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Dasie is my adorable, love of my life Maltese.
In 2000, we had an unfortunate turn of events in our family. My youngest daughter, 17 at the time, met someone whom the family clear recognized as trouble. She had always been so respectful. Within weeks her behavior changed and not too many weeks following her 18th birthday, she eloped. Her husband is abusive. We are forbiden to see her, and she has not been to our home in 7 years..no Christmas, Thanksgiving, Mother's/Father's day, birthdays ...never. She lives 35 minutes away.
When she eloped, we did not even know her whereabouts. That event plunged me into a deep depression. I was taking medication, surrounding myself with prayerful people, but nothing worked .In the early days we were eventually allowed to see her occasionally. After what we believe was yet another abusive event, her husband bought her a Maltese. I fell in love with her dog, so much so that a few months later I bought Dasie.
What therapy and anti-depressants could not do, Dasie did. She is my shadow. Her unconditional love replaced something deep within my soul. She is now 12, blind from cataracts and still my buddy. She does not like the bed any longer because she is afraid of the edge. So each and every morning we get up together, usually around 1:30 am, and she goes to her pillow in our family room. She will not lay down until she hears me on the sofa laying next to her.
I'm trying to prepare myself for the eventual day when I will no longer have her. My middle daughter tells me every few months she is really worried about me, and my huband, when that day come.
I guess you can tell I'm pretty over-the-tp about her. Wherever I go, she goes. If I fly, she is in the cabin with me. She is my flower.
In 2000, we had an unfortunate turn of events in our family. My youngest daughter, 17 at the time, met someone whom the family clear recognized as trouble. She had always been so respectful. Within weeks her behavior changed and not too many weeks following her 18th birthday, she eloped. Her husband is abusive. We are forbiden to see her, and she has not been to our home in 7 years..no Christmas, Thanksgiving, Mother's/Father's day, birthdays ...never. She lives 35 minutes away.
When she eloped, we did not even know her whereabouts. That event plunged me into a deep depression. I was taking medication, surrounding myself with prayerful people, but nothing worked .In the early days we were eventually allowed to see her occasionally. After what we believe was yet another abusive event, her husband bought her a Maltese. I fell in love with her dog, so much so that a few months later I bought Dasie.
What therapy and anti-depressants could not do, Dasie did. She is my shadow. Her unconditional love replaced something deep within my soul. She is now 12, blind from cataracts and still my buddy. She does not like the bed any longer because she is afraid of the edge. So each and every morning we get up together, usually around 1:30 am, and she goes to her pillow in our family room. She will not lay down until she hears me on the sofa laying next to her.
I'm trying to prepare myself for the eventual day when I will no longer have her. My middle daughter tells me every few months she is really worried about me, and my huband, when that day come.
I guess you can tell I'm pretty over-the-tp about her. Wherever I go, she goes. If I fly, she is in the cabin with me. She is my flower.
Four years ago we moved to Utah. Shortly after we moved I found out my DH was having several online affairs. I was devastated and alone. My church and friends and family were 1000s of miles away. Also at that time my bipolar teenaged daughter decided she wasn't going to take medication anymore. So, I got Buster Brown my Shih Tzu. I love that dog more than anything. He has been my daily dose of sunshine for the last several years. My DH had 2 more affairs and my daughter was hospitalized for suicide watch and he has been there for me to cry on every step of the way. Now after intensive therapy, all the way around, DH and I are better now than ever and DD is doing well, but my Buster Brown still makes me smile everyday!
Start weight 226. Surgery weight 218 on 1/6/12
Thanks for sharing, you have been through a lot. I feel so sad for you when I read about what has happened with your daughter and your ability to have a relationship with her. I hope that a light comes on for her and she has the strength to leave the abusive situation she is in.
I'm not an animal lover myself, (In small doses is great!) but this gives me real understanding into people who are.
So brave of you to share this with all of us. Thanks for being willing to open yourself up and let us get to know you!
I'm not an animal lover myself, (In small doses is great!) but this gives me real understanding into people who are.
So brave of you to share this with all of us. Thanks for being willing to open yourself up and let us get to know you!
Laurie Height: 5'10" HW 281, Consult 276, SW 269.9, CW 238.7
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Thank you so much for those kind and thoughtful words. We are an extremely close family. If anyone had told me this could have ever happened to us, I would have said not possible. I hold onto my faith that God is keeping her safe and believing one day He will restore our family. Three days after she eloped, her husband's step-mother, whom we had never met, told us several months prior to meeting our daughter, his 3 year relationship with his high school sweetheart was ended by that girl's father intervening. When it became clear to us what we were dealing with, my husband attempted to do the same. We figure he was not going to allow another father to intervene in his relationships, so this time he made it legal. They barely knew each other. He was extremely charismatic and she very naive.
Thanks for sharing :)
HW-298 SW-251 Loss/Month post RNY(1)-23.5,(2)-23.3,(3)-9.9,(4)-10.6,(5)-8.9,(6)-7.7,(7)-4.2,(8)-7.5,(9)-1.7,(10)-10.8*first goal reached*,(11)-6,(12)-1.3,(13)-0.3,(14)+2.9-*changed scales that weigh 2lbs heavier*,(15)-0.3(16)-4.7(17),+5.8(18)-1.5,(19)+4.4,(20)-+4,(21)-1.2,(22)+3.5,(23)
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