OT My Mother Passed Away

Sorry to hear that Ladytazz..you literally did everything that you could do to be there in time...

Oh, LadyTaxx, your story is so sad on so many levels.  I believe, like others said, that your mum knows you tried. And YOU know you tried. And your daughter knows, which is more important than you might think....

I did everything I could so that my grandmum wouldn't die alone.  My mom had duty the evening she died, and she left the hospital without calling me or my uncle to come sit with my grandmother.  My beloved grandma died alone because of that.  I was so bereft, but I recall that the nurse told me that some people choose to die quietly, and alone, because that suits them. My grandmother was independent and feisty, and maybe she chose her moment. 

Safe journeys traveling on Wednesday.  Traveling when you are in mourning makes even the smallest problem soooo much worse.

(((hugs)))
tracey

So sorry Tazz for your loss.  I too am an orphan.  Its a weird feeling.  My dad passed in the early 80's but my mom passed in 2005.  I was with my mom when she passed, and it is a truly peaceful feeling.  And you just know they are in a better place.  And I also believe that they become our "angels" and watch over us.  I still talk to her from time to time!  And I believe she hears me.  Please know that my prays are with you and your family during this most difficult time.                               Joan

I'm so sorry for your loss and the challenges you faced trying to get there in time. You did all you could. Time will heal.

I just wanted to tell you I am sooo sorry for your loss.  I also wanted to share that I am a hospice nurse and I can't tell you how many times moms hold on while their dtrs are in the room and then pass as soon as they step out to get something to eat or go to the bathroom...  My philosophy about this is that it is very hard for them to let go when they have a special bond with their dtr and the longer they hold on the harder many symptoms get.  I tell you this because I see the pain that dtrs feel when they aren't there with their moms as they are passing...  but in my heart after 15 yrs of this work, being with families at COUNTLESS deaths... I truly believe the situations around the death are the way they need to be.  Not as we would have them be, but as they need to be.   I am so sorry you are hurting but I am relieved for your mom that she no longer is.  I also wonder if you had been there if she would have tried so hard to hold on to see you and be grounded to the room that maybe she would have struggled more?   I guess we will never know... but it helps me to believe that there is some great orchestrator who DOES know and that things go as they should.    (((HUG))) Amy

Thank you to everyone for the kinds words and thoughts.  I am doing a little better today and tomorrow I will be home.  I can't wait.

(((hugs))). I, too, am a nurse and agree with the hospice nurse, that death happens as it is supposed to.

I am an orphan as well and realize how lonely that is. Please take care of yourself. I am sorry you had such a horrible time with the car rental place.

Take care my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Lynn