Mom's transfer addiction

Hi there! (We had the same surgeon!) I am sorry to hear about your mom. I, too, divorced my parents for quite a while. You have to do what is best for you and your family. And if that means someone can't be in your life, well, so be it.

I'd love to read your blog. You're building a cabin? Fun! Or is it? 

I feel worst for my Dad in a lot of ways. He was trained from a young age to be completely responsible for the woman in his life. Seriously, I thought his brain was going to explode when his mother reached the end and my mother was doing all this nonsense. Some days I think the only thing that keeps him together is the fact that his two daughters at least have most of their crap together.

It's taken him a few years to understand that I'm not going to talk to my mother and to stop trying to guilt me into it anytime I called. At least now I think he's finally grasping why I had to make a clean break and not let her poison my life. My sister has infinitely more patience with all the drama than I do, and she's not quite as detached as I can be; but she understands completely and there are days when she envies my ability to just say no to it all.

I definitely do hope that Mom can find a program that works for her some day. Lord knows she's been in and out of therapy enough times, but never manages to stick with it once it gets hard. She's definitely invested in her current behaviors and holding the family emotionally hostage. She's lost one daughter, has alienated the "saintly" other, and is driving her husband to an early grave. I only pray that she can't get her licensed renewed that they've moved, so that maybe she won't be able to hurt or kill someone accidentally while driving under the influence.

Welcome Back PlicketyTicketyCat!  Nice to meet you.  Your issues are so real and familiar and the solutions you're using are so logical and right ON!  Thank you for sharing and I know that it's going to work out exactly how it's supposed to.  I'm glad you are keeping yourself safe from the drama and unpredictable ramifications of same.

I lived in Alaska when I was a toddler and still have memories of it.  Amazing.  One of my WLS goals is to work summers in Alaska.  Hope you don't mind, but I'll be checking in on your blog as well.  Power to you and keep up the good work!  Nothing like having a homemade space of serenity to exist in!!

Ruthie D.