Could use a little TLC and support...

 aww Anne  yeah  that  darn dratted main board  is .. well... not the friendliest  place  unfortunately .   I mainly go there  for entertainment myself  .. theres really  no changing the way some people behave and react .  

You either accept  them as they are  or stay away or both  lol .  Sometimes I just have to stay away  for a while .  

I wish theyd  bring chat back  ... but  looks like the bullies won there  too      (((((())))))) big hugs dear Lady  .  

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((((((((hugs & hugs &hugs)))))))))))

Although I have been a member of OH for over 10 years I didn't start posting on the forums until last year when I had my revision.  At that time I had been sick for over 2 years, barely able to function until I finally was so desperate that I sought a reversal of my first surgery.  I was told a reversal wasn't possible, only a revision and I grabbed onto that like a lifesaver because it was the only hope I had gotten in all that time.  I had major, open surgery on top of already being weak and sick.  And I wandered onto the main board looking for support.  It was kind of like one of those wild life shows where they show the wounded animal being attacked.  I was torn from limb to limb and set on fire to burn.  I even had threads made about me and how stupid I was to choose the revision I had and the surgeon I had.  
I was at my bottom emotionally and physically.  I had barely left my house in 2 years, lost touch with all of my friends and had no one but my family.  It was a terrible place made worse by people that I thought would understand and help me through it.
I wrote a thread on the main board, which was basically a "good bye cruel forum" type of post.  To my surprise for every negative response I got, and I got plenty, I got several more supportive posts.  The best ones I got were the ones directing me to the Lightweights forum.  I came here and was welcomed with open arms.  No one criticized my surgery choose or my surgeon, or the bad decisions I had made over the years that brought me to where I was.
I decided that the good far outweighed the bad.  I didn't have the energy or the desire to take anyone on.  I just wanted to get well.  I found out that there are far more nicer, helpful people here then there are jackals that want to see you fail.  The ones that were the obvious offenders were put on my block list.  I haven't missed them in the least.  There are a few that are borderline but I found that they had enough information and knowledge and even in some cases a bit of humanity that escaped out, perhaps intentionally, that I figured I would take what good I could find and stay away from the bad.
Like I told you before, there are a lot of good causes to stand up for.  I will always stand up for children and animals and others that are vulnerable and unable to stand up for themselves.  There are very few on this forum that are unable to take care of themselves.  It is almost like a trial by fire.  They either grow thicker skin or the deactivate and find more helpful places for support.  They don't need me to protect them from the bad guys. 
This forum is not for weenies.  I belong to another forum where you get put on time out for the stupidest things.  I am always editing any posts that I dare to make for fear of reprimand, which I have gotten quite a few of.  But I like the forum and the information (it is not WLS related) so I stick around and play by their rules.  I have a choice to leave if I want but what I don't have a choice of is trying to make them different.  It's not going to happen.
I really hope you stick around.  I think you are a great source of information and support.  We need more people who are working on maintaining because so many have WLS, come around for support in their first year, lose all their weight and don't need us any more and you never see them again.  I try my best to help new people but I need support, too.  I feel like I am failing miserable at this maintenance thing.  I failed with my first surgery and I am failing now.  I just cannot figure out how to stay a stable weight.  I thought I had a handle on it and I don't.  To me people that can get to a healthy weight that they are happy with and stay there are my role models and I need them.
Stick with this forum and the RNY forum and you should be ok.  I have never needed to block anyone from either of those forums.  I don't think you will either.

Bless you for your sharing and support, Ladytazz. I have often heard you as one of the wiser, kinder voices wherever you post. My heart goes out to you in your struggle, and you are so courageous in how you deal with it.

I love it here for my support, and the RNY and Main Boards for contributing what I can. I am a tough old bird, and I can take on a lot, especially with people who have my back.

I look forward to getting to know you better!

Lady Tazz....





~~Jennifer