Dealing with snide comments - xpost

 So, twice now I've gotten snide comments about weight loss. One was from hubby's ex wife.. no surprise there. But she got in the "I'm just glad I was able to lose weight the natural way... of course, I might have taken the easy way if it had been available." She did lose 100+lbs on her own. Kudos for her. But still...  I let her know in no uncertain terms how this is SO not the easy way. Yeah, having my insides rerouted is so easy.

Yesterday at the doc's office, one of the slim nurse assistants said "Oh you've lost 22lbs, I'm jealous. Of course if I lost that much, I'd look unhealthy."

How do you all deal with the snide comments? The passive aggressive half compliment/half insults?

Do you have any catch all comments that I can borrow? Any ideas for comebacks? I don't want people to feel free to treat me like this.

wow the ex wife I can see but the NURSE!! what, that was so rude...I think that is what I would say, "hey that's kind of rude!" some people just don't know..and the "easy"? way, yeah right...another ignorant person obviously..I guess I would have said to the ex wife, its not the easy way but it is a way to KEEP the weight off which I know was my reason for having the surgery..I guess we just have to take these comments with a grain of salt but yeah that would have made me mad too..

LOL....that doesn't surprise me coming from an ex-wife.  Did she keep off the 100 pounds? Is she at goal?

My DD just had a new baby in Jan and the ex's wife had one a few months before that and she is sooooo jealous of my DD because she's gotten all of her weight off. 

Those comments will end eventually.  Now I rarely even tell people I've had surgery.  I'm trying to live life as a "normal" thin person.

Laugh in their face and keep on truckin', babeee!

--gina

The nurse...well, she needs to be told her comment was rude and uncalled for and WHY.

As for hubby's EX...remember the source first, she IS the ex, you are married to the man she either lost or gave up. If you must say anything, tell her you've lost it the "easy way" too but it never stays off and since only 5% of dieters are successful, your route had a better chance of keeping it off not just getting it off.

I know all about the snide comments...I could write a book. Unfortanately I don't have any great comebacks except one. I did what I needed to do to be the healthiest person I could be. I am no longer a cardiac patient redirecting my body and my life was worth it.

I had a lady at a work luncheon look down her nose at me and say let Danielle get in line first she sure needs to eat. I said I do eat. She said if you keep losing we won't be able to see you. I said I have you know I weight the same this year as I did last year this time. I am not losing simply maintaining. She said well I'd like to lose weight but I sure don't want to look unhealthy to do it. I wanted to scream. I just smiled and walked away. My assistant knew I was pissed she said let it roll off your back baby she is just jealous.
Another lady told me less than two days later that I needed to eat because her lunch lady arms were bigger than my thighs. I felt like I was under attack last week...so not a good feeling. I keep reminding myself it is the devil's way of trying to steal my joy. No thanks devil I will keep that joy for myself. Just let it roll off your back they are not worth it.

I have had 1,000's of rude people say things after things...this being said I am a "closet" sleever, know one except my mom and husband know about my surgery. So I understand how hard it is for some to understand, but being rude is a whole other story!
I had the worst time ever at the start of all of this, I lost fast w/o trying. But learning that people can just feel and think what they want has been super hard. I have lost "friends" that I thought were my friends, and I now know that they couldn't be or they would be happy for me. I have learned to be happy for me and know how much happier I am with my self. If they can't like the new me, then so be it....I move on. They can move on too! I have found me being happy may make others not so happy but in the end, I have me to worry about and only me! I am telling you to just let it go....it is so much harder to do than say! I know this.....but, it's the ONLY way. Just be yourself, be happy, be healthy and the H w/the ones who can't handle this! Good work, keep it up!

 You know, I'd actually intended to not tell the ex about the surgery because I KNEW she'd have all sorts of passive agressive insults and comments. The sad thing is, she did lose over 100lbs and has kept most of it off (she says she's a size 12 now.. uh huh, so am I). Anyway, she left my hubby as soon as she got to her goal. I have this feeling she is hoping that I will too. It's just a feeling, but I know she's that twisted. 

I've decided to talk with my doc and make a complaint about the nursing assistant. It's been eating at me all day and it was just truly inappropriate and uncalled for. 

Thanks friends. 

I'm so curious... how long has your husband's x-wife kept the weight off?  STATISTICS tell us that less than 1% of people who lose that much weight with diet and exercise keep it off!  (Hey... I'm in those stats.. lost 130 lbs with diet and exercise and after 2 years,.. about 40 of it is back on),...so I'm electing to do it the HARD WAY NOW! 

I don't think getting yourself cut into and having to change your way of life completely is the easy way.  I didn't do it to begin with because it was TOO  HARD to go through the pain, recovery, possible complications... etc and saw it as a last resort.

I've had friends tell me "oh.. I did it the easy way".. and I look at them like they are crazy!  Major surgery is NOT THE EASY WAY.  Being free to diet and exercise at will is way easier!

If anyone ever comments to me (after I get this done), that they think I did it the easy way..... I'll tell them they can lay on a table while I root around in their guts and then tell me how easy it is!  grrrrrrrr 

 She's actually kept the majority of it off for 11 years. She definitely put back on probably 30lbs or so over the years. She was in the low 300's and is now probably 180. I totally acknowledge what she did, she worked hard for it. But it doesn't give her the right to cut other people down. But that's just the way she is.