Good Morning. Is there a happy medium?

Just thinking about how we, as formerly fat folks, can either go crazy socially or continue to hang back after we lose our weight. This came to light on the recent cruise I was on and they wanted the diners to get up and do one of those dance lines or snakes or whatever you call them when the folks form a snake and dance around the room. lol 

Do you continue to hold back or are you right in the middle of the action?  Do your previous coping mechanisms still come into play in the way you behave as you lose weight or after you have lost your weight? 

--gina
 

I don't think I was ever shy before.  I never hid but tended to be out and about.  I still am, just a lot quicker.  In terms of social stuff, I'm the same.  But if it required actual physical activity, I can do it, mostly, now and couldn't before.

I think I have just matured and don't need to be the center of attention that I used to. I think for me being noticed was habit because I was the baby and only girl in the family.  I pick and chose the situations that I am comfortable with.

I was talking to my husband about this the other day, I have never had an issue with talking to people and in fact, I have learned many life stories in the middle of grocery stores. For some reason I can get people to talk about themselves without even trying. Lately I have noticed that I am shying away from all of that, im not on the phone and even making sure I am NOT noticed and cant figure out why it is happening.
I forced myself into a soccer coach role to be with people, other than that, I stay to myself..... Is there something wrong with me?

 Thats  very interesting Stacey  and Gina .... I have noticed the same thing .   I used to draw people  out ALL the time  .. I don't know whether to distract myself ... or what ..  now I am actually  much more  inwards  focused and less attention seeking . 

NOT  a good thing necessarily for an actor  lol ! 

Even though  coming to terms with the  REALITY  of my life  sucks  sometimes  and  the process of changing it to something better sucks even more  when people  around me are resistant  and stubbornly digging in their heels .... I wouldn't trade  what I have now for what I had before on a BET  .. even for a  single minute .  

Still  there are scary moments .  

One thing  I  am more cognizant of is the passing of time  ...  I value my days so much more and RESENT their being  squandered  on trivialities and bickering  and  inefficient mess.   

Good morning...I'm finding that I am more physically active as it's easier as the weeks go by and my weight drops down. I'm finding that just getting up off the floor is easier or rolling out of the bed (with back surgery, that one is a doozy anyway).

But I am still basically the same as far as being on the sideline as far as action is concerned, it's just the actions I do now are far easier. :)

Liz

Good question.  I am taking more risks in terms of physical activity, like a belly dancing class.  I am still shy/shut down when it comes to male attention.  I tend to look at the floor when someone checks me out.  I have always been active socially - blessed with many wonderful friends - so that has not changed. 

Amy

I am definitely more social now that I feel so much better about myself. I have always been more introverted but love to party and have fun in groups where I feel comfortable. Even at my highest weight, my girlfriends and I loved to go out dancing. Now everything is comfortable to do...I'm not sweating, my feet don't kill me and I'm not out of breath.

I was in and out of moderate depression due to the weight and dealing with chronic back pain. That has not disappeared but it is much better :)

So I seem to be the same but just a more joyful healthy version.

I'm definitely more outgoing now that I've lost the weight.  I NEVER would have considered trying to take up acting in my fat suit.  :0)

I'm still more of a loner and not real social, though maybe a bit more social since losing weight.  But I don't my weight was the biggest issue for why I was withdrawn before surgery.  I think it's just my personality.