Good Morning. Fear

What are you afraid of? Can you put you finger on specifics or are your fears really on 2 or more levels? Of course there is fear of the unknown but what else? Is there anything we can do to overcome fear?  Many folks trust in a higher being to help overcome fear...that's one way. Do you have other ways to deal with fear? 

Some nights I can't sleep due to fear of the unknown and my job situation.  I need to start filling out the applications for government work. I have tenure and previous military. I just need to do it. 

I fear for our economy and medical care situation. I will try to keep myself as healthy as possible but I need over the counter vitamins and the freedom to get extremely high dose dry vitamins...losing availability of those is a fear. I can't stockpile them...trust that the medical community and insurance companies won't screw me?!?!  This one concerns me greatly.

--g
 

I try not to worry about the what if's...all I can do is plan as best I can and then let tomorrow be tomorrow.

As to my fears/phobias...I fear heights. Found out about that one in 1981 during ROTC Advanced Camp. And I have a phobia about "legless lizards" I even hate seeing the real name for them. As a child, I stapled those pages of the Encylopedia Brittanica together so I would not accidently open them and see the reptiles. I can handle regular leggy lizards, spiders, etc but not legless lizards. And please do not use the real word in a reply to me...it's that much of a phobia.

Liz

I am very afraid of heights - I can't sit on a ski lift by myself - and I ski alot!  I'm an expert skier, and I'm also afraid of steep slopes.  That being said, by the end of the season, I do ok, so it helps when you challenge your fears.... and don't stop at the top of the hill before you go down, just ski all the way to the bottom! 

I'm like Gina in that I'm somewhat afraid of the economy.  I'm retiring soon, and hope to live a very long time, so will we have enough money ?  Particularly since I'm the only real source of income for our family.

I'm afraid of failing - just last night I was thinking about the challenges of keeping off the weight after a year or so out.

Liz - I'm afraid of bees (terrified actually), but legless lizards don't bother me at all.  ....when you swing lizards, I'm assuming it is the legged kind.

I get afraid at times due to my slow weight loss.  I know that I am doing things right but I get fearful that I will still fail.  I worry about my lipedema and that it will cause me to weigh more due to the fluid I carry (and fat) due to this disorder.  What I do to help with these fears: I put the scale away temporarily as I can see that my body is changing and getting smaller and do not need a daily reminder if the # does not change.  I focus on what I can do physically now (will run my first 5K in less than 2 weeks and bought a used bike this weekend).  I focus on learning ways to cope with emotions without self medicating with food and am learning to soothe myself without food.  I also try to remember that it was never about a particular # on the scale....this was about health.  The old script (I can't do it) is no longer true (not was it EVER true) and is not applicable.

I am strong, capable, and willing.

Thanks Gina...I needed this today.

Off to the vet and then for a run on my last day off of my vacation.

~~Jennifer

Fears, hummmm.  I don't really have any big fears but I am cautious about stuff like heights.  I'm not sure I could do one of those swinging bridges over a big canyon. 

I do get some free floating anxiety from time to time about the economy, health and health care, changes in my business because of the economic climate, etc.  I try to stay informed and up to date but then I also try to remember that the only thing constant is change and we have to roll with the punches.  Being independent and my own company, I worry for the folks who work as contractors for me and the folks we serve as the changes happen because we are really at their mercy.  But I also try to remind myself that if I can't do anything to change it, there is little reason to worry about it.

I used to worry that I couldn't maintain but so far, that hasn't been difficult.    I just need to keep on keeping on and stay in touch here for support.

I think most of you know I definitely believe in Prayer but take my own issues to God seems sometimes selfish for me.

I fear gaining my weight back.  I feel my perfect weight is between 112-115 but I've been holding steady between 116-118 and getting close to the 120 mark scares the crap out of me.  I have so many questions.  I know my tool is still working because it still limits what I eat but when does the absorbing completely stop?

I lost my job of 18 years was unemployed 2 and now have a state grant job.  There was a threat of us losing the grant due to combinding offices but they have put that on the back burner for another year but someday it's going to happen.  I'm not sure I can bear to go through being unemployed again.  I'm getting to old to deal with interviews and training.  I think you almost have to go to classes just to answer the stupid questions that they ask you now. 

I worry about DH's health and his desire to retire.   DH had a great job and when that company closed it was hard on him and his nerves have never really recovered.  He has a good job now with a utility company but it's hard labor and the outside weather is taking a toll on his health. He will be 60 in Feb. so I'm Praying he can make it the next few years and retirement will still be offered.  If they extended the age he will never make it.

You all know how I adore my DD's and their families but I know I'm way to generous and it hasn't been healthy for my pocketbook.  It's hard for me to break the cycle but I'm trying to take baby steps in the right direction.

I am so afraid of heights, but I think I am more afraid of waking up one morning and having gained all my weight back.  It is never far from my thoughts.  I can eat sugar and carbs and it takes a lot to even make me feel bad.  I know I have really changed my eating habits and as long as I stick with the protein drinks I know I'll be ok.

I know I give way to much to my kids and am working on cutting that back some.  I am working towards my retirement in 2 1/2 years!!  Trying to get a few things paid off so I won't have to work part time or worry about our income.

I am a worrier and I worry about all kinds of things.  I worry about my kids and their spouses jobs and hope that they will all be able to keep their jobs in this tough economy.  Health insurance concerns me.  Ours just went up again this year, but I am so thankful just to have it offered and to be able to keep it when I retire.

Linda

I think some of us are wired more than others to worry. I know I can get my panties in a bunch overfinancial concerns. I have to stop and breath.
I just know sometimes that I need to stop and remind myself I can take care of this moment and that it.

I definitely know that my #1 fear, is the fear of being poor. I grew up that way, and it was traumatic.  I've worked my whole adult life to make a good life.  It's not a good thing to have this fear as it sometimes makes me selfish; you would think it would make me be the opposite.

Otherwise my other issues are more like insecurities rather than fears.  I can be nervous about my work performance, worried for my family's well-being, or worried for weight regain.

I feel for you with your job insecurity.  I've almost lost my mind in the past when I was between jobs.

i am not scared of heights but i definately dont like looking straight down and i have never liked jumping off the high dive.

i am not phobic about mri, or small spaces but today have found out that having a nerve lock to a part of my body could almost throw ,me into a panic attack, even though i dont suffer with panic attacks.

had mt left shoulder surgery today and the nerve block is very unnerving,lol/ arm is in a sling but it feels like a large bag of rocks slung around my neck. my hand is totally and i mean totally dead,but warm as toast.  i find myself thinking i will move my finders for some reason and when they don't respond to that thoughe,it momentarily totally freaks me out.

i have to quickly mentally talk myself off the ledge. i guess that is what i fear more than abput anything els...being paralized somewhere. also a huge fear is developing alzheimers disease. having watched how devastating it was to the wonderfull kind and loving and special woman that was my mother is enough to strike fear into my heart.

i have concern about the economy and job security and health care issues but cant do a thing about them. God has always kept us afloat,one way or another and i dont expect him to stoip now.

please excuse typos. oxycodone some potent stuff...im seeing at least double and tying one handed.