How tall are you?

I'm 5'4 129 and i want to get 105.  It may be that i get within 10lbs of that and decide differently because of looking old but that for the moment is my goal.

I'm 5'3" and I weigh about 105 and I think I look like crap but I am 54 and losing all this weight I feel makes me look older.  Maybe I could have gotten away with it when I was a lot younger but not now.
I never planned on losing this much, it's just where I landed.  I actually landed under 100 for a bit so this is an improvement.  I got into size 0 and even girls clothes sizes 12 and 14.  Now I am wearing size 2's but they are a little big.  My size goal was a size 6 or 4, no smaller.  Ultimately I would like to get to around 120 to 130 or even 135.  I received a lot of positive feedback at that weight and soon after the "You are losing too much" comments started.
They way I look at it I have a nice roomy cushion for a bounce back when that happens.
I don't know how old you are but I would think that you are at a good weight now for your height unless you're going for bounce back room, too.

Ladytazz,

Thanks for your post.

Terrified of the bounce back and also i do believe that 105 is probably too low but i need a far away goal just so i have to say, "I still have x amount to lose". 

I'm terrified of maintenance, it's something i have no idea how to do, 12 years ago i lost 100lbs through diet and exercise and kept it off for 10 years but i realized in that time, it was easier to lose weight than maintain and so I'd gain 5-7 then lose it again.  It's a process.  I do hope that i look in the mirror and say "Enough" but i still see areas.  So even though i say 105, I probably mean 115.  Out of the 120's anyhow since i haven't been there as an adult.  I know it's crazy but the idea that i still have 20lbs to lose makes me accountable.  More issues than than you can swing a cat at. 

When you weighed 130 did you like how you looked or was it just the positive feedback you liked?.  I keep thinking i will know it when i see it but i also know how unreliable we are when viewing ourselves.  I don't listen to others because since i hit 150 everyone i know tells me to stop, I'm too skinny, crazy talk. I think I'd like to be a size 2 bottoms and 4 top(boobs hung around, guess i should say so far) but again so much of it is in the ether.  I'm, 42. and have been the slowest loser from the start, (6lbs in the first 6 weeks). I think i should probably start a photo diary now of my face and see if it becomes any clearer to me.

Boy do I understand about fear of maintenance.  At least you were able to maintain for 10 years.  I don't think I have ever been the same size from one year to the next.  Losing weight I knew how to do.  Gaining it was even easier.  But staying the same?  A foreign concept to me.  I am still in awe that I am wearing clothes that I bought a year ago.  First time I can remember not being too big to fit into my clothes from the previous year.  I may actually wear something out instead of outgrow it.
I honestly felt good once I got under 150.  I know for me that when I am under 150 I no longer look overweight but I would be decribed as normal size by someone first seeing me.  135 has always been a very good weight for me.  I did get down to about 118 a few times and felt ok but I was decribed as too skinny by many at that weight.  When I got to 100 people thought I was dying.  Now the feedback I hear is that I am still too thin but I don't look as unhealthy as I did.  But being 54 the gaunt face just makes me look older.  At around 135 my face was fully and I felt I looked better.

Don't listen to others unless it is your surgeon or PCP who says you are now an unhealthy person.  People have all different reasons/motivations for saying the things they say.  If you go lower, would that threaten the skinny friend, skinny relative because they lose that coveted position?  Would your heavier friends, relatives feel more threatened?
 
I have found those who have truly been in my cheering section always tell me "do what makes the happy."  The only time one of my daughters said anything was when I reached goal.  It did not last long.  Maintenance is hard work.  I bounced up 10 pounds and once 12.  I told my daughter give it time.  We lose very quickly, look gaunt, but eventually our skin conforms and we begin looking better.  When I hit 131 again, only 3 pounds off my lowest, my daughter told me "Mom you were right.  Even though you are only 3 pounds up from your lowest, you look much better this time.  I guess it takes time."  I'm back up to 134 and getting back down is something I am determined to do.

You may look gaunt for a while, but give it time.  If you reach your goal and stabilize and truly do not like the way you look, you can adjust your weight.  But what you said about maintenance is very true. 

I'm so comfortable in weight loss mode.  there are clear rules of what i can or can't do.  Maintenance is less solid ground for me.  I've never done well. I'm the type that you give a little rope to and they'll hang themselves.  Maybe i just need to try to learn maintenance and figure out the rules of it.  I know now putting off a lot of the social aspects of my life is doable because it's for x amount of time.  I have no idea how not to have that glass of wine in my regular life.  I don't even want to.  I'm sorta the "It will all be worth it" type of gal.  The "This new behavior is how it's gonna be forever"  is totally alien to me.  Good news is i still have a ways to go to figure it out, but it feels like figuring this out will be the real work of weight loss for me, for life.
 

Edelu,
I don't know what it is like to not be in weight loss mode. I was a chunky kid then got thin in HS but I started skipping meals.

Although I say I'm ready to stop losing, in the back of my mind I want to get to 125 just to see if I can.

4'11".  I seem to be staying in the 115-116 range.

4'11" tall and working toward my goal of 115.

I am 5'8" and weigh 172, however I wear a size 8 or 10. Actually even got into a pair of size 6 jeans, but they didn't look good. I am currently focused on improving my body fat percentage and not so much about the scale any more.