my.  I can't add much to what others say, except find ways to de-stress - but also, try not to compare yourselves to others.  That can be so harmful and intimidating.  Plus, if you're anything like me, when I'm feeling good about myself I'm happy and feeling slimmer, when things are going wrong I'm feeling fat - so much of it is what's going on in our self-perception and mood and not necessarily what's actually happening.  Maybe if you keep that in mind it can help.