LW family: This was fun UNTIL..........

 I think there are a couple of issues going on with them:

(1) Jealousy - a lot of these people were probably told that they should expect to only lose 60% of their excess weight so they will end up about where you are starting. That can be hard for them to take.

(2) Being threatened by your choices - some people aren't secure in their own life choices and they see people who make different ones as somehow challenging to their own decisions. You getting WLS when you are a lightweight is seen as telling them they should have too. Heck, maybe part of them thinks they should have gotten it sooner as well. Others think the risk/benefit isn't there when you "only" have 100 or less pounds to lose. They don't understand that risk/benefit analysis is a personal matter and not everyone has the same values.

(3) Raining on their parade - if someone was a size XXXL and now they are a 14-16, that's a TREMENDOUS achievement. Now someone is saying "14-16 sucks" and they feel a bit deflated. It's human nature to feel that way so I would cut those people some slack

(4) Not understanding how sizes work. I see this all the time. People equate certain sizes with certain attributes. So a Size 2 is "skin and bones" and "unhealthy" while I size 12 is "normal". But sizes don't work that way. When I was in a size 12, I was still OBESE. That's because I'm short and I have a small frame. Someone else may have a lower body fat percentage than me but they are taller and have a bigger frame so they are going to be a bigger size. But maybe *they* are actually skin and bones when I'm not.

The only people in those groups that I care about are #3. I wouldn't want to denigrate the accomplishments of someone who has lost over a hundred pounds even if it was an accident and I didn't mean to. For group #4, I may try to educate them but it seems like it's an uphill battle and I've kind of given up. The rest can suck it. 

Thanks to ALL that have responded.
That bothered me and I posted that here before
I left the house this morning because I felt that was a tad bit out of line. I love reading reading ms.bette's "mind post" of what do you think and etc. It's fun and I like to see what others think.

I did look into my meds for pain without the roids. I still can't escape one prescription. I have to take that to get through PT. I take physical therapy from 2 previous non weight related surgeries. I don't think I would make it without the knock out pills. I'm happy that I'm almost finished with that becasue I know that as a post-op..no nsaids.

On that note...I am still waiting for approval.
Have a good night yall!

I've just read the thread where you have been attacked and I see it all so sad and unnecessary.  God forbid what they would have said to me having a revision at "only 165lbs (75kgs)"  I would have been burnt at the stake I'm sure.  I'm only 5'1" tall and started out at 231 lbs (105kgs) which put me in the morbidly obese category. 

When I first was told I'd need a revision to RNY I asked some questions on that board and got attacked as to why I was having the RNY.  The "attacker" didn't even fully read my post to see I'd been admitted into Intensive Care Unit nearly dying from loss of blood due to bleeding ulcers in my highly pressurised sleeved tummy.  I was on the verge of rupture but that didn't seem to matter to the attacker.  All she saw was I'm a lightweight having RNY because I still had 20lbs to lose.  That was clearly not the case and I still don't really care if I lost anymore weight.  The main thing for me is quality of life and that I'm alive still to tell the tale.

I'm so glad I've found the light weights board and I don't even post on any other board now and mainly because of the hostility I'm sure I would get.

Stay away from the evil doer's honey and stick with all of us here as I can't see that anyone on this board has one element of nastiness in their persona.

Cheers from Australia

Hello my friend! I read the posts and wow! I knew things were going to get dicey just my the nature of the question...haha

I did not understand where that gal got the idea you said anything other than "It's the pits". That statement was pretty mild really. I understand fully that a certain size is a victory for one person but it is also the opposite for someone else. I too am not used to being a size 18. I want to go back to a size 10. It encourages me greatly when I see the other people that have hit their goal post their size..it gives me hope I can do the same if not more. We all have our own personal journey.

Glad you defended yourself.. and you stay right here with Sis!

Sending love your way!