I am Scared?
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on 4/30/12 6:47 am
on 4/30/12 6:47 am
I am looking into the VSG... I don't have any co-morb, however I do have BMI of 36... I have read, read, and re-read...I guess I am stuck at the "is this really what I want to do"- I know I wanna be healthy and be able to play with my young children. I want to look at myself and feel good. - Yet, when I read everything, I am sooo scared I will regret my decision. Never eat anything again? I mean never go out with our friends for drinks? I guess I am asking can you Ever go to a restaurant again? IE: My favorite place is Olive Garden.. great salad, bread, great italian... Love that place LOL.. (sorry) - so I think, *if* I had this surgery, FINALLY I won't hate how I look, however I can never again have Chicken Parm.. *then* I say well, whats more important my health or that chicken.. I know how dumb this all sounds.. but I want to eat a piece of my 2 year olds birthday cake, I want to have *some drinks*, - My husband supports me either way.. I just feel so confused.. Did any of you feel this way? I won't even go into all the diets.. I just kinda took the attitude of this is who I am, my family/hub love me, I don't look *that horrid*, and this is life.. any thoughts?
I totally felt this way ! I had some many "last meals" it was pathetic :( You can have your favorite things but in moderation :) Good luck to you on your decision.
Mandy
Mandy
HW-298 SW-251 Loss/Month post RNY(1)-23.5,(2)-23.3,(3)-9.9,(4)-10.6,(5)-8.9,(6)-7.7,(7)-4.2,(8)-7.5,(9)-1.7,(10)-10.8*first goal reached*,(11)-6,(12)-1.3,(13)-0.3,(14)+2.9-*changed scales that weigh 2lbs heavier*,(15)-0.3(16)-4.7(17),+5.8(18)-1.5,(19)+4.4,(20)-+4,(21)-1.2,(22)+3.5,(23)
I had RNY rather than VSG, so things may be a bit different.
BUT - I can eat pretty much anything as long as I account for it (no large portions, no pigging out, consistent exercise). For me, alcohol is not worth the headache it now gives me, but the VSG may be different.
If I go out with friends, I generally order an appetizer or sampler, and take most of it home for DH (Maleficent the pouch doesn't like most left overs). I eat salad, bread rarely (I turn into a female Hulk... and NO ONE likes me when I get mad after I have refined carbs more than once a week or so - but that appears to have been my pattern pre-op as well), and Italian with less pasta (which Olive Garden will do if you ask). I have a small piece of birthday cake at parties.
As far as "this is life - " for me, it wasn't. I had difficulty moving, health issues that were increasing, and a massively screwed up metabolism. For me, I needed this. You're the only one who can decide if YOU need this. Take your time - it's a big decision.
BUT - I can eat pretty much anything as long as I account for it (no large portions, no pigging out, consistent exercise). For me, alcohol is not worth the headache it now gives me, but the VSG may be different.
If I go out with friends, I generally order an appetizer or sampler, and take most of it home for DH (Maleficent the pouch doesn't like most left overs). I eat salad, bread rarely (I turn into a female Hulk... and NO ONE likes me when I get mad after I have refined carbs more than once a week or so - but that appears to have been my pattern pre-op as well), and Italian with less pasta (which Olive Garden will do if you ask). I have a small piece of birthday cake at parties.
As far as "this is life - " for me, it wasn't. I had difficulty moving, health issues that were increasing, and a massively screwed up metabolism. For me, I needed this. You're the only one who can decide if YOU need this. Take your time - it's a big decision.
Rebecca
Circumferential LBL, anchor TT, BL/BR, brachioplasty 12-16-10 Drs. Howard and Gutowski
Thigh lift 3-24-11, Drs. Howard and Gutowski again!
Height 5' 5". Start point 254. DH's goal: 154. My guess: 144. Insurance goal: 134. Currently bouncing around 130-135.
Circumferential LBL, anchor TT, BL/BR, brachioplasty 12-16-10 Drs. Howard and Gutowski
Thigh lift 3-24-11, Drs. Howard and Gutowski again!
Height 5' 5". Start point 254. DH's goal: 154. My guess: 144. Insurance goal: 134. Currently bouncing around 130-135. 
Your questions are all valid, but I think you may have to go deeper and ask yourself are you truly ready for a life-changing surgery? I do have a VSG, and at 1+ year out I can eat pretty much anything I wish in small quantities, but I always have to ask 'should I eat this?' I'm picking up vibes in your answer that you may not quite ready to let go of certain food choices that will certainly sabotage the success of any WLS (except perhaps the DS, but then you have to accept the surgical risks and complications that come with that procedure~ personal choice). I really like how I feel when I eat healthy, and that means basically no simple carbs, and that means Olive Garden is now on my no-go list.
WLS is an amazing tool, but there are consequences to our decisions, and they are not all focused on the medical complications we all dread. Best of luck.
WLS is an amazing tool, but there are consequences to our decisions, and they are not all focused on the medical complications we all dread. Best of luck.
Height: 5'5" / HW: 223 / SW: 196 / GW: 125 reached 12/22/2011 / CW: 121
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