I'm home

Thank you to everyone for the support and well wishes. I'm too worn out to respond to everyone individually, but I wanted to update now that I'm home.

I was in the ER for the stitch when the on call surgeon decided the infection was too bad to send me home, so I got a couple of doses of IV antibiotic and then they sent me home . The tube couldn't be stitched close to the tube site because of the infection.So they put the stitches(2 this time) about an inch out, in the the abdomen. That hurt sooo much!!!! I am a pretty tough cookie when it comes to taking pain, but I was screaming. It didn't help that the Dr was having trouble numbing me enough.

My hubby is still acting like an asshole. He has been picking fights all day long. Unfortunately for him, I'm sick and in pain and I started yelling back. I never do that. Today I just don't feel like tip toeing around the jerk!!! What ****** me off more than anything in that he tells all of his friends about how sick I am And how much pain I'm in and how he's just trying so hard to take care of me. Then he gets behind closed doors and *****es about all that I'm not doing and how sick he is of me being sick. I wish I was married to the man he pretends to be. This surgery has defiantly brought his true nature to the surface.  

I am so sorrry you are going through this. I am glad that you got the IV antibiotics, I do hope that a couple of doses is enough.  Did he give you oral one to take at home?  I am a bit confused as to why it hurt so much to have the tube stitched into place.  I had to have my tube stitched several times because it kept coming undone and it hurt like hell when it kept moving around.  So, I would go to my surgeons office, she would numb it up - which wasnt fun but not terrible and then I didnt' feel the stitches at all.  If it wasn't numb, he shouldnt' have proceded to stitch until it was numb.  There is no way I would have let anyone stitch me without it being numb.  With all you ar going through, I hope you have good pain meds for at home.  I have percocet and dilaudid (for the bad days)

Hearing stories about your husband make me glad to still be single.

It's good to hear you are home again! I only with that Mr Supportive was a reality for you! Sounds like hubby likes all the sympathy HE gets from your situation. If it were me I'd have called him out in front of all of his friends...but I don't live in your house...just remind him that what goes around comes around and if he ever finds himself in a similar situation you'll be sure to treat him with the same amount of empathy and care he's giving you....

Things will get better I'm hoping it happens for you soon...still swinging critters!

I'm glad you got some medical attention and I echo what rbb and Heather have said. If you talk to your surgeon or any other professional or friend, let them know that he's taking his anger and frustration out on you behind closed doors. Don't let him get away with this behavior.

((hugs))

--gina

I am glad that you are back home but sorry that things have been so stressful.  Sending healing thoughts with HOPE that you will be back to "normal" soon.  Hang in there.....we are ALL rooting for you and I KNOW that in a few months you will be posting about your glorious successes!



~~Jennifer

Wow, I don't know your story, but my heart sure goes out to you! What pains- both kinds. Your husband deserved being yelled at, and I hope when you are feeling better you have a firm sit-down chat with him about your boundaries and what you will and will not tolerate with and from him. Maybe get some marriage counseling.

Anyhow, I sure hope you are feeling better soon!

I'm sorry for the pain you are in but hope things get better soon.  Before long you will be able to look back and know it was all worth it.   
As for the support or Iack of from your hubby I agree with Heather.   Tell him you will be glad to give him the same support if he ever needs it from you.  
Meanwhile you know we are all here for you and support you with this wonderful new journey you are taking.    

Glad that you're back home again.  I think your hubby is stressed out as well about your situation, and is misplacing his stress.  I hope that when you're well, you'll both get back to normal.  I know my DH reacts poorly to stress (I get the silent treatment).

Surg. sister!
I am so sorry this happened! Please get some rest and tune everyone out as much as you can... I saw a quote online the other day, "You don't have to attend every arguement you are invited to"... In my mind, it went "You dont have to attend every arguement you are invited to, unless the other person is an ass and needs to be checked". You need hugs not hell raisin' and I hope he begins to understand that.

Glad you are home and hope you are getting better each day.

I know I am a horrible "nurse" and when DH is sick, i do ok the first couple of days and then I am over it.  Maybe your  DH is the same.  Makes me think that I need to work harder to be nice.  Hummmm.