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I got a call from my sister in So. Ca tonight and my mother isn't doing good. The hospice called and needed mortuary information. Of course it is unknown how long it may be. My sister decided not to have a service so if I want to say my good byes I need to go there. I still haven't decided if I'm going to go. She doesn't know who anyone is at this point and I don't think I want to remember her this way. I went through this with my Dad 4 years ago and I still regret the last image I have of him in my mind. I think I would like to remember her as she was, not as she is now.
WLS 10/28/2002 Revision 7/23/2010
High Weight (2002) 240 Revision Weight (2010) 220 Current Weight 115.
What a tough place to be in. You make the right decision for you, and (((HUGS))) coming your way.
HW-218/SW-208/CW-126/ Lowest Weight-121/Goal-125 - hit 8/23/09/Height-5'3"
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There are no right or wrong ways to say good bye.......if seeing her this way is not going to help either of you it IS okay to not go out there.........sending healing thoughts though regarding this loss......I am sure she is in good care with hospice.......
Blessings to you and your family........
~~~~~Jennifer
Blessings to you and your family........
~~~~~Jennifer
HW/232 CW/145.2 GW/???
That's tough stuff! So sorry you are going through this.
For me, I've been with several loved ones at the end and it was a comfort to be with them. I know that's different for everyone though. I think the most important thing is to be with family after. The reminiscing and being with family is such a comfort to everyone.
Hang in there and know that many thoughts are with you.
For me, I've been with several loved ones at the end and it was a comfort to be with them. I know that's different for everyone though. I think the most important thing is to be with family after. The reminiscing and being with family is such a comfort to everyone.
Hang in there and know that many thoughts are with you.
HW 247/SW 232/CW 135/GW 140 Height 5'4" Age 43 A BIT BELOW GOAL
Ladytazz, I am sorry you are dealing with this. Losing a parent is very hard.
You need to do what is best for you but what you don't need is a guilt trip laid on you by your sister for not being there. And will that happen? Will the rest be okay with your decision or give you grief for not saying goodbye and make you defend your decision from this point out.
Just be prepared for the fallout if you decide to not go.
Liz
You need to do what is best for you but what you don't need is a guilt trip laid on you by your sister for not being there. And will that happen? Will the rest be okay with your decision or give you grief for not saying goodbye and make you defend your decision from this point out.
Just be prepared for the fallout if you decide to not go.
Liz
Duodenal Switch (Lap) 01-24-11 | Surgeon: Stephen Boyce | High weight: 250 in 2002 | Surgery weight: 203 | Lowest weight: 121 | Current weight: 135 | Goal weight: 135
I had to ask myself, "What would MOM have wanted me to do?"
Then I remembered she used to say, "Live your life so that you'll have no regrets... and I'm not talking about that trip to Hawaii you want."
Made my decision easier.
Big hugs and do whatever you've got to do to be at peace.
Swinging geckos in Arizona for ya, Lady Tazz!
Ruthie
Then I remembered she used to say, "Live your life so that you'll have no regrets... and I'm not talking about that trip to Hawaii you want."
Made my decision easier.
Big hugs and do whatever you've got to do to be at peace.
Swinging geckos in Arizona for ya, Lady Tazz!
Ruthie
LIFE'S a REACH... 
and then you FLY!!!
HW = 224, SW = 204, CW = 124, GW = 119
and then you FLY!!! HW = 224, SW = 204, CW = 124, GW = 119
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