I HATE my new surgeon. 1 yr appt***Long Rant***

Awe Stacey....I would have been so upset when I left her office and  I probably wouldn't go back to her if at all possible.  I don't handle critisim very well.  How long has she been a WL Sugeon?  Is she young?

I'm 4'11 and I got down to 106 and I didn't feel well at all but that could have been because I was earlier out and not eating much.  Our goal for having WLS was to be healthy and it doesn't really matter what the scale or the Doctor says.  I don't know about you but I have at least 5 lbs. of loose skin that gets on the scale with me every day...LOL.

I think it's funny that you and I both had our gall bladders out and you can't eat as much and I seem to be hungry all of the time. I think part of my reason is because my bowels are more regular now so I don't have that full feeling anymore.

(((HUGS))) Stacey!!!

Thank you everyone. I really have no choice to see her and will have to go back in Nov. I am having that issue with the scar from ym g-tube and I believe it is from the excess skin. I am trying to get a reduced rate for a panni so I NEED her to say yes I qualify *sigh* It seems as if it is a losing battle here. I WILL NOT try to get to 95 pounds, I will go as low as my body will allow me to go and then be done with it. 78% is not bad for a year out. Of course Mother Nature has left and now I am back at my 122. So technically I am "normal"
I am healthier, I traded in ALL my prescription drugs (except asthma and allergy) for vitamins, I think I have pretty damn well, I am comfortable, happy and not nearly as depressed as I was, I had the courage to finally get a job, make new friends and ride water rides this year. In my book, it is a success.

Hopefully Dr Barker will be back shortly and we can resume our love hate relationship we had LOL. He never gave me a number, he told me he does not give his patients a number so they do not feel like a failure if they do not reach it. I love that man, he also said to get as low as possible and strive for a normal BMI and be happy.

Roz, as far as the eating goes, never thought it had anything to do with the removal of the Gall Bladder, im kinda thinking it has more to do with added stress. Anyway I love all you here, you are the most amazing support group I have ever met. I am truly blessed to have all of you in my life. Thank you from the deepest depths of my heart.

Stacey, I haven't had a chance to get on OB lately due to work and personal issues, but did look today and can't tell you how much my heart hurts for what that doctor is doing to you. I think she may not have a clue what WLS is really about, getting healthy.  Your restriction issues need to be resolved and shame on her for not realizing this.  I'm sending you a big ole hug, I know it doesn't make it better, but i wish there was more I could do.

Sue

Thank you Sue, I needed that :)

Stacey,

To be blunt your new surgeon is an A-hole!  She may know medicine but she has no appropriate social skills and is clearly incapable of being realistic.  Whatever you do, don't let her inappropriate attitude affect your positive well being.  I doubt she will ever come around and it doesn't matter.

See her when you have to, but keep doing all the great things you are doing and don't worry about the outcome. It will be whatever it is supposed to be and your body is serving you well. Honor your instincts instead of hers.

Janet

Janet - well said!!

Sue

Seriously, if you have RNY, 80% of excess is considered HIGHLY successful. Bottom of the range is very rare, and I think you've done fabulously well, actually. I'm underwt myself, but it just upsets my PCP who'd rather see me at top of my range, because I'm old. Go figure.

Well, at least having good labs made her happy even if in the 120's you are still a "fat slob" in her book.

most ppl only dream of numbers under 150, let alone you stressing about 125! I don't know how short you mean by short, but seriously, since it was TOM, there's 5# that wasn't even really THERE, IMHO.

If you can hold 120's with minimal effort, then FABULOUS.

I'm 5'1". Some charts give you 100# for 5', then 5# for every inch thereafter, making my idea 105. But I held 112 for most of these years and that was my weight with minimal effort.

For a cluster of unknown reasons, I am now under 100# myself, but I guess I will have to have it seen to soon. But at 17 yrs, I suspect it not to have anything to do with my WLS at all.

If you don't have an appetite, I say ride it while you can. It comes back, If you are vomiting then yes, you have to chase that down.

I think you are doing well to know your own body and to be able to bring your labs into the happy zone. I can't tell you how many docs over the years have implied that I'm mentally ill for having chosen surgery or that, "You know, those things don't work." I mean, seriously? 17 yrs? I'm older now, just how much longer do I NEED it to work? Certainly not past death, right? My labs are good, and while I'm under, I'm not 80 # and dropping, no outward sign of illness.

It takes awhile to get over "white coat syndrome", where everything a DOCTOR says is of Biblical Strength, but that MD doesn't give anyone the right to be rude and insulting. Had she smiled and said, "My personal preference is lower end of the range, but you are doing very well" would have changed the whole flavor of your visit.