Dating

OMGOSH!  I'm 58, been divorced for 4+ years and have gone out for coffee a few times with some guys. [Not ONE of them could have an intelligent conversation! Sigh]

So  I've been emailing a guy for several weeks and finally went out on a 'date' Saturday night. The good news is we went to a MN Orch concert which I love since I'm a violin teacher. The bad news is, this guy is at least 400#, can hardly move around, stuck in his life of inaction - not only re: his health, but his job, too. The funny thing is he wanted to get the 'two-fer' meal whi*****ludes appetizer, full meal, dessert etc for 2 people. I said I didn't eat very much so I wouldn't be able to eat my half of the meal. HIs response was "Don't you like food????" That really amused me!
 
I was absoluley crazy by the end of the evening. I'm not interested in getting re-married. It would just be nice to have a companion to go out to concerts, theater or dinner, though.

Good thing I'm very happy and content with my life and who I am.  I enjoy my solitude, I enjoy my friends and family and I'm grateful for all I've received. And I'm grateful I've lost, as of today, 70#!!!!

Any of you have funny dating stories??

Blessings,

Well... I've gained about 8 lbs since I've been seeing my guy - and he's a big boy too. 

You have to be careful with that - its easy to get sucked back into old eating habits/patterns when someone else eats like that, even if you have no intention to...  I still eat healthy, its my adult beverage imbibing that's getting me in trouble.  Plus - when I was alone, I ate WHEN I wanted to and what I wanted to, now when you are cohabitating with someone, meal time is a planned social event.  So I find I end up eating even though I'm not really hungry. 

I do have him eating low carb now, but it doesn't seem to be making a big difference.  He has lost a few lbs but nothing significant.

It would be great to find that perfect fit of someone that likes to go to concerts, theater, etc., but its also nice if they share the same kind of health ideals as you do.  Also gives you something else to talk about over dinner... 

Keep looking - he's out there somewhere!

Since I started dating my DH when I was 16 (he was my first car date) and we've been married almost 37 years I really don't have any dating stories, but I enjoy reading about everyone elses...

 

Long before the surgery, I went out with a lovely guy. He was a gifted musician, and he enjoyed going to shows and theatre. However, he was obese. I could handle that because he said he was working toward health. But then he ate way, way too much at dinner. I suspected that he wanted an eating partner. It just was not in the cards.

I saw him a couple of years later at a party. He had had the RNY and was looking good. However, he was eating a big piece of cake. I wish him the best, but I am still glad that I chose not to pursue the relationship!

Amy