I want to eat a bagel SOOOO bad

I'm trying to hold out..but I am a carbaholic and I am so afraid that if I have one..then it will be okay to have another one..and so on and so forth..
I'm sure there are more of us here..how do you get rid of this desire..

On my plan 'm not really suppposed to have carbs at all but I occasionly have a bagel thin for breakfast.  And I always have a piece of Challah on Friday nights.
Janet

My plan doesn't allow any bread for at least 6 months.  I'll find out Monday if they allow it then.  On the times we have gone out and there has been really great crusty bread, I have taken a crust, stripped all the soft bread off and eaten the hard part.  Evidently there is something about bread gumming up in your stomach.  That was enough to stop me.  Can you have crackers yet?  I can have wheat thins but don't. They sounded better than they were so I just don't.  I have figured out I lose better with lower carbs and what is more carb than bread so oh well.  Mostly I think that if you know something is a target food for you, you may just have to ban it and not try it at all. I did that with ice cream then when I had a taste, I realized it wasn't as good as I thought it would be and haven't had any more. 
Good luck, follow your plan and your stomach.  You will figure out what works for you, I bet.

For me, I have to stop with the teenage mentality (I WANT THIS NOW, AND I DO NOT CARE ABOUT CONSQUENCES) and have a little grown up, think it through to the end.

I want a bagel.

Okay.  So eat it, then what happens.

**these are my answers, yours may be different!

Its delicious. Okay.  Then what. 

Well, If I do not just do the "well I have screwed up now, might as well shove my piehole full of everything I can", then I start to think about bagels a lot.  And ESPECIALLY if I have no *scale consequences* I might start to think that I can "get away" with just one all the time.

Just one? Why not have just one? 

Looka here, me.  I have had 44 YEARS of "tasting" and "just one" and if by now I have not learned to have JUST ONE then chances are, that is not my reality.  And it also means if I bought a bag of bagels, until they were gone I would be thinking about them and how I could fit them into my life.  And the truth about needing them gone is, if I am already in the throes of "it does not matter anyway" then HOW they are going to "get gone" is by virtue of the above mentioned piehole!

Why cannot I fit them into your life?  Because the fact that I have lost weight does not make a situation where I am immune to the things that I became attached to in the past.  Just because I lost weight does not mean I lost the triggers, or the vulnerability.

So, HOWEVER I get rid of them, I still have a situation where, I get to wear them AND have a monkey on my back for the next at least 3 days, while I try and get it out of my system, OR its going to lead to a situation where I spend a nice chunk of time undoing a lot of progress, all for my infantile "MUST PUT IN MOUTH...NOW" state of mind. 

For me, putting the "rules" of the 10 Thin Commandments, by Steven Gullo in place, I can "BLOCK IN" special foods for special times, so still have them in my life and not have to wear them.

Tortilla chips, for instance.  I have them out at social functions *once a month* or if we go out to eat for Mexican food (we do not go out to eat often).  I do not buy them for home unless we are having a function and I have blocked in that function for the chips (Unless there have been 30ish days between "functions" its not a month, February 28 and March 3, do not a month make, no matter what that chick in my head says!!) and if I buy it for home, that evening, before I go to bed, I have to DESTROY whatever trigger foods there are, put something nasty on them, dishwashing liquid laundry soap, comet, and put that trash out into the big trash so come morning, I do not have to have all that mental chatter about how I could "just this once nobody will know"

Because if I have to HIDE it, I do not need to be DOING it.

And honestly, nobody cares about my journey - just me! 

I would suggest getting the 10 Thin Commandments.  I do not advocate the diet part, its too carby, but his strategy is stronger than willpower strategies help me to learn to have "adult" conversations with me about what I *can* handle, and not what I *wish* I could handle.  Ya know?

Power to you girlie!!  YOu will lose the desire when the trail of destruction one taste of a trigger food leads to, if you do not have a strategy and safety rails on how to just have "some."

For me, abstinence alone is not helpful. I need abstinence and a strategy!

*squeeze*

You would have thought that by age 45, I wouldn't still be battling to make it out my teen years :-)
But, man, is it easier to not want a bagel if I just don't go there ... it's better if I don't make eye contact with them

I was at a conference where I forgot to bring my own snack so if I wanted to eat a morning snack, I had bagels and fruit to choose from.

I decided to have a bagel and cream cheese.  I ate just 1/4 of a bagel.  It was good, and it didn't trigger anything in me.  At least for right now, my body really craves the healthy stuff--meat, veggies, and fruit.  Maybe one of these days carbs will be a problem again, but I'm grateful that right now it's not a problem.

If you know that it is a trigger food, I suggest letting it go for now.
Amy

To answer some questions..
1. My doctor basically has told me to stay around 800 calories and 60 grams of Protein.
Not much more than that..

I think that along with being a carboholic.. the fact that I am in Lent and during Lent, I usually eat a lot of bread...that this is making it harder than normal.  I'm also baking for charity and it's hard to smell yummy food and not eat any of it..

Normally, not this time, I abstain from meat,fish,dairy,oil, this year, I'm abstaining from meat only so that I can actually have a chance of meeting my protein requirements without only drinking Protein shakes..which for some reason, I still don't love.. I drink a lot of water and love to eat food..so drinking my food..well it doesn't satisfy me too much.. I'm doing it, but definately I need to learn to eat food in order to get most of my requirements and then supplement as needed or I will fail. 

Right now, I have not eaten the bagel..I'm not planning to..but if worse comes to worse, I'll thank the Heavens that my RNY will only allow me to eat a teeny bit ...and I hope I don't dump all over creation..

Does is have to be a bagel?  

You can easily make flax meal "bread" in your microwave that is great toasted!  Lowish calorie, high protein, high fiber and low carb!  :0)   I put a fried egg and cheese on mine for a scrummy breakfast sandwich.

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