Good Morning. How to compliment

How do you compliment folks you know who are losing weight and looking good? You know all the compliments you got or are getting...which ones are the ones that made you feel good about what you're doing and how you look?

One of the young ladies in my office that recently got laid off, stopped by the office and as I was passing her at the front desk, I said "looking good, Skinny".  She smiled and said "looking good yourself, Skinny". She was already losing before she got laid off and I complimented her then as well...can't remember what I said though. 

--gina

I have tried to remember TO say something to folks who have lost.  So often I notice but didn't mention it.  I know, especially early out, it meant so much for someone to notice.  I also try to remember to mention when someone has on an outfit that is really becoming.  As I get into new sizes and styles, I want feedback as to how it looks.  I'm assuming others do to.

I did have a funny one earlier in the week.  I went into a friends business where her late 20s son also works.  When I walked in he said "Wow Price, you are looking REALLY good.  Do you have plans for Friday night".  Certainly made my week.

I used to be the heaviest person in our circle of friends.  Every time I see someone who hasn't seen me in awhile, I get lovely (appreciated) compliments on my weight loss.  My friend that I walk with in the morning is now the heaviest woman in our circle of friends.  

I make it a habit to compliment her on her progress.  Sometimes it is about her gym attendance. Sometimes it is about her sticking with me in the morning.  Sometimes it is about her just looking good. Unfortunately, it is never about her diet. I just want to say, "learn from my mistakes.", but we each have to find our own path.

Even before WLS, I made it a point to say something nice to/about people who are making efforts to better themselves. 

If I don't know if they are trying to lose, I will say "You look smaller, have you lost weight?" Then, whether they say Yes or No, I say "well, you're looking good."

If I notice, I will tell them they are looking nice.  A lot of times, I don't notice things so it might be a while before I mentioned it to them unless they were a close friend and I knew that they were trying.
If it is someone that I know is really trying and exercising, I tend to pay more attention and compliment them more because I know how encouraging those compliments can be.
Linda

 I always tell people  when theyre looking  pretty  or just COOL  lol! 

This is a tricky one. I try to keep my comments non-weight related. I have quite a few heavy friends and co-workers and I don't want them to feel that I am watching their weight now that I've lost mine. I really try to keep my relationships from being about weight. Seems that if I mention weight, then they feel the need to mention mine and I just don't like attention for my weight loss.

I keep the compliments about something they are wearing, their hair, or just a day when they look happy and healthy.

I always appreciate a comment like "You look great!" which doesn't necessarily mean weight loss, could be a really rockin outfit or I just got my hair done or something.  Of course right now it's mostly WL-related.  But I feel like comments about weight loss can veer into the inappropriate if we're not careful, like the poster the other day who was venting about people telling her she was losing too MUCH weight.  WTF is that?  So I stay away from actual comments about weight loss and just compliment the person on looking good.  Always works!