Just don't see it...
I know people post about this all the time... but I just don't see the weight loss. I take that back, I notice some in my face, but that's about it. Now I know that logically you cannot lose 25% of your body weight and remain the same size... but when I look in the mirror I see the same things I've always seen, maybe slightly smaller. Ane even though I'm buying sizes I haven't worn in ten years I still get frustrated that it isn't one size smaller... and then when I'm that size I want to be one size smaller. Anyone have any suggestions, words of wisdom, or a smack in the head that might help me out?
Heather, SAHM to 2 (ages 3 and 7), Student
Sorry, just time. Been exactly where you are and it just takes time. Southernlady and I were talking about this very thing this weekend.
I would catch glimpses every now and then in a store front window reflection and see it but just looking in the mirror at home...not so much.
--gina
I would catch glimpses every now and then in a store front window reflection and see it but just looking in the mirror at home...not so much.
--gina
5'1" -- HW 195/SW 187/GW 115 July 08/CW 121 Dec 2012
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I'm sure you have lots of before pictures... get them out and compare. It's unreal when I see how I was the Stay Puff Marshmallow girl and didn't even realize it! I knew I had some weight to me and was miserable but didn't think I looked that horrible...
Take your measurements monthly, too... good to see the comparison there.
Buy the size smaller if you get a good deal --- you'll need it eventually!!
Meg
Take your measurements monthly, too... good to see the comparison there.
Buy the size smaller if you get a good deal --- you'll need it eventually!!
Meg
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HW 236 / SW 224 / CW 164/ GW 135
HW 236 / SW 224 / CW 164/ GW 135
I have been struggling with this as well. My surgeon told me that she would suggest talking to someone professional if I keep having this issue. She did suggest to put up a before picture to look at everyday to remind me of where I started. So I have been carrying around a photo of my hubby and I from vacation last year and one from this year to see how far we have both come. It does help, but at times I still see that fat person. I know that I am much smaller than where I started, but I do feel that sometimes that the size I am is not small enough. I am wearing size 2's and 4's and know that I should be very happy about that. I have been told by many people that your mind does catch up with your body eventually. Good Luck to you. If I find any helpful advise I will certainly let you know
Highest Weight - 220/ Date of Surgery - 194/ Goal Weight - 125 CW 122 2nd Goal - 115
I am beginning to see myself small but am still coming to grips with this may be the end. I know mentally I am small enough, smaller than I have ever been as an adult. But mentally, I have put so much energy over the last 2 years into this process, it is hard to change from losing mentality to maintaining mentality.
the clothing size thing is still an issue. I hold up pants and think that will never happen but some of my smallest are getting too big.
Time, you will continue to lose and you will continue to adjust to what size you are and want to be. Just know, it isn't just you. Lots of us have been there and are still dealing with it too.
the clothing size thing is still an issue. I hold up pants and think that will never happen but some of my smallest are getting too big.
Time, you will continue to lose and you will continue to adjust to what size you are and want to be. Just know, it isn't just you. Lots of us have been there and are still dealing with it too.
66 yrs young, 4'11" hw 220, goal 120 met at 12 months, cw 129 learning Maintainance
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I think it just takes a long time for our heads to break old habits of seeing ourselves in a certain way to what is now our reality. When you think about it, it has been years of seeing in one way, and then suddenly we are asking ourselves to see in a new way. I see myself most accurately on video, not just photos.
Have patience with yourself, and seek counseling with an eating disorders specialist if your body image stays stuck. What is important is to not self sabotage just because that is what we are used to doing.
Have patience with yourself, and seek counseling with an eating disorders specialist if your body image stays stuck. What is important is to not self sabotage just because that is what we are used to doing.
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I had the same problem for several months, until one day I was walking up to my home and saw my reflection in the storm door. I thought, damn, I have lost weight. My problem now is that I'm pretty comfortable with my size, and still need to lose about 25 pounds. I'm having a hard time getting motivated. But, your mind will see you and the changes, it just catches you off guard one day.
Sue
Sue
Sometimes, I have the same issues. It does take awhile for the head to catch up to the new body. I have days, when I go past a window and wonder, who is that person, and realize that is me. It can be mind boggling. I still hold up my jeans and wonder, how in the heck, am I going to get into them, and they fit. Others see the transformation more than I do, although, I do feel like I have internally transformed for the obese and unhealthy person that I used to be. I never, ever, want to go back there.
Time will take care of the head issues. At least that is what I tell myself.
Gail
Time will take care of the head issues. At least that is what I tell myself.
Gail
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Thank you everyone. I really needed to see that I am not crazy but just need to take some time to get used to the new smaller me. I also have that issue with looking at pants and thinking it will never fit. Then I'll put them on and they are big on me. I'm caught between sizes right now so that doesn't help my constantly wishing this process would speed up. Like I said, I KNOW I'm smaller because I'm wearing 12's right now and some of them are way too big. I just don't see what I thought I would see when I look in the mirror.
Heather, SAHM to 2 (ages 3 and 7), Student
I could only see it when I looked at pictures at first. Now a little over a year later I finally see it. I think I look too skinny just not used to seeing myself this way. You will eventually and when you do it all seems really worth it.
HW: 260? SW: 242 Surgeons GW: 150 First GW: 140 Second GW: 130 CW: 122 
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