Have U guys ever felt depressed ?
Therapy is not just paying a friend to listen to you. I think many people think that's what it is, but it's not.
Here are just some of the ways it's different.
My therapist isn't my friend. Ideally, my therapist likes me *** I see a new therapist for the first time tomorrow, so I'll hope she likes me and hope I like her), but she's not my friend, not anymore than my doctor or dentist is my friend. I pay her to provide a service to me. That service includes listening, yeah, but other stuff as well.
But she's not my friend. She's gonna listen to me, but I am not gonna listen to her problems. With my friends, now, they listen to me and I listen to them to. It's a two-way relationship. But this is one way. It's all about me!
In addition to just listening - and don't discount the listening, you may have lots of friends, but how often do you get a whole hour to just talk about yourself and say anything you want with no fear of judgement or hurting their feelings or anything, and all the focus is just on you? - in addition to that, my therapist asks questions, and if she's good at her job, she asks good questions, that help me figure out things about myself.
Friends like to give advice, but a good therapist doesn't give much advice. If you ask her what you should do, she'll ask you some questions to help you sort out for yourself what you should do. See the difference?
She should also be able to teach you things, like new ways to deal with stress. She should know stuff about stress and self esteem and communication and depression and anxiety and so on that your friends may not know, just like your dietician should know stuff about food and your dentist should know stuff about teeth that your friends may not know, either.
Kelly
Here are just some of the ways it's different.
My therapist isn't my friend. Ideally, my therapist likes me *** I see a new therapist for the first time tomorrow, so I'll hope she likes me and hope I like her), but she's not my friend, not anymore than my doctor or dentist is my friend. I pay her to provide a service to me. That service includes listening, yeah, but other stuff as well.
But she's not my friend. She's gonna listen to me, but I am not gonna listen to her problems. With my friends, now, they listen to me and I listen to them to. It's a two-way relationship. But this is one way. It's all about me!
In addition to just listening - and don't discount the listening, you may have lots of friends, but how often do you get a whole hour to just talk about yourself and say anything you want with no fear of judgement or hurting their feelings or anything, and all the focus is just on you? - in addition to that, my therapist asks questions, and if she's good at her job, she asks good questions, that help me figure out things about myself.
Friends like to give advice, but a good therapist doesn't give much advice. If you ask her what you should do, she'll ask you some questions to help you sort out for yourself what you should do. See the difference?
She should also be able to teach you things, like new ways to deal with stress. She should know stuff about stress and self esteem and communication and depression and anxiety and so on that your friends may not know, just like your dietician should know stuff about food and your dentist should know stuff about teeth that your friends may not know, either.
Kelly
Depression is tough, especially, when we don't have our former method of coping with emotional turmoil: FOOD. We all need to learn alternative ways to cope with our emotions. It is definitely a journey. We can't numb ourselves, like we could before WLS. This may be why, transfer addiction after WLS is so common.
Hope your intake went well!!!
Gail
Hope your intake went well!!!
Gail
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