OT I Need a Time Out, Pretty Long
My mother passed away earlier this month. She left behind an investment she wanted my brother, sister and I to share. My sister was telling me how important it was to fill out the paperwork and get it sent in right away because they couldn't do anything until they had all our paperwork in and then they would set up an account for each of us and distribute the money.
I was stressing out filling it out properly so I called the local Edward Jones office to see if they would help me fill it out if it was complicated. They said they would and suggested I open an account with the local office to make things easier. I wasn't sure how that worked so I sent my sister the following email: My emails are in pink and my sister's are in blue.
I called my local Edward Jones office to see if they could help me fill out the papers when they came and they told me they would be able to work with the bran*****alifornia and open an account for me here so I don't have to worry about getting the papers right or getting them back in time. What do you think? Do you still want me to come help with Mom's house?
You don't have to come here but I want you do as the Murrieta said. They won't set up any accounts until they have information from all of us. And I'm not taking a chance on any delays. I had Edward Jones here send you your paperwork overnight so you will get tomorrow. Fill it out and send it back to them. You are not to work with another branch. That may screw up things for Andy and/or me. They won't distribute the money all three accounts are set up together.
Even if you set up a different account, nothing can be until all 3 accounts are set up and tied together. There is NO WAY I'm taking a chance with another Edward Jones. You can have them set help you with the paperwork, but if you don't send it to the Murrieta one there will be a delay. I AM NOT MAKING ANOTHER TRIP TO MURRIETA! This will be my one time trip.
Ok, that is why I asked you. I didn't know if it was a problem. If I need help I will call them and I'll get it back to them as soon as possible.
Hi Laura,
You don't need to come to mom’s house. I'm going there on that Monday and grabbing some things that have been “enclosed" so they won't have the mold/smell on them…and I'm done. This will be my third trip in the last few months (I was by there in March). Anybody wants anything there will have to do it themselves. Terry doesn't want me to get sick just for a few knickknacks.
I have hotel room for Sunday 7/10 and I'm meeting Janice at Edward Jones on Monday 10am 7/11. She told me ALL papers need to be to her before that and she will set up three accounts. If she doesn't have all documentation she said I will have to return…..it won't happen. I told Andy to fill out his paperwork right away & send it, and I expect you to do the same. No paperwork is to go anywhere but to Edward Jones Murrieta so we don't take a chance of a screw up. I trust Janice to do it right. Why would you want to start something with a new Edward Jones? No matter what you won't get your money any sooner…..and it could delay it. All three accounts are required by law to be set up TOGETHER. Didn't they tell you that? If not, they are giving you misinformation. You won't get one dime until they get Andy & my information.
You will get your paper work tomorrow. Please send back right away. Thanks, Ilene I promise all will be set up on Monday 7/11. Why are you and your brother going crazy with this? Pretend there is no money. You both are obsessed with the money. I just want to do it right so it doesn't delay anything for you and Andy. I thought it would be more efficient if I worked with an office here. That is why I asked you about it because I didn't know if it would help or hurt.
I will get the papers back as soon as I can. It won't be more efficient if EJ Murrieta doesn't have papers from all three of us in front of them when I go down there. It will delay everything. I gave you both the best timeline I can-Monday 7/11 at 10am. I haven't even got the death certificate yet. It is just that you & Andy are obsessed with this. Like I said, pretend there is no money…..let it be a surprise gift from mom. That’s what I'm doing.
And as far as the house, Terry won't let me spend more than 1 hour in the house at a time. Black mold is poisonous. Like I told you before, I was just worried that I would make a mistake in filling out the papers, causing problems for everyone. I called the Edward Jones office here just to see if they would help me fill out the papers properly in case I didn't understand them. They were the ones that suggested opening an account here. I knew nothing about it, that is why I asked you if it would be a good idea to be sure the papers were done right. I had no idea how these things worked.
As far as the house, I don't blame you for not wanting to spend any more time in there. It sounds dangerous. I understand needing the money, especially in Andy’s case where he told me he is in debt. I was out of work for 15 months. But I’ve worked for 45 years straight except for that time and don’t see retirement in sight for the next few years. If the money is this important, maybe you need to go back to work. Just a thought. Am I crazy? Am I saying anything about how bad I need the money? I don't even see where I mentioned anything about money at all. I was concerned about getting the paperwork done correctly so I didn't screw things up for them.
I understand my sister is under a lot of stress. She has had to deal with my mother's illness and getting her moved and all the arrangements after she passed. My brother was no help and I live in Oregon (they are in California). But I just don't see where this was called for. I am not going to respond because I do understand that she is under a lot of stress but I guess I just needed to vent. I feel like she resents me because I'm not working. I worked all my life until nearly 2 years ago when I was laid off. I am disabled and barely make ends meet and I have not had any luck finding a job. It is not as if I am on vacation.
I just feel like it was uncalled for. I don't expect an apology (if I even deserve one). I feel bad enough that she has had to handle all this by herself. I offered to go there to help her out but I guess she isn't even going to go through the house at all, nothing worth saving. My mother lived with her boyfriend for the last several years and her house was closed up and is now covered with black mold. Total loss.
I was stressing out filling it out properly so I called the local Edward Jones office to see if they would help me fill it out if it was complicated. They said they would and suggested I open an account with the local office to make things easier. I wasn't sure how that worked so I sent my sister the following email: My emails are in pink and my sister's are in blue.
I called my local Edward Jones office to see if they could help me fill out the papers when they came and they told me they would be able to work with the bran*****alifornia and open an account for me here so I don't have to worry about getting the papers right or getting them back in time. What do you think? Do you still want me to come help with Mom's house?
You don't have to come here but I want you do as the Murrieta said. They won't set up any accounts until they have information from all of us. And I'm not taking a chance on any delays. I had Edward Jones here send you your paperwork overnight so you will get tomorrow. Fill it out and send it back to them. You are not to work with another branch. That may screw up things for Andy and/or me. They won't distribute the money all three accounts are set up together.
Even if you set up a different account, nothing can be until all 3 accounts are set up and tied together. There is NO WAY I'm taking a chance with another Edward Jones. You can have them set help you with the paperwork, but if you don't send it to the Murrieta one there will be a delay. I AM NOT MAKING ANOTHER TRIP TO MURRIETA! This will be my one time trip.
Ok, that is why I asked you. I didn't know if it was a problem. If I need help I will call them and I'll get it back to them as soon as possible.
Hi Laura,
You don't need to come to mom’s house. I'm going there on that Monday and grabbing some things that have been “enclosed" so they won't have the mold/smell on them…and I'm done. This will be my third trip in the last few months (I was by there in March). Anybody wants anything there will have to do it themselves. Terry doesn't want me to get sick just for a few knickknacks.
I have hotel room for Sunday 7/10 and I'm meeting Janice at Edward Jones on Monday 10am 7/11. She told me ALL papers need to be to her before that and she will set up three accounts. If she doesn't have all documentation she said I will have to return…..it won't happen. I told Andy to fill out his paperwork right away & send it, and I expect you to do the same. No paperwork is to go anywhere but to Edward Jones Murrieta so we don't take a chance of a screw up. I trust Janice to do it right. Why would you want to start something with a new Edward Jones? No matter what you won't get your money any sooner…..and it could delay it. All three accounts are required by law to be set up TOGETHER. Didn't they tell you that? If not, they are giving you misinformation. You won't get one dime until they get Andy & my information.
You will get your paper work tomorrow. Please send back right away. Thanks, Ilene I promise all will be set up on Monday 7/11. Why are you and your brother going crazy with this? Pretend there is no money. You both are obsessed with the money. I just want to do it right so it doesn't delay anything for you and Andy. I thought it would be more efficient if I worked with an office here. That is why I asked you about it because I didn't know if it would help or hurt.
I will get the papers back as soon as I can. It won't be more efficient if EJ Murrieta doesn't have papers from all three of us in front of them when I go down there. It will delay everything. I gave you both the best timeline I can-Monday 7/11 at 10am. I haven't even got the death certificate yet. It is just that you & Andy are obsessed with this. Like I said, pretend there is no money…..let it be a surprise gift from mom. That’s what I'm doing.
And as far as the house, Terry won't let me spend more than 1 hour in the house at a time. Black mold is poisonous. Like I told you before, I was just worried that I would make a mistake in filling out the papers, causing problems for everyone. I called the Edward Jones office here just to see if they would help me fill out the papers properly in case I didn't understand them. They were the ones that suggested opening an account here. I knew nothing about it, that is why I asked you if it would be a good idea to be sure the papers were done right. I had no idea how these things worked.
As far as the house, I don't blame you for not wanting to spend any more time in there. It sounds dangerous. I understand needing the money, especially in Andy’s case where he told me he is in debt. I was out of work for 15 months. But I’ve worked for 45 years straight except for that time and don’t see retirement in sight for the next few years. If the money is this important, maybe you need to go back to work. Just a thought. Am I crazy? Am I saying anything about how bad I need the money? I don't even see where I mentioned anything about money at all. I was concerned about getting the paperwork done correctly so I didn't screw things up for them.
I understand my sister is under a lot of stress. She has had to deal with my mother's illness and getting her moved and all the arrangements after she passed. My brother was no help and I live in Oregon (they are in California). But I just don't see where this was called for. I am not going to respond because I do understand that she is under a lot of stress but I guess I just needed to vent. I feel like she resents me because I'm not working. I worked all my life until nearly 2 years ago when I was laid off. I am disabled and barely make ends meet and I have not had any luck finding a job. It is not as if I am on vacation.
I just feel like it was uncalled for. I don't expect an apology (if I even deserve one). I feel bad enough that she has had to handle all this by herself. I offered to go there to help her out but I guess she isn't even going to go through the house at all, nothing worth saving. My mother lived with her boyfriend for the last several years and her house was closed up and is now covered with black mold. Total loss.
WLS 10/28/2002 Revision 7/23/2010
High Weight (2002) 240 Revision Weight (2010) 220 Current Weight 115.
Ugh! I know these things can be a big pain in the ass. I personally dont see why the local office cant help you with the paper work, what gets me, is when my Mom passed away, we had no paper work to fill out. We had to call and verify our SSN and addresses, they set up the accounts and sent us a "checking account" We could use the checks as we saw fit, I pulled EVERYTHING OUT immediately and then put it in MY personal account.
She appears to be under som major stress and not handling this very well, she may need the money and just not telling you the truth, it sounds as if she is obsessed with it in my opinion. Good Luck hun, we are here for you
She appears to be under som major stress and not handling this very well, she may need the money and just not telling you the truth, it sounds as if she is obsessed with it in my opinion. Good Luck hun, we are here for you
HW-220 SW 205 4'11"
I know that these things can pull families apart. It is not worth it for me. I would like to get some of my Mom's things for keepsakes but it doesn't sound like there is anything worth saving. As far as any jewelry my mother had, I told my sister she could keep it. There was one ring she promised my daughter because it was an initial ring and my mother and my daughter both have the same initial but my sister said she couldn't find it.
I think my sister does need the money. She just sent me an email talking about how she wants to wrap this up quickly. She told me she has already spent some of the money on her credit card. That is good. I am glad she is able to get things she needs. I am planning on paying off my debts and helping my daughter buy a car. I also need some dental work done. I haven't been to a dentist in years because I have no dental insurance. I am missing many teeth and I have had some pain so I know I need work. I would like to buy a partial upper denture so I don't look like a hillbilly with all my missing teeth and also so I can chew right. I have been worried because of my teeth I can't chew as thoroughly as I should and I'm afraid I may do damage because my food isn't chewed properly. The rest will go into savings in case of any emergencies.
I think my sister does need the money. She just sent me an email talking about how she wants to wrap this up quickly. She told me she has already spent some of the money on her credit card. That is good. I am glad she is able to get things she needs. I am planning on paying off my debts and helping my daughter buy a car. I also need some dental work done. I haven't been to a dentist in years because I have no dental insurance. I am missing many teeth and I have had some pain so I know I need work. I would like to buy a partial upper denture so I don't look like a hillbilly with all my missing teeth and also so I can chew right. I have been worried because of my teeth I can't chew as thoroughly as I should and I'm afraid I may do damage because my food isn't chewed properly. The rest will go into savings in case of any emergencies.
WLS 10/28/2002 Revision 7/23/2010
High Weight (2002) 240 Revision Weight (2010) 220 Current Weight 115.
I really wish I could afford it. The only kind I have seen attatch to the lower jaw, I don't even know if they make them for the upper jaw, which is what I need. From what I have seen they are very expensive.
WLS 10/28/2002 Revision 7/23/2010
High Weight (2002) 240 Revision Weight (2010) 220 Current Weight 115.
I think she was talking about the "mini" implants, where they put in 4 posts and the plate with the teeth are attatched that way. I know they do it on the bottom but I don't know if they do it on the top.
I would love to have it if it were available and not too expensive.
I would love to have it if it were available and not too expensive.
WLS 10/28/2002 Revision 7/23/2010
High Weight (2002) 240 Revision Weight (2010) 220 Current Weight 115.
She does sound stressed but your comments sound appropriate and cool. Good for you. Take the high road.
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Yes, she is obsessed with it. She just send me a rant about how she despises people who are on welfare or medicaid because she has worked so hard for many years and she has to pay for people to sit on their asses and pop out babies. Makes me feel like **** because I am on Social Security and Medicare. And the $49 of food stamps I get. I did work for many years and paid into the Social Security but I guess I am a leech, too. I wish I was healthy enough to work. You should try living on the amount of money I get a month, plus feed a child. Everything is going up in price and Social Security has stayed the same for the last few years. Food, gas, prescriptions, electric all are going up. I hate being stressed out about how I am going to buy food after I pay my bills but I guess I am living a life of leisure sitting around living off the tax payers.
I have been looking for a job for 2 years, since I was laid off of the job I had for about 9 years. I haven't heard back from anyone, even McDonald's. I guess I have such an easy life.
My dryer just broke down and I don't have the money for repairs. Isn't life grand?
I have been looking for a job for 2 years, since I was laid off of the job I had for about 9 years. I haven't heard back from anyone, even McDonald's. I guess I have such an easy life.
My dryer just broke down and I don't have the money for repairs. Isn't life grand?
WLS 10/28/2002 Revision 7/23/2010
High Weight (2002) 240 Revision Weight (2010) 220 Current Weight 115.
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