Another Monday
Just a little update. I finally got to ride my bike today. It was a nice day, not too cold. As soon as I got on it I felt so good. I rode about 4 miles and it just felt nice to use my body again.
My recovery is going good. My incision is completely healed, less then 2 weeks after surgery. Not smoking and getting in a lot of protein really does make a difference.
So, I was stalking my ex husband's Facebook page. I am friends with his daughter so I was looking at it and he has that new timeline thing and I noticed he had put the date for our wedding as 1996 and it really bothered me because we were married in 1997 so I was looking at my picture album and found a picture from my wedding and I decided to scan it and put it on my profile with the date, Oct. 1997 and I tagged my former step daughter.
So today I got a friend request from my ex husband. My daughter told me not to accept it but I couldn't not accept it. A little while later he messaged me and we talked for a while. He asked me if I was single. My profile does say I'm in a relationship but I automatically said yes because I am not married and I thought that was what he was asking. We talked a little more and out of the blue he said "I always love you". What do you say? I didn't know what to say so I replied "That is nice". I realized that sounded kind of mean so I added "You have always had a place in my heart". I am really not interested in getting back with him. He has been married twice since we divorced, one more divorce and his last wife passed away nearly 2 years ago. The reason the marriage ended was because he was drinking and using and I was gambling. I quit gambling 9 years ago but it's obvious from his profile that he still drinks and uses.
He did say we should get together for lunch but nothing was planned. I just feel weird even though I don't think I did anything wrong. I have a picture of me and John on my profile. It's not like I am hiding things, I just didn't want to get into an explanation of my relationship. I dated John before I met him and after we broke up John and I got back together again and have been together since except for a few breaks. I think John even went to court with me when I got divorced.
I also scanned a picture of my dad with my daughter and tagged my step mother and heard from some cousins I haven't talked to since I was a kid so that was nice. Facebook is a strange thing. Good to keep family and friends in touch but can be weird when it comes to relationships, past and present. My boyfriend doesn't have Facebook and won't because he doesn't like the idea of people knowing his business.
Anyway, I just felt like updating what was going on.
My recovery is going good. My incision is completely healed, less then 2 weeks after surgery. Not smoking and getting in a lot of protein really does make a difference.
So, I was stalking my ex husband's Facebook page. I am friends with his daughter so I was looking at it and he has that new timeline thing and I noticed he had put the date for our wedding as 1996 and it really bothered me because we were married in 1997 so I was looking at my picture album and found a picture from my wedding and I decided to scan it and put it on my profile with the date, Oct. 1997 and I tagged my former step daughter.
So today I got a friend request from my ex husband. My daughter told me not to accept it but I couldn't not accept it. A little while later he messaged me and we talked for a while. He asked me if I was single. My profile does say I'm in a relationship but I automatically said yes because I am not married and I thought that was what he was asking. We talked a little more and out of the blue he said "I always love you". What do you say? I didn't know what to say so I replied "That is nice". I realized that sounded kind of mean so I added "You have always had a place in my heart". I am really not interested in getting back with him. He has been married twice since we divorced, one more divorce and his last wife passed away nearly 2 years ago. The reason the marriage ended was because he was drinking and using and I was gambling. I quit gambling 9 years ago but it's obvious from his profile that he still drinks and uses.
He did say we should get together for lunch but nothing was planned. I just feel weird even though I don't think I did anything wrong. I have a picture of me and John on my profile. It's not like I am hiding things, I just didn't want to get into an explanation of my relationship. I dated John before I met him and after we broke up John and I got back together again and have been together since except for a few breaks. I think John even went to court with me when I got divorced.
I also scanned a picture of my dad with my daughter and tagged my step mother and heard from some cousins I haven't talked to since I was a kid so that was nice. Facebook is a strange thing. Good to keep family and friends in touch but can be weird when it comes to relationships, past and present. My boyfriend doesn't have Facebook and won't because he doesn't like the idea of people knowing his business.
Anyway, I just felt like updating what was going on.
WLS 10/28/2002 Revision 7/23/2010
High Weight (2002) 240 Revision Weight (2010) 220 Current Weight 115.
Glad to hear you're doing better. Getting out and a little exercise can do wonders. Congratulations on not smoking - yea!!! Keep that good habit up!
As far as your ex... you will need to let him know upfront that you are in a good relationship and want to keep it that way, that way he has no expectations.
As far as your ex... you will need to let him know upfront that you are in a good relationship and want to keep it that way, that way he has no expectations.
HW-218/SW-208/CW-126/ Lowest Weight-121/Goal-125 - hit 8/23/09/Height-5'3"
Regain 30 lbs from 2012 to 2016 - got back on track and lost it. Took 8 months.
90+/- pounds lost BMI - 24 or so
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i'm so glad you are doing better. Recovery is hard, no matter what the surgery. But we do get better, just not as rapidly as we would like.
66 yrs young, 4'11" hw 220, goal 120 met at 12 months, cw 129 learning Maintainance
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Congratulations on the no smoking and riding your bike. I know exercise always makes me feel better!! Glad you are healing so you can get back to it!!
I agree with Jody, just let him know you are in a relationship and have no desire to rekindle anything with him. I have reconnected with lots of people from high school that I have not seen or heard from in 40 years!!
Linda
I agree with Jody, just let him know you are in a relationship and have no desire to rekindle anything with him. I have reconnected with lots of people from high school that I have not seen or heard from in 40 years!!
Linda
14.5 lost pre-surgery 5'1 1/2"
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