Have U guys ever felt depressed ?
The extra fiber that you are getting from the veggies and beans are probably helping with the constipation issue. I wonder, if your problems with diarrhea and other GI sxs were possible lactose intolerance? It might explain why the whey didn't work out for you.
How many calories/day are you getting? Are you logging your food and keeping track of your protein and carbs? Sounds like you are. Interesting that this is working for you. Carbs may not be the dreaded enemy for some of us.
How many calories/day are you getting? Are you logging your food and keeping track of your protein and carbs? Sounds like you are. Interesting that this is working for you. Carbs may not be the dreaded enemy for some of us.
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That's exactly what I was thinking because yesterday I tried another whey shake and wanted to die! I'm logging everything.... it's like an experiment. I'm trying to get under 1000 calories a day, aiming for about 900, but yesterday I got about 1200. I was only getting about 700 calories before. I've also stopped the stool softener and PPI I was taking daily with no issues.
YES to the depression, although not so much with my WLS.
Prior to that, yes, I had issues. And I did go to therapy for a while, which (once I found the right therapist for me) was useful. But then it reached a point where I needed to, as DH says, **** or get off the pot, so I stopped the therapy and worked on keeping my head together.
About a year later, I decided I was together enough to manage a WLS journey, and started here. I know that without the understanding I gained about my methods of hiding and stuffing emotions from therapy, I would not have done as well as I have.
Once you find the right therapist, it's not like paying a friend to listen to you. It's more like the reasonable voice in your head helping you figure out why you're listening to the insane shrieking voice in your head instead. Or at least it was that way for me.
I did choose to find a woman who specialized in addictions treatment because previous forays into my head had convinced me that I was retreating into food, and that something to break the psychological addiction was needed. And, I think it really helped. Your situation may be different. But give it a couple tries to see if you can find someone to be that voice of reason. It really can help.
Prior to that, yes, I had issues. And I did go to therapy for a while, which (once I found the right therapist for me) was useful. But then it reached a point where I needed to, as DH says, **** or get off the pot, so I stopped the therapy and worked on keeping my head together.
About a year later, I decided I was together enough to manage a WLS journey, and started here. I know that without the understanding I gained about my methods of hiding and stuffing emotions from therapy, I would not have done as well as I have.
Once you find the right therapist, it's not like paying a friend to listen to you. It's more like the reasonable voice in your head helping you figure out why you're listening to the insane shrieking voice in your head instead. Or at least it was that way for me.
I did choose to find a woman who specialized in addictions treatment because previous forays into my head had convinced me that I was retreating into food, and that something to break the psychological addiction was needed. And, I think it really helped. Your situation may be different. But give it a couple tries to see if you can find someone to be that voice of reason. It really can help.
Rebecca
Circumferential LBL, anchor TT, BL/BR, brachioplasty 12-16-10 Drs. Howard and Gutowski
Thigh lift 3-24-11, Drs. Howard and Gutowski again!
Height 5' 5". Start point 254. DH's goal: 154. My guess: 144. Insurance goal: 134. Currently bouncing around 130-135.
Circumferential LBL, anchor TT, BL/BR, brachioplasty 12-16-10 Drs. Howard and Gutowski
Thigh lift 3-24-11, Drs. Howard and Gutowski again!
Height 5' 5". Start point 254. DH's goal: 154. My guess: 144. Insurance goal: 134. Currently bouncing around 130-135. 
(((((Ava)))))
You'll do great - whenever and however you start.
You'll do great - whenever and however you start.
Rebecca
Circumferential LBL, anchor TT, BL/BR, brachioplasty 12-16-10 Drs. Howard and Gutowski
Thigh lift 3-24-11, Drs. Howard and Gutowski again!
Height 5' 5". Start point 254. DH's goal: 154. My guess: 144. Insurance goal: 134. Currently bouncing around 130-135.
Circumferential LBL, anchor TT, BL/BR, brachioplasty 12-16-10 Drs. Howard and Gutowski
Thigh lift 3-24-11, Drs. Howard and Gutowski again!
Height 5' 5". Start point 254. DH's goal: 154. My guess: 144. Insurance goal: 134. Currently bouncing around 130-135. 
I've had several therapists over the years and learned something from each one. But several years ago I found a fabulous one who helped me in more ways than I can count. I know I wouldn't have lost weight, or gotten married or even gotten past feeling almost suicidal at times if I hadn't had the therapy.
If you find the right therapist it can change your life--in very positive ways.
Janet
If you find the right therapist it can change your life--in very positive ways.
Janet
Therapy can help a lot!
It helped me tremendously years ago and I would go again if needed to deal with post surgery issues, depression, etc.
Give it a try! If you find the right person you will be amazed at the support and the progress you can make.
Good luck! That first call is the hardest to make!
It helped me tremendously years ago and I would go again if needed to deal with post surgery issues, depression, etc.
Give it a try! If you find the right person you will be amazed at the support and the progress you can make.
Good luck! That first call is the hardest to make!
HW/232 CW/145.2 GW/???
I have an appt next month. I am dealing with not only losing the food as a coping mechanism but smoking and just about everything else. My problem is that I have been very closed off for a while, totally out of touch with my feelings and not wanting to talk about them or anything else.
I'll let you know how it goes.
I'll let you know how it goes.
I could not have gotten surgery and been as successful as I am without therapy. I knew if I didn't get help, I would keep retreating and be more depressed and unhealthy year by year.
You need to find someone you relate to, but it is not like a friend. There is a reason for all the boundaries in a therapy relationship. It keeps it clear and focused on your issues. It will be all about you. It will be safe for you to share anything.
I have had bouts of depression all my life. Therapy has not "cured" me, but given me coping skills to recognize when I am going off the rails again. This time I had to be clear that surgery was what I wanted and needed and that I could deal with the loss of food as my numbing drug.
I think from your posts that you are totally engaged with life and want to be the best person you can be. Therapy can help you focus your wonderful energy in the most positive way for you.
You need to find someone you relate to, but it is not like a friend. There is a reason for all the boundaries in a therapy relationship. It keeps it clear and focused on your issues. It will be all about you. It will be safe for you to share anything.
I have had bouts of depression all my life. Therapy has not "cured" me, but given me coping skills to recognize when I am going off the rails again. This time I had to be clear that surgery was what I wanted and needed and that I could deal with the loss of food as my numbing drug.
I think from your posts that you are totally engaged with life and want to be the best person you can be. Therapy can help you focus your wonderful energy in the most positive way for you.
Wendy
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