OT-worst week of my life

 My husband went to visit his mom in NY.  He told me to go ahead and sell his Kindle Fire to my coworker.  In an effort to erase all the programming I stumbled upon an email app.  Apparently my DH has been having multiple affairs for quite some time with strangers.  There were a lot of emails, complete with pictures.  His most recent being the Friday before he left.  This isn't the first, but it is the last.  Since Wednesday, I have filed for separation/divorce and found a new place to live.  We put a contract on a new house build (my dream house) last Monday.  I was able to cancel the contract, thank Godness.  The builder, BTW, was awesome.  Legally, he did not have to return our earnest money, but when hearing the situation, did exactly that.  I opened a new checking account and savings and a credit card in my name.  He gets home Monday night and I hope to be out of here by then.  It's very civil.   He is a sex addict, I know that so does he.  But it has been very very stressful.  I called my counselors office and she has left the practice.  Damn.  I have an appt with a new one tomorrow.  I can't eat ice cream or chocolate and I can't drink!  WTF!  I need new coping mechanisms.  I'm busy right now.  I'm going to my DD for a new grandson in 3 days.  I'll be there 2 weeks.  I'm worried about when I get back.  I haven't weighed myself yet but I bet I did well this week.  Thank goodness for my coworkers and friends. They have reminded me to drink water every couple of hours and to eat occasionally.

((((Tonya)))) I'm so sorry. I hope things will be ok and all this will be behind you soon. :(

--gina
 

Oh Tonya (((HUGS))) to you - what a shock to you. 

I hope you can find a constructive coping mechanism - I know its easy to fall back into eating to handle it.  Stay strong and think about yourself!  You deserve it.

Tonya, I am SO sorry that you are dealing with this...keep strong and you will make it thru the other side.

Liz

Oh dear.  this is a bad dream I know you wish you would wake up from.  Sounds like you are on top of the whole situation and handleing it very well.  Glad you have a trip to keep you busy.  Busy is the best coping I have found.  Glad you could get out of the house and get your money back.  I'll be swinging for you, stay strong.

I am deeply sorry...

You have made the right decision..

http://www.journeytohealingandjoy.com/

I am attaching a link to a site I believe you will find very helpful.  Marsha Means also does group and one-on-one phone  counseling specializing in this area.

 Thanks.  I actually found this site before.  We went to therapy last time, but our marriage counselor and his counselor both said he didn't fit the criteria for a sex addict.  Unfortunately, he lied about the extent and nature of his affairs to all of us so it wasnt an accurate representation.  Hopefully, he will get the help he needs this time.

Tonya, lots of (((HUGS))). What a shock, but I have to say that you are handling things very, very well. It seems that you have taken control of the situation and that, of itself, is a very effective coping mechanism. You had some choices, you could have eaten yourself into oblivion or you could have taken control of the situation and effectively dealt with the matter. You chose the latter. Kudos to you for taking your power back.


Gail

 Thanks Gail.  It's been tough.  But I am a strong person and have built a small but effective support system.  I'm blessed that way.

Tonya,

I am so, so sorry you have had to deal with this.

You are incredibly strong and making the right decision. I can
only imagine how difficult this past week has been. You will
survive this and have a good support from friends and children.
Vent away with them and us. With counseling, things will get better.
You are amazing and this is NOT your fault.

Sending healing thoughts...

Jennifer